Social Anxiety Support

ThatOneWeirdGuy · 06-25-2012, 05:10 PM

I'd say the minority of people on here are teens. Mostly people in their twenties. I'm not. So, what would you have done differently if you could go back to high school? What was high school like for you?

InfiniteBlaze · 06-25-2012, 05:10 PM

They sucked.

BobtheBest · 06-25-2012, 05:11 PM

Lame.

ThatOneWeirdGuy · 06-25-2012, 05:11 PM

That was kind of given. ^_^

kehcorpz · 06-25-2012, 05:17 PM

High school was homework, video games, eat and sleep and the occasional partying. What I would have done different? I would have put video games before homework. I'd probably have a better Diablo 3 character if I put in much dedication to honing my skills.

Xtraneous · 06-25-2012, 05:18 PM

Wasted.

I probably would have shown up most of the time. Actually tried. Been nice to friends/students/teachers & the principal, lol.

Maybe, idk. Either way, **** school.

Durzo · 06-25-2012, 05:18 PM

They weren't anything to complain about too much, overall pretty fun

It was me who caused most of the problems for myself.

NoIce · 06-25-2012, 05:23 PM

Woa, what are all these new; oh ok I guess I'll come out and hang out by the river (Woohoo!)

Time has no weight where we live, we will be young forever!
Everything is new, fresh, and full of vivid feeling.

Ouch.. Ouch!
OUCHHHHHHH!

...........
.........
.......
.....
...
..
.
Where was I again?
What am I doing?

I guess I'll stay here for a while.

Whoops.

Sierpinski · 06-25-2012, 05:24 PM

I was subjected to constant ridicule at home from my father, who did not allow me to socialize in any way. At school, I was subject to severe homophobic bullying that included death threats. The teachers knew about this and didn't care. It eased off a little bit in my sophomore year of high school, but I remained very afraid of other students through high school. In college, I felt frightened and disoriented because I was so unaccustomed to socializing and didn't know how to do it. My psychotherapist, for some bizarre reason, thought I was schizophrenic and referred me to a psychiatrist who diagnosed and treated me for schizophrenia but without telling me -- and hence without my consent. This was when I was 18. The medication I was placed on relieved nothing and caused hallucinations and derealizations, symptoms which I did not have before. Years later, I acquired the psychiatric case notes and learned that the psychiatrist considered my reports of homophobic bullying to be paranoid delusions. In addition to the psychiatric abuse, my dormmates were very homophobic and one spoke openly about how I should be killed. Others taunted me, and I was basically thrown out of my dorm for no valid reason, having to move into another one. Years later, when I figured out the psychiatric diagnosis, I filed complaints with medical boards, associations, etc., all to no avail. I was very isolated as a teen, frequently abused, tricked into ingesting poison by mental health professionals. Now I am 47 and have no social skills whatsoever. I really don't know what to do. I guess now my only ambition is to transition to death in a relatively painless and dignified manner. Probably, I won't succeed.

Blackguy · 06-25-2012, 05:35 PM

Mute

fire mage64 · 06-25-2012, 05:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Durzo

It was me who caused most of the problems for myself.

This

roseblood · 06-25-2012, 05:57 PM

I would still be considered a teenager, but i'll answer anyway. They were bad, real bad.

tehuti88 · 06-25-2012, 06:24 PM

I actually had a few friends in high school. Not best friends, but any friends are better than none. My high school experience wasn't great but it wasn't horrific, it just was. It was a sort of intermediary step on my downward slide.

I can't think of anything I could've possibly changed about high school that would've made things end up better now, because my problems started after elementary school and were beyond my control. Basically people stopped thinking that what I cared about was cool or of any interest, so they moved on and I didn't. I. e., people started thinking I was a dork or was too boring. Short of faking who I'm not, which I could never do even if I wanted to, or of having ended my life back then (which I wasn't so poorly off to consider just yet), there was nothing I could've done to change the experience to anything more positive than it was.

After graduating college I had no more social contacts whatsoever. Every sorta-friend had moved away or lost interest by then.

Midna · 06-25-2012, 06:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ThatOneWeirdGuy

So, what would you have done differently if you could go back to high school?

I would have went.

Neptunus · 06-25-2012, 06:49 PM

Turbulent.

mdiada · 06-25-2012, 06:52 PM

High school was ridiculous. I had no friends, no one to talk to, no plans, no job, no license, just homework and sleep. All day every day. It just sucked so bad.

Xenos · 06-25-2012, 07:10 PM

I spent high school dealing with PTSD from middle school.

Silentious · 06-25-2012, 07:33 PM

They were terrible, especially years 13-15

Tom90 · 06-25-2012, 09:53 PM

Im still a teen and have no life. My anxiety stops me from playing any sports like a normal teen. I cant have a normal convo with a girl. For the first time in my life this year a girl i was actually interested in was interested in me too. I blew all my chances by not making any moves. I cant act normal in a social situation. I havent stepped in the mall in 5 years. I always wait in the car when we go shopping in the heat and the cold. I dont have any friends. I moved around alot and im always new.

This is life.

GroupHug · 06-25-2012, 09:54 PM

Awkward. Really, really awkward. And lonely. Also, sad.

06-25-2012, 05:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
ThatOneWeirdGuy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Ohio, USA Gender: Male Posts: 209	Describe your teenage years I'd say the minority of people on here are teens. Mostly people in their twenties. I'm not. So, what would you have done differently if you could go back to high school? What was high school like for you?

