BDD or am I really ugly? How can I tell?
Hello all, first post.
I have issues with my looks, and I'm desperate to find out if I'm just obsessing about them or if I'm plain ugly. I'm in the process of changing the obvious things like lose some weight, bleach my teeth, etc. but once that's done I'm out of things I can reasonably do without surgery (which I really want to avoid). The main problem is still my face. I don't know what's wrong with it, just that it's not the face of an average guy.
I can take a decent photo of myself for facebook with flattering lighting, a good angle, and think hey that's pretty handsome. But they all look so fake, like I'm trying to hide something. And when I look in the mirror there's the ugly truth staring back at me.
So who can you ask that would give you an honest answer?
Can't trust "friends" because they just say "nah, you look fine", can't trust your mother because she just says "you're such a pretty boy". Can't ask the stranger who's staring at you with that stupid smirk, or the girl that turned away in disgust when you asked her out.
I'm thinking of maybe paying a hooker for an hour of her time and then just asking her to tell me in detail what she thinks is wrong with me. No reason for her to lie, right? She's getting paid anyway.
So if you've made it this far, I'd really appreciate some advice because I'm getting really desperate. Thanks.