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Old 04-18-2011, 01:31 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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My family and close friends know about my SA. So over the weekend I was in a bookshop at a poetry reading event thing and had to sit in the front which I hate I feel very aware and self conscious in the front because everyone can see me as opposed to the back. Anyway so my mom was there sitting behind me and said after that she was watching me knowing I would have anxiety (and I did- a lot) and said she didnt notice and that I was breathing fine and looked calm and collected when in reality my mind was racing and it was a conscious effort on my part the entire hour to look calm and remember to breathe lol.

Do you think anybody even notices when we have anxiety or anxiety attacks or is it just completely all in our heads? I know for me its more in my head and I feel like everyone is noticing but in reality they prob arent..
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I try to hide it to the outside world as much as possible.The sad truth is that people avoid people with SA,instead of helping them.I know it sucks.Thats just me,but for the more serious cases of SA,people may blush,sweat,sneeze and people see that something isn't exactly right with you.
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Old 04-18-2011, 01:37 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I honestly don't know and would rather not know. I try to stay away from comparing what I think of myself to what others think of me because I know I'm not rational enough to do it and I'm way too analytical
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when im having a full blown panic attack i manage to look as calm as a clam
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In a lot of ways, I wish ppl did.
If ppl around here knew about SA and had at least a little understanding of what's going on with me, I think I'd feel a bit better about things. For now I'm just viewed as stuck-up, psycho or just lame
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yes I don't have sa. Or dp/dr anymore(anger issues got rid of it) and I can say that it's actually pretty obvious that something is wrong. When you don't have sa, you don't worry about where you are and who you are with, and that shows on your person. That's why people with sa feel like they are targeted. People arnt friendly if they see your bothered by them, they see it as weakness.
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Of course they notice, sometimes my physical SA symptoms are so bad.
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I dont know if any one notice if i am in shop for longer then 5mins i start to sweat real bad 10 or more min i start to shake i had to go to the mall 2 month ago to get some clothes for work by the time i got to my car i had to sit there for a few mins to claim down so i stay from shops only thing i can go in to is to pay for my petrol in my car but when i was learning to drive i would make mum or dad fill it up and pay for it
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Oh they notice. They ask. I just tell them it has nothing to o
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Oh they notice. They ask. I just tell them it has nothing to do with them. And it doesnt. My life is none of there business.

My family know, and my close friends know. I regret telling them.
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Most of my physical symptoms are internal. I get my heart racing, stomach problems, and sometimes dizziness. I also get sweating and sometimes I feel cold.
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Oh they notice. They ask. I just tell them it has nothing to do with them. And it doesnt. My life is none of there business.

My family know, and my close friends know. I regret telling them.
why regret?
:s i wish my parents understood more about it
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It depends, I guess. I just feel awkward. I guess people might pick up the fact that you're feeling self-concious by your posture but unless it's really bad they're unlikely to notice your hands shaking etc.
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I always wonder why people bother asking when they already have a perceived answer to their question and won't accept anything else.
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It's usually misinterpreted for a plethora of other things.
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I dunno if they actually think that I have anxiety or might just think I'm unfriendly or something.
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I dont think they expect that i have anxiety, i think people assume that i'm weird because i look tense all the time and i constantly look awkward. i've gotten asked why i always look so scared a few times
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It's usually misinterpreted for a plethora of other things.
Very true!

If they are noticing anything at all, they are probably assuming something other than 'anxiety'
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Old 10-04-2012, 11:30 PM   #18 (permalink)
 
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It depends. On the one hand - like Aly mentioned above - our tense/awkward body language or facial expression might be a giveaway. On the other hand, anxiety often feels a hundred times worse on the inside than it looks on the outside, so other people might just think we look uncomfortable or maybe even normal.

Does your mom ever patronize you, or is she always candid/honest? I can imagine a mother not wanting to tell her daughter the unvarnished truth - not just to spare her feelings but also because it might worsen her SA.
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I have tried looking at myself in the mirror when I am feeling anxious, and I am always surprised by how un-anxious I look.

Do I look happy as Larry, and on top of the world? No, but I don't look scared or anxious. I am unsmiling, but I don't look nervous.

People have told me before I look pissed off and bored when I am actually feeling anxious.
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I will feel very awkward but i will won't show it depending on the situation
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