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Old 08-12-2011, 09:32 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I honestly feel as though i was born with a curse on me. I'm a good guy and try to be nice to people irl, yet nothing i do ever goes right for me, no matter how hard i try. Everything backfires on me and i always end looking stupid. Yet other people who are horrible and mean all the time get everything they want out of life without having to try at all. This really pisses me off.

Anyone else feel the same?
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I used to, and still do at times, but you can't live your life thinking that you have bad luck. If you continuously think that bad things will happen to you, then bad things will happen to you. The trick is to work hard and appreciate when things do go your way. There is a reward out there for you - depending on your religious/spiritual beliefs that could mean many things or nothing. The truth is that being a good person isn't easy, and people who are good tend to think that they are owed something for being a good person. The truth is that you should be a good person because it is the right thing to do - we should all be more selfless and expect nothing in return. Everyone wants something for what they do - you can't look at it that way. You should do things and not expect/want anything in return.

This isn't easy, and I always struggle with it, but that's the way I look at it these days. No one should owe anyone anything for them helping out or for whatever - the world should be more full of selfless acts and the world would be a better place. Maybe for you your reward is just knowing that you are perhaps a rare type of person and you have helped others out without getting anything in return.
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Exactly. We tend to have all the personality of a piece of cardboard lying in the dirt with people's footprints on it. Not very interesting. Evil people have that juicy aura of danger about them. You know you won't be bored around them.
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Whatever happens... don't feel sorry for yourself longer than you need to and don't whine about your problems to other people. I'm not saying you do that, but I know someone who's unlucky and he complains SO friggin much. -_-

If all else fails, maintain a sense of humor. At least you can laugh...
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I honestly feel as though i was born with a curse on me. I'm a good guy and try to be nice to people irl, yet nothing i do ever goes right for me, no matter how hard i try. Everything backfires on me and i always end looking stupid. Yet other people who are horrible and mean all the time get everything they want out of life without having to try at all. This really pisses me off.

Anyone else feel the same?
It looks like everything goes well for others from the outside. Only that person knows the letdowns and such in their lives. I'm sure somebody thinks you are very lucky. We all attempt to make due. And as Shakespeare said "all the world's a stage." Most people try to act happy and satisfied. Live your life to the best of your ability and forget other people's lives as far as them being luckier, because really, you're only on the outside looking in. You have no idea what's really going on with a person or what has gone on with them.

It's like a twilight zone or outer limits episode where this guy gets the chance to trade places with a guy who has it all. it's awful.
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I don't believe it. Just bad attitudes.
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I'm starting to think maybe yes. the glass in my car's roof just shattered. I guess a rock hit it when i was driving down the highway. I think my car is a magnet for rotten luck. I swear, if one more bad thing happens, I'm gonna lose it. I never wanted the damn thing anyway. it's a necessary evil. I like driving, but I don't like cars. and I'm broke.
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I honestly feel as though i was born with a curse on me. I'm a good guy and try to be nice to people irl, yet nothing i do ever goes right for me, no matter how hard i try. Everything backfires on me and i always end looking stupid. Yet other people who are horrible and mean all the time get everything they want out of life without having to try at all. This really pisses me off.

Anyone else feel the same?
I've felt this way all my life. I haven't had horrible things happen in my life, but the bad things that have happened were just stupid bad luck and my attempts at things do tend to blow up in my face. Overall, just things that I couldn't have foreseen or had control over. I got into the habit of telling myself that once I get through all this bad luck there are bounds to be heaps of good luck to follow. It helps.
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I used to believe I had a curse. All these REALLY bad/tragic events kept happening in my life.

I've learned to try and be positive and what doesn't kill me can only make me stronger "you were given the life you were strong enough to live".
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If I didn't have bad luck I'd have no luck at all.
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I look at it as karma: something bad happens, then something good happens.

To be honest, I actually anticipate something bad happening every day, just so it won't "pile up" persay and I'll get hit with something real nasty.

Hmm earlier today as a point: Sick with a cold, at work dicing tomatoes with a dicer, tomato squirts in my face. Work was dead, so I got to go home early.
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I don't call it bad luck, life is so unfair, so some people are born having everything come easy in their lives and others struggle to accomplish the simplest tasks, and can't have anything in life.
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Everything is luck; good/bad genetics, environments and parents. Can't control any of it. You have between 10% and 40% free will in your life. The rest is like gambling at a casino, until you run out of money, then it's the end of the line.
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I feel I generally have bad luck with relationships, but somewhere, God is looking out for me.

I wish he'd throw me a girlfriend, though. I am so tired of being lonely.
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I don't believe in luck. Unless you are talking about being born into wealth.
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Everything is luck; good/bad genetics, environments and parents. Can't control any of it. You have between 10% and 40% free will in your life. The rest is like gambling at a casino, until you run out of money, then it's the end of the line.

That's a pretty dangerous way of thinking. Removes all accountability for your own actions. Sometimes life doesn't go our way but blaming things on bad luck is just down right delusional.
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Nah, I recently came to realization that a lot of the bad luck I am getting is just me approaching things wrong. Of course actual luck exists, some have more than others but you get the point.
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I was definately born with bad luck.

I took ill on the last day of primary school AND the last day of high school and lay in bed from 9am - 3:30pm feeling sick on both accounts while everyone else got to say goodbye to eachother, take photos, sign eachothers shirts, thank the teachers etc.

I always JUST fail my tests in school, always JUST missing busses and trains, my phone always loses signal whenever I need to use it, my belongings always randomly get lost, it always rains when I make plans to do anything, the iron breaks whenever I need to use it, whenever I go into a shop for something to eat it's ALWAYS sold out, whenever I have plans or something to look forward to there's always a boring stupid family event booked at the same time, my computer ALWAYS freezes when I really need it to work, in school the teacher would ALWAYS "randomly" pick me to do things etc
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I don't believe so, but I sure as hell feel like I was born with bad luck sometimes.
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YES I'm the living proof of bad luck... Born with epilepsy, childhood issues teenagers issues, SA... Sicide thoughts... So many **** going on my mind right now...

But RDRR is right. "If I didn't have bad luck I wouldn't have any luck at all"...
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