Social Anxiety Support

Dashman28 · 01-07-2009, 08:25 PM

Definitely! For me, this has to do with the fact that my SA is so unpredictable. Sometimes I'm so anxious I can barely say a word. Other days I don't feel the anxiety and it's like I'm a different person, at least a decent conversationalist. On the latter occasions, I have to be careful not to overdo it (it's hard because it's a real rush when you feel free to be yourself). Still, people see this radical change and assume I'm just moody and don't talk at all, or even acknowledge people, when I don't feel like it. I wish it were just simply moods. I can will myself to speak and interact when I'm in a bad mood; it may come out a little forced, but nothing like the neurotic, utterly inane comments that I spew out when I'm in the grips of an anxiety attack.

NoMarriageHole · 01-07-2009, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by sanspants08

Dead parents are easier to please, no doubt. The only way for me to hide (from parents) the fact that I'm about to say something sarcastic and ridiculous is to censor myself so severely that they think I'm humorlessly military. The last time I was asked the words, "describe yourself" by a girlfriend's mother, I looked her straight in the eyes and said, "I like cheese. But I like applesauce better than I like cheese." And just stared back. Edit: This is my fallback plan, generally.

Wow. You're a charmer...no doubt. My ex boyfriend's mother never asked me any awkward personal questions, so I falsely assumed that she was easygoing. Turned out that whenever I said something mildly offensive (like calling someone stupid), she'd say something like, "that's not nice". I'm not sure about anyone else, but I hate being scolded by, #1 someone elses' mother, and #2 for something so trivial. Funnily enough, I ended up living with her. I'm still picking the eggshells out of my feet from that.

sanspants08 · 01-07-2009, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by NoMarriageHole

Wow. You're a charmer...no doubt. My ex boyfriend's mother never asked me any awkward personal questions, so I falsely assumed that she was easygoing. Turned out that whenever I said something mildly offensive (like calling someone stupid), she'd say something like, "that's not nice". I'm not sure about anyone else, but I hate being scolded by, #1 someone elses' mother, and #2 for something so trivial. Funnily enough, I ended up living with her. I'm still picking the eggshells out of my feet from that.

Ouch. That would cause me to have to act like a complete loon elsewhere, which is what has happened anytime I've been in a really constricting situation for a long period of time. Most of the time I can do okay with the 'rents as long as they don't ask ridiculous questions like, "describe yourself," which is like something that (I would think) usually only happens with people who frequent the country club. Generally I do better with moms than dads because I'm never going to bond with the dad unless he likes cars or wants to talk about classic rock. Wow, we're off-topic.

Anyway, hard-to-read. Yes.

SaigeJones · 01-07-2009, 08:35 PM

Sometimes people think I am a rude douchebag when I am not. I just don't like talking.

Sometimes my mom thinks she annoys when I move away from her. She does not annoy me. I just don't like to be around people period.

shyvr6 · 01-07-2009, 10:55 PM

When I have to talk to people who are quiet I get those ackward feelings because I don't know if they are happy, sad, angry, etc.. So I pretty much think that is how people most likely see me when they first meet me, so I would say that we are hard to read.

ecstasy · 01-08-2009, 01:24 AM

omg, that sounds exactly like my friends and I. I NEVER answer my cell on the first ring (even with friends)...and one friend said 'maybe i should start sending you emails because you never check your phone' or another friend- 'Pick up your phone this time!' I'm so bad and I always say in my mind i'll call them in an hour, but I never do....I've actually lost friends this stupid way ...And most guys I meet think I'm a 'tease' but I'm just the opposite..easy almost!

01-07-2009, 10:55 PM	#25 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,564	When I have to talk to people who are quiet I get those ackward feelings because I don't know if they are happy, sad, angry, etc.. So I pretty much think that is how people most likely see me when they first meet me, so I would say that we are hard to read. __________________ Music

01-07-2009, 08:25 PM	#21 (permalink)
Dashman28 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Florida Gender: Male Posts: 92	Definitely! For me, this has to do with the fact that my SA is so unpredictable. Sometimes I'm so anxious I can barely say a word. Other days I don't feel the anxiety and it's like I'm a different person, at least a decent conversationalist. On the latter occasions, I have to be careful not to overdo it (it's hard because it's a real rush when you feel free to be yourself). Still, people see this radical change and assume I'm just moody and don't talk at all, or even acknowledge people, when I don't feel like it. I wish it were just simply moods. I can will myself to speak and interact when I'm in a bad mood; it may come out a little forced, but nothing like the neurotic, utterly inane comments that I spew out when I'm in the grips of an anxiety attack.

01-07-2009, 08:35 PM	#24 (permalink)
SaigeJones Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Age: 24 Posts: 348	Sometimes people think I am a rude douchebag when I am not. I just don't like talking. Sometimes my mom thinks she annoys when I move away from her. She does not annoy me. I just don't like to be around people period.

01-08-2009, 01:24 AM	#26 (permalink)
ecstasy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: The Asia of America Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 96	omg, that sounds exactly like my friends and I. I NEVER answer my cell on the first ring (even with friends)...and one friend said 'maybe i should start sending you emails because you never check your phone' or another friend- 'Pick up your phone this time!' I'm so bad and I always say in my mind i'll call them in an hour, but I never do....I've actually lost friends this stupid way ...And most guys I meet think I'm a 'tease' but I'm just the opposite..easy almost!