Do I have a S A problem or is this normal nowadays?

[cocoa08]

Hi,
Normally I do not have a problem making new friends. In the last 2 years I have moved a lot for my career, especially to bigger cities. It's been harder for me to make friends. I will talk about 2 situations that have caused me a lot of anxiety and depression lately.

1.) I took an internship 2 years ago and it was highly demanding. I was doing very well at first however I noticed the trainers being very hard on me, excluding me and very rude. I always felt as though they were judging me negatively and never received any positive feedback from them. Also, they would avoid talking to me as in making general conversation. I felt the way they were treating me was bad and unprofessional. When talking to the director of operations, she supported the trainers and said anything that was happening was my fault. I knew that was not the case bc I had no control over what was happening. I quit the internship but to this day...I have problems talking to people in authority as well as trusting coworkers. I feel as though some people are being hypocrits and judging over little things.

2.) My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I feel as though his friends are judging me / don't like me. I get this feeling b/c they interrupt me, change subjects and some of them are rude to me. Sometimes they
exclude me or us from activities and then we here about these activities later. Also, one of the guys has a girlfriend and when she arrives for events
, all the friends give her hugs and are so happy to see her. I have no problem with her except in the past I have tried to conversate with her and
she would rather talk to other people. I got really upset last weekend while attending my bf's friend's wedding bc I was often tried to talk with people and I feel rejected bc people did not want to make conversation. I felt alone,
embarressed, hurt, sad and lots of anxiety from the weekend.

Is it me? Do I have an SA? OR Is this normal in society? Is it normal not make friends as easily in bigger cities?

I have decided not to hang out with my bf's friends on a regular basis now
because I don't want to feel this way and don't deserve it.

I am tired of treating me like I am stupid and not worth talking to, what can I do???
Is there something that my boyfriend should do to help?

Please help.

[sanspants08]

^Typically, if a person has an SA problem, they have it in the presence of everyone but their closest family, friends, or significant other. If you feel anxious or "keyed-up" while in the presence of most people, and not just in these specific instances, then you may have an SA problem. Otherwise, well, I think it's natural to be unhappy if you feel as though others are intentionally rejecting you, especially when they're close to your significant other.

Unfortunately, they may just be jerks. I think talking to your boyfriend about it is a good way to start. It sounds as though you see that bonding with these people would be good for all involved, since everyone holds your boyfriend in high regard, and you have that in common. You may know that instinctively in a way they just don't understand.

[softconcrete]

coulda just had a bad week and feelings hurt. i guess everyone can feel that way when they deal with rude people. but i guess if it continues for a long time you could have it