06-25-2012, 05:17 PM	#5 (permalink)
kehcorpz Status: Cheesus Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: ontario Gender: Male Posts: 2,477	High school was homework, video games, eat and sleep and the occasional partying. What I would have done different? I would have put video games before homework. I'd probably have a better Diablo 3 character if I put in much dedication to honing my skills. __________________ --------------------------------------------------------- Current Meds: 375mg Effexor, olanzapine 5mg, propranolol 10mg

06-25-2012, 05:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
Durzo Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: UK Gender: Male Posts: 966	They weren't anything to complain about too much, overall pretty fun It was me who caused most of the problems for myself. __________________ Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

06-25-2012, 05:23 PM	#8 (permalink)
NoIce Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Ireland Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 644	Woa, what are all these new; oh ok I guess I'll come out and hang out by the river (Woohoo!) Time has no weight where we live, we will be young forever! Everything is new, fresh, and full of vivid feeling. Ouch.. Ouch! OUCHHHHHHH! ........... ......... ....... ..... ... .. . Where was I again? What am I doing? I guess I'll stay here for a while. Whoops. __________________ *3 days ago* I like long walks on the beaches, and strawberries and peaches.

06-25-2012, 05:57 PM	#12 (permalink)
roseblood Status: It will be sunny one day Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Southern California Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 433	I would still be considered a teenager, but i'll answer anyway. They were bad, real bad. __________________ “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” —Mother Teresa

06-25-2012, 05:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
InfiniteBlaze Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 8,449	They sucked.

06-25-2012, 05:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
BobtheBest Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: You have to do better. Posts: 4,684	Lame.

06-25-2012, 05:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
ThatOneWeirdGuy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Ohio, USA Gender: Male Posts: 209	That was kind of given. ^_^

06-25-2012, 05:18 PM	#6 (permalink)
Xtraneous Status: Extremophile Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Posts: 2,497	Wasted. I probably would have shown up most of the time. Actually tried. Been nice to friends/students/teachers & the principal, lol. Maybe, idk. Either way, **** school.

06-25-2012, 05:24 PM	#9 (permalink)
Sierpinski Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 576	I was subjected to constant ridicule at home from my father, who did not allow me to socialize in any way. At school, I was subject to severe homophobic bullying that included death threats. The teachers knew about this and didn't care. It eased off a little bit in my sophomore year of high school, but I remained very afraid of other students through high school. In college, I felt frightened and disoriented because I was so unaccustomed to socializing and didn't know how to do it. My psychotherapist, for some bizarre reason, thought I was schizophrenic and referred me to a psychiatrist who diagnosed and treated me for schizophrenia but without telling me -- and hence without my consent. This was when I was 18. The medication I was placed on relieved nothing and caused hallucinations and derealizations, symptoms which I did not have before. Years later, I acquired the psychiatric case notes and learned that the psychiatrist considered my reports of homophobic bullying to be paranoid delusions. In addition to the psychiatric abuse, my dormmates were very homophobic and one spoke openly about how I should be killed. Others taunted me, and I was basically thrown out of my dorm for no valid reason, having to move into another one. Years later, when I figured out the psychiatric diagnosis, I filed complaints with medical boards, associations, etc., all to no avail. I was very isolated as a teen, frequently abused, tricked into ingesting poison by mental health professionals. Now I am 47 and have no social skills whatsoever. I really don't know what to do. I guess now my only ambition is to transition to death in a relatively painless and dignified manner. Probably, I won't succeed.

06-25-2012, 05:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
Blackguy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Georgia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 114	Mute

06-25-2012, 06:24 PM	#13 (permalink)
tehuti88 Status: Mackinac Island Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 10,385	I actually had a few friends in high school. Not best friends, but any friends are better than none. My high school experience wasn't great but it wasn't horrific, it just was. It was a sort of intermediary step on my downward slide. I can't think of anything I could've possibly changed about high school that would've made things end up better now, because my problems started after elementary school and were beyond my control. Basically people stopped thinking that what I cared about was cool or of any interest, so they moved on and I didn't. I. e., people started thinking I was a dork or was too boring. Short of faking who I'm not, which I could never do even if I wanted to, or of having ended my life back then (which I wasn't so poorly off to consider just yet), there was nothing I could've done to change the experience to anything more positive than it was. After graduating college I had no more social contacts whatsoever. Every sorta-friend had moved away or lost interest by then. __________________ If I don't reply to you, it's NOTHING PERSONAL. It's my ANXIETY. * (Devetko's boyfriend Stan Brooks & Det. Reichert are horsing around.) Det. Kristeva: "If it were legal you'd marry me, right?" Det. Devetko: "Definitely." * "No canoes...no maple sugar...this place is horribly uncivilized."--Manabozho, Escape From Manitou Island *** Graphic tees and denim, denim, denim...denim...backpacks! "Don't overthink the metaphor, Cartwright!"

06-25-2012, 06:49 PM	#15 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Navigating a sea of emotions Gender: Female Posts: 19,632	Turbulent.

06-25-2012, 06:52 PM	#16 (permalink)
mdiada Status: gigglebox Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: kentucky Gender: Female Posts: 898	High school was ridiculous. I had no friends, no one to talk to, no plans, no job, no license, just homework and sleep. All day every day. It just sucked so bad.

06-25-2012, 07:10 PM	#17 (permalink)
Xenos Status: puny mortal Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: NoCal, USA Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 748	I spent high school dealing with PTSD from middle school.

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Tom90 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 694	Im still a teen and have no life. My anxiety stops me from playing any sports like a normal teen. I cant have a normal convo with a girl. For the first time in my life this year a girl i was actually interested in was interested in me too. I blew all my chances by not making any moves. I cant act normal in a social situation. I havent stepped in the mall in 5 years. I always wait in the car when we go shopping in the heat and the cold. I dont have any friends. I moved around alot and im always new. This is life.

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GroupHug Status: calmness that will last Join Date: Jan 2012 Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 271	Awkward. Really, really awkward. And lonely. Also, sad. __________________ "Find the others." For discouraged beginners - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BI23U7U2aUY