Oh, wow! I didn't think I'd get so many replies!
The trick for me that helped along with it was definitely not fully planning out what happens. Think about doing whatever it is you're about to do, and don't think any further. Don't think about turnouts, don't think about "What if this goes wrong".
I see. That's a strange concept for me. The idea of not planning everything thing out scares me! Though, you are probably right. It's just something I will just need to practice and get used to.
Haha. I suppose that might do it! XD I'm not really a drinker though.
Ive learned that preparing often is pointless. 99 times out of 100 things will always be different than you anticipated
You're right. It usually doesn't go how it's supposed to. It still doesn't change us from worrying about it.
What was your family situation/upbringing like BT?
Both of my parents are sort of the overprotective, controlling type, or at least they were when I was younger. I think I might get this from my dad, since whenever we'd go on vacation, or anywhere for that matter, everything was planned to a T. I just got so used to everything being planned out growing up, It just feels awkward or nerve-racking for it to be different.
Both of them are very Type A people, so they don't ever seem to relax much. It's always work, work, plan, plan, work, etc. Time is a very important thing, and they always nag at me if I'm not doing something "right this moment" even if it doesn't pertain to them. It also doesn't help that I'm a procrastinator.
On the one hand, this helps me accomplish my goals a lot easier than the average person, because I stay extremely focused on things until they get finished, when they are important to me...
That's good that it can be also a positive thing for you. I wish I had the motivation to be like that! I know how you feel though, I have a hard time understanding people who can just be so spontaneous. Most of my friends are practically 100% that way, so when we went on a mini trip together, they drove me nuts! They did what I considered to be nothing, yet they seemed to have had so much more fun then me. It's such a hard thing to understand.
Do you say "no" a lot?
I'll admit, if I don't want to do it, my a mediate reaction is no. It's hard for me to say "yes" to new things. Perhaps I should try that more, although it will be hard. I don't think I'll say "yes" to everything, because there are somethings I personally would never want to do, but if it's just simple things that aren't life threatening, perhaps I can try.
Thanks everyone for your comments, questions, and advice. It made me think a lot about things and gave me some ideas of things to try!