11-03-2012, 02:28 PM
Status: Mackinac Island Fanatic
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: At the bottom of a lake (Michigan)
Yes, this is one reason I have only one friend at the moment. Most people, even those who share my interests, just aren't into chattering about them for fun. Go figure I'm interested in stuff that nobody else much cares for.
It seems the only people who ever show interest in communicating with me aren't remotely interested in my interests, so of course, we end up with nothing to chatter about! Then it gets really awkward because I get bored of communicating and can think of nothing to say, it's just so tedious to keep it up. And the other party usually gets offended or hurt.
I've tried hard but I just don't have much incentive or energy to keep up communication with somebody if we have NOTHING major in common, in regards to personal interests. I've had people express anger that I don't "give them a chance," but really, what is there for us to talk about...? I get tired of random smalltalk; I want somebody I can share my interests with, without feeling like I'm boring or confusing them. And I want them to express their shared interests in return. Back and forth. Both of us passionate about the same things.
I'm lucky to have a friend at the moment, though I feel I have to be careful not to overwhelm her with my interests and such. The last time I had a friend with all my interests in common was around 1990. (She moved away and lost all interest in keeping in touch.)
If I don't reply to you, it's NOTHING PERSONAL. It's my ANXIETY.
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