That's the general opinion on S.A. I think...
Here's what I think.
If we were really afraid of people seeing us in a negative light, would we do things that might seem rude or mean because of that fear?
I see people on these forums talking about avoiding people and avoiding situations and it makes them seem like jerks, even though they're just afraid... but doesn't that mean they are showing people a bad side of them?
If they were afraid of what they looked like, why would they not show up to an event or avoid a relative making them look really bad?
I think we give people's opinions of us a back seat. That's right, the complete opposite of what most people think about people with S.A.
I'm saying that what we are really afraid of is how people will treat us. We are afraid of making a mistake, not because of what people will think, but because of the repricussions.
Making a mistake doesn't make you looks bad. Everyone makes mistakes. People like seeing other people make mistakes, it makes them feel better, BUT sometimes people react the wrong way to mistakes and feed on others vulnerability.
But vulnerability is a good thing. Life is meant to be enjoyed with your guard down, not always protecting yourself. Protecting yourself from insults that shouldn't hurt you anyway, because insults toward you don't show your character at all, but instead the person doing the insulting.
Anyway, yeah, I'm thinking we should try to FOCUS on how we look. Try to appreciate looking like a good person, instead of brushing it off unless someone else shows us positive attention.
Your image is really all that matters.
I mean, if you were a slave or a prisoner in another country, what would keep you alive? Your circumstances wouldn't provide you much to be happy with, but how you hold yourself could bring you pride, and in turn, happiness.
Just don't always focus on your circumstances, and focus on how you can shine through.