Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Rio de Janeiro, Brazil
The problem with all this insecurity and anxiety is that we may actually KNOW that there are parts of us that deserve to be loved, but we just can't communicate these good parts to others, which is all the more frustrating! For instance, I know I can be a great friend, I don't judge people, I'm attentive to their needs, I care about their feelings, I would go out of my way to make a friend happier about him/herself... I know I'm not a stupid person, even my appearance issues, when I think about them rationally I know that I cannot be so hideous as I feel, but somehow that doesn't change a thing about the way I feel about myself! Maybe I even have everything I need to accept myself the way I am, but something gets in the way. I know a lot of people whom are not better than me by any objective criteria, but knowing that doesn't stop me from feeling worse than them. So I think it's not about us accepting ourselves for who we are as if we just had to come to terms with the fact that we suck, but rather trying to work out why we have this skewed view of ourselves. I have noticed from the posts I have read here that people on this board are articulate, intelligent, sensitive... I'm sure there are coutless other qualities to them that don't show here. We can't be that bad! That are so many people out there who don't have a supermodel look, who are not popular or successful and who are not miserable and withdrawn and just enjoy life as it comes... and I don't see any reason why they shouldn't accept themselves! So why can't we, I wonder?
Ok, easier said than done, I know...