I can not deny that we - humans are very social animals. We are a specie which live in packs/herds and that's how nature - I guess wants us to be and remain.
However, sometimes it can be too much. Socializing like being a drug addict and spending waaay too much time with others can as well be unhealthy
Of those who read my first starting thread post all the way to the top - if I didn't make anything unclear, I think I maybe pointed out that being alone is always healthy, always
Why? Well, being alone isn't just about recharging and getting your thoughts together, but it's an difficult art that everyone should
master. Being alone is much harder then being with people. You are all dependent on yourself. Being with people and in groups is an art within itself as well. However, easier in various ways, and I think it's self-explanatory and most people maybe agree?
Being solitary is very dangerous. That's why many people I guess avoid it. Many people say that too much alone is unhealthy. The reason it's unhealthy is because people lose control
. When they lose control, they also lose their rational thinking, which then of course leads to being a little too desperate and etcetcetc.
So...the only way being solitary too much can hurt you is if you
, lose control and start doubting yourself and what you think/know is right
Compare Runescape's Wilderness as being alone. You travel far and short, both east and west, and you enjoy all your time alone. You fight hill giants, moss giants, red dragons, demons and etc. When time comes, you're lost - alone - fighting for your life to survive. You become desperate to find people. People who can save you. You offer them everything, your armor, your loot, your inventory, absolutely everything, and it ends with them exploiting you.
In some way, this can be related to being solitary. I, myself experience relapses when I'm alone for longer periods of time, but I get myself together and say, that period will pass, and of course it passes. When it passes, and I start feeling great and happy again, still alone. I am back rational, and "well-thinking", and heads up straight, like a new person just rose.
That way I avoid doing anything stupid, and I also become stronger - mentally.
There is no doubt that you will experience those bad days when you feel sad/mildly depressed and have a great need for people, but if you start thinking too much about it. You will
lose grip of the situation, and things will go out of hand, if you for instance haven't pondered about it earlier. Then most likely, everything is going to go askew.
People should enjoy being social and being together with people, but remember that it's "better to be alone, than with anybody". So maybe in those periods of great despair and having that big need for people, do some thinking and don't rush. If you beg and please to get some socialization, you will most likely enjoy it in the beginning, but.... You enjoy some hours and realize, "what a complete idiot I was today". So desperate, so stupid, so pathetic. I didn't even like them...
PS: If people here only knew how much I was doing this only one year ago...
So People, I just want to end this by saying.
Be with who you love to be with, try changing them if you must, but do not force them. If they are equally important to you as you are too them, then time is worth it. However, if they don't wish to change, but still keep on doing "their stuff". You do your stuff, enjoy your life and NEVER, EVER EVER feel bad because of others pathetic psychology techniques to make you feel bad, and them better. That's just retardation...
Better alone than with anybody
- I have no idea.
Get busy living or get busy dying
- Andy Dufresne
People have a nice day