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Old 03-10-2011, 01:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Does anyone else have this problem where they go through life not feeling much in terms of emotion? There are times where I can genuinely laugh when someone tells a joke, but those moments are short lived.

When I receive a present, I am grateful, somewhat, but not as grateful as I should be. When I get a compliment, I accept it but I inside I shrug it off and don't think much of it. I know what I should feel, but I don't feel it. It's hard to explain but it's like I'm desensitized to emotions – like I don't care about life.

In fact the only emotions I can feel with certitude are sadness and those brief moments of happiness. I like to listen to sad music not really because I'm depressed per se (maybe I am), but because it's the only emotion that I can feel for an extended period of time.

Sometimes I have a blank look on my face and people ask me what I'm thinking about. In reality, I'm actually not thinking of anything at all. I want to get back the passion for life and have some spontaneity.

Does anyone else have this? Is this part of SA or depression?
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Old 03-10-2011, 01:52 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Anxiety in itself is an emotion is it not?
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Maybe you have Depersonalization Disorder.
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Old 03-10-2011, 04:29 PM   #4 (permalink)
 
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Not really.

I think it's kind of funny though in movie theaters or watching movies when there's a part that makes everyone jump. I literally have no reaction. It may startle me but I don't make a flinch. It's kind of funny cause I'm a pretty monotone guy.
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Old 06-08-2011, 05:11 AM   #5 (permalink)
 
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No I totally get what you're talking about, lately it's like all I feel is anxiety and depression with very few moments of real happiness. I feel like there's a shield or something, like in a situation where something bad has happened, I know I should feel sad, I think I do most of the time, but it doesn't feel real, it almost feels forced and it's very distressing. I just want to know what happened to my emotions. I think it's fairly common though, like it's a coping mechanism of some sort.
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I'm exactly in the same situation. Have no motivation about life, future. Nothing can make me really happy. This is because we're not interested in the physical aspects of life, like money etc. We're after something which will never ever happen. I don't know what it is exactly but there is no ultimate happiness in this world. I don't how people can enjoy the life that much.
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^^bingo...i feel very shell-shocked....my entire life ive always felt that what i want and truly need doesnt exist..material things and all that other nonsense isnt for me..

my motivation is also in the gutter, i work and do household things but thats it basically..
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Yes, I've felt like that most of my life. It took me a while to realize I was never really enjoying life like the people around me. I think it's somewhat related to SA, since social occasions, while being a great mood enhancer for most people, are a source of negative emotions for us with SA, so we tend to avoid them and miss out on the pleasure that potentially comes with socializing. The quality of relationships impacts the overall quality of life to a great extent.
That being said, not everyone with SA feels this kind of emotional numbness, so of course many other factors come into play. Some people are definitely predisposed to depression, no matter what their social lives look like.
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Old 06-08-2011, 08:45 AM   #9 (permalink)
 
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I have had trouble with feeling emotions my entire life. My parents told me even as a kid I didn't show a lot of emotion. Growing up I would just copy the emotions of the people around me to appear normal. Even when copying people I wouldn't even know what emotion I was copying. I do sometimes have emotions of my own but a lot of times they feel wrong. Sometimes I know they are wrong. I have had to learn from observation mostly what the right emotional response is to situations. Most of the time I can get the right emotion but I still have trouble with degrees of emotions. If something makes me happy or sad or whatever I don't know how happy or sad I should be. For the most part I have given up on learning anymore I just copy what others are feeling or I just feel nothing. When I do get emotions of my own I just shut them down and try to stay at feeling nothing. Anxiety gets me every time though. I just don't understand it enough to control it. I am the only one I know that has anxiety problems so I don't have anyone to observe to learn about it.
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I'm very similar. For the most part I've shut down many of the emotions because when I feel them I get overwhelmed. Typically when there is an expectation for me to have an emotion, like when all eyes are on me, I completely shutdown and try not to react.

As for happiness, and sadness, I consider these relative terms. For the most part I'm happy. Not much can get me down because I've seen the bottom, I know what it's like, and really most things that make people sad aren't that bad. Everything is relative to your own experiences as far as your feelings go.

What makes me happy is setting goals and accomplishing them. The sense of accomplishment and pride is unmatched. Especially when the task is challenging.

Also, I LOVE making a one-on-one connection with someone else. These are so rare in today's world and I find true joy in listening to someone open up and opening up myself. This isn't for everyone, but for me it really means A LOT.

I do have an issue expressing my emotions to others though. I would love to let someone know how much I love them, or enjoy their company. However, when the time comes the words get lost in a rush of thoughts and doubts and never reach my mouth.
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I felt that way when I was taking antidepressents in high school - the problem I think was that they decided it was depression and gave me medicine when it was really social anxiety that caused my depression - although I never was able to realize this until the last couple years. It probably wasn't a chemical imbalance that caused my depression, it was the social anxiety that caused it, so by taking antidepressents instead of leveling out the chemicals it threw them all off. That's just what I've gathered from my own self searching.
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Welcome to my world "Medicated" But meds helped me alot. Cant complain. Meds saved my life. I stopped Seroquel and my emotions are returning in a healthy way.
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Thats a long term effect of depression and anxiety. You get sick of all the bad feelings and anxiety so your body just shuts the emotions down as a defense mechanism
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i usually feel emotionless when i'm in my depression/dark moods.
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I would like to say a few things to all the people who have said that they feel few emotions. 'Normal' human emotion is not true emotion, it is a conditioned response. Real love begins where normal emotion ends. So if you don't feel normal you may just be more real than normal. It's amazing how many truly good people think there is something wrong with them. An emotional person is an unstable person, sometimes to the point of being dangerous. All emotion comes from the past and in truth there is no past. As a person starts to become more real, or is born more real, they experience life in ways which normal people don't. The thing is not to doubt myself just because I'm different. Just be what you are and don't create a problem of that. What other people think of me is none of my business. My business is enjoying this miracle called life.
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Im 15 and i feel the exact same. Everday im neither happy nor sad but do experience the bad feelings. I wreck my brain to find what im thinkin wen im depressed but thers nothing. Emptyness, and im just soo confused. Im seeing a therapist but at the end of the day nothing has changed. I feel like im just in complete shutdown mode with no hope
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