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Old 04-06-2009, 06:03 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I have been dealing with anxiety for most of my life but over the last couple of years it has become really severe. I've lost my job,friends,girlfriend,and alienated myself from my family. I know i need help and i try to just go on living my life but always end up just locking myself in at home where i feel comfortable. The smallest of tasks terrifies me i can barely talk to anyone without twitching and having a panic attack. So for the last year or so i have not left my house unless i really really have to. I would like to get on medication or some sort of treatment but cant bring myself to even go to the doctor. Is there anyway i could get a doctor to possibly do a house call ? or any other suggestions ? im from Dracut,MA thanks
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Old 04-06-2009, 09:52 AM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Are you able to make phone calls; or if not, is there anyone in your life who could make a call for you? I'd call your county's Mental Health department and explain your situation. They should be able to help you figure out a solution and get you some help. There are definitely professionals that will visit your home. Sounds like you really need help, and you should get it. I've come scarily close to where you're at so I feel for you. Hang in there.
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Old 04-07-2009, 01:10 AM   #3 (permalink)
 
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its so bad that i even feel kinda freaked out by making a simple phone call and i wish there was someone to help me but no one really knows and even if i tried to explain it to anyone they wouldnt understand especially my family
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It is kind of a catch-22, isn't it? It's hard to get help when the very thing you need help for prevents you from getting it! I too have a lot of difficulty making phone calls. You might have to psych yourself up for this one though. Sometimes you just have to do it. They have no idea who you are. You have your anonymity over the phone. Please try because if you're anything like me, these things tend to get worse not better if you don't force yourself to act. If you believe in a higher power, ask for some divine intervention on this one. I think it's really important that you seek some help at this point. Where do you live? I'd call for you if I could or maybe someone else on here is close and could call for you.
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I think it's a big deal that you even posted on this website...And you are definitely right about wanting to get help and it's good you're open to medication (I wasn't at first). But you can't try the medication without going to the dr first. I also have had a hard time making calls. I can relate to your isolating lifestyle too. I don't know how old you are, but there has to be someone in your friends or family that has also noticed that you don't go out much and if you told them something like,"I haven't felt like my self for a long time now, I'm sure you've noticed how I don't do much anymore... anyway I was thinking about going to see a doctor." And see how it goes. Is anyone you know sensitive and caring? That would probably be the best person to confide in for now. Really, the best thing is to be honest. I also would like to call for you/go with, but I'm over in western NY. (I grew up in CT tho). It's good you are recognizing your isolating pattern now cuz you don't want it to go on forever. Please do try to do something / talk to someone soon. You can do it.
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Im scared to leave my house or any place I dont feel safe even when im on medication and have done therapy, all I have left is religion, courage, and hope.
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sometimes im afraid to leave the house, cause there is just nothing to do out there. hehe
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I don't like to leave my house unless it is extremely vital. I live in Florida and of course its sunny everyday, and on the weekends I just can't go up to the pool. When I have gone, I put on my ipod, so I don't have to hear all of these people yakking about stupid crap all of the time. I can spend an entire weekend inside by myself and be perfectly content.
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You could try writing what you feel, or even printing out what you just posted here, and try to get someone from your family or someone to read it and hopefully that would help them understand better and get help for you. If none of that works you might just have to pick up the phone yourself in desperation.
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Once I just searhed online for a nearby psych and emailed them.

Maybe you could send someone you know a letter?
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Old 04-09-2009, 07:23 PM   #11 (permalink)
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My home is my security. I cannot stand being away from it too long to be with people I'd mostly not want to be around. It sucks. Otherwise, I don't mind spending some vacation time with my family members and some "close friends" (yeah right). It's much better than going out and being away from home.
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Old 04-11-2009, 11:04 AM   #12 (permalink)
 
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I also have the same problem and its especially difficult when you don't have a car (and a driving phobia). It pains me to go to work or run errands because I have to walk three long blocks to get to the bus stop, and it feels like everyone is staring.

There have been several times where men have tried to follow me in their cars and talk to me/insult me. It's an SA woman's nightmare.

I truly understand what you're going through and hope you are able to find help.
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I think that I have had SA my whole life, but I managed to finish school and get a degree! Then things went totally downhill for me. I've always struggled with blushing and sweating in situations that made me uncomfortable, but it has got to the point where I can't leave the house without breaking into a sweat. This makes me just want to stay home too, and even having people come visit me at home puts me in a total panic.

Anyway, I just wanted to agree with everyone here that you should try to get professional help. Back when my SA was increasing but wasn't totally unbearable, my mom suggested that I see someone. I was very reluctant but agreed to go. Going to the appointment was a major ordeal, but professionals are used to dealing with people like us, and will not judge you. The appointment also gave me hope as I was put on medication to help me cope with my anxiety. Although the medication seriously disagreed with me, I was also told to go for cognitive behavioural therapy.

Obviously going to the therapy sessions was and still is quite anxiety-provoking, and if you are a shy person like me you may feel that you won't be able to open up to your therapist. Eventually I was able to speak freely about the extent of my problems. I still feel depressed a lot and sometimes doubt that I will be able to overcome SA, but I really find that seeing my therapist once a week helps me to deal, gives me new hope and will eventually help me to live a normal life again. Without him I would be totally depressed for sure. It is so important to have this kind of support, otherwise I think it is almost impossible to overcome SA.

Apparently only a quarter of SA sufferers seek help, which is really sad.

I'm sure, like others said, that you can get a therapist to come to you. Especially if they specialise in cognitive behavioural therapy, they will understand your situation.

Good luck, I hope that you get the help that you need.
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Once I just searhed online for a nearby psych and emailed them.

Maybe you could send someone you know a letter?
If you don't mind me asking what did they email you back with?
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It sounds like depression is taking a hold there.
What I would do is try walking out of the house just a bit - we are in spring so that the sun will be nice. Just sit out for a little bit and take in the sun.

Also, you need to find out what is really bothering you - there is something that is making you afraid to leave the house. I know it seems hard now, but with a little work, it will get better.
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Are you afraid to leave your house? If you or someone you know is confined to their home due to anxiety, weight, fear, panic, OCD, or other issues, we may be able to help. A new television documentary project will provide help for those who are ready to make a change. If you live in the Boston area please contact: HelpOut123@hotmail.com
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Are you afraid to leave your house? If you or someone you know is confined to their home due to anxiety, weight, fear, panic, OCD, or other issues, we may be able to help. A new television documentary project will provide help for those who are ready to make a change. If you live in the Boston area please contact: HelpOut123@hotmail.com
LOL.. i am sure being on TV is just the thing that people suffering from extreme social anxiety are going to find agreeable.
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Oh yeah I know this feeling... I don't know what to tell you except maybe you can sleep it off? Sometimes this works for me. I've found sometimes it helps me if I put on a hat and go out maybe later at night when there aren't so many people around... and maybe just walk around the block. But yeah, sometimes you just sort of want to implode.
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i know what you mean i have icolated myself. but you got to take a few steps. get a doctors appointment, then try medication what he reccomends. worth a shot right?
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Are you afraid to leave your house? If you or someone you know is confined to their home due to anxiety, weight, fear, panic, OCD, or other issues, we may be able to help. A new television documentary project will provide help for those who are ready to make a change. If you live in the Boston area please contact: HelpOut123@hotmail.com
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