All right, I need some suggestions

[Sid James]

Hey all,

I'm growing sick and tired of being sick and tired of feeling alone and not good enough for people. I feel like I'm a pretty good speaker and want to come off confident without feeling like an idiot with nothing to say, so I need some suggestions on things most people like to go out and do with friends. I never know what to say when I want to at least *try* to socialize.

Is this a simple enough request? Ready? Go.

[hiimnotcool]

drink alcohol

[drealm]

Movies are easier, sit in a dark room and just look forward. No talking's required because someone else in the audience will yell at you for ruining the movie experience.

[shadowmask]

1. Go to bar with friends
2. Get inebriated
3. Start fight
4. Win fight

That should make you come off as confident. Or a tool. Either way, it'll be fun.

[theuprising]

Originally Posted by Sid James

Hey all,

I'm growing sick and tired of being sick and tired of feeling alone and not good enough for people. I feel like I'm a pretty good speaker and want to come off confident without feeling like an idiot with nothing to say, so I need some suggestions on things most people like to go out and do with friends. I never know what to say when I want to at least *try* to socialize.

Is this a simple enough request? Ready? Go.

great way to get people to respond (sarcasm), but yeah I guess you're tired of all the empathy on this forum and no advice or help.

The most important part I think is to be a person that you are proud of, and that proudness lends itself conversation topics if you like what you are doing. Start working out, pick up a rock instrument, go to a bar every once in a while, even if you are alone (it gives you something to talk about, of something social you did). Watch sports, go to concerts, join plenty of social groups, or even organized groups that help you in communications, like toastmasters.

See if there is an SA meetup group near you in meetup.com . I have your same problem by the way, I don't really get SA nearly as much as some people in this forum, and sometimes I have a lot more confidence than most normal people, my problem is lack of conversation topics.

[Sid James]

Here's the problem though, you guys: I don't drink. People HATE being around people like me who don't consume any alcohol at all. Here's one of 1,000's of reasons why I never feel like I'm good enough for people...because my life decisions differ from society.

[theuprising]

Originally Posted by Sid James

Here's the problem though, you guys: I don't drink. People HATE being around people like me who don't consume any alcohol at all. Here's one of 1,000's of reasons why I never feel like I'm good enough for people...because my life decisions differ from society.

Well in middle school my alienation begun because I decided to "be myself" and there would be enough people in a public school to find a like minded person. Didn't happen.

You have to put a socially acceptable face forward to give people the CHANCE to get to know you better, otherwise you're just pushing society away from you just for that 5 ounces of individualism that you have to shed. Its ok to be unique, just don't shout your uniqueness in people's face.

EDIT: and unless you hang around with very specific people, you have to drink a small amount socially, like a few beers, shouldn't effect you much, unless, of course, its against your religion to drink. Then I guess you have to go clubbing instead of bar hopping.

[Bouffon]

Join a club with a mediocre purpose and mediocre members, become the leader of the group (probably angsty teenagers), put them down constantly until you get an epic ego boost, go after the big guys.

[Peter Attis]

Originally Posted by hiimnotcool

drink alcohol

And watch a lot of pornography. Makes you forget all about SA!

[Sid James]

Originally Posted by theuprising

Well in middle school my alienation begun because I decided to "be myself" and there would be enough people in a public school to find a like minded person. Didn't happen.

You have to put a socially acceptable face forward to give people the CHANCE to get to know you better, otherwise you're just pushing society away from you just for that 5 ounces of individualism that you have to shed. Its ok to be unique, just don't shout your uniqueness in people's face.

I hope people don't see me as "in your face" with stuff like this. Otherwise, you hit the nail on the head. People don't seem to get the chance to know me and I think it's partially due to stuff like this.

EDIT: I won't bend with this. I refuse to put alcoholic beverages in my body. I also don't do bars or clubs. Am I pretty much screwed?