I know this type of thread has been done to death, but it's really been bothering me. Sorry if this is long. I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does. I had a best friend since I was maybe 3. I'll call her J. These past few months J has been cancelling plans I try to make. She lives a town over (just 20 mins. but she has friends she hangs out with that live even farther away) and has a kid. Ever since she had her kid (at 17), she has made friends with other moms. That is completely reasonable. They have something huge in common and their children can play together. I have always assumed that she was just busy with work or her kid when she canceled plans, but I've been seeing photos of her on facebook with people at the club or having lunch or hanging out, and if she is having time for them, why is she always cancelling on me? Then one of her friends is starting to call her "BFF" in posts and it's making me feel like I don't matter anymore. I'm not a clingy person AT ALL. I make sure that I don't do that because it would make me seem desperate because she is almost my only friend.(there is another person i am sort of friends with. I'll call her R. We haven't really hung out before, just once, but she has suggested that we do for real someday) J does invite me over to do something every once in a while, but it seems like it's happening less and less.
I don't know what to do. She hasn't stopped talking to me completely, because she does, but she rarely does it first anymore, I have to do it first.
Should I let things run their course and just stop trying to talk to her?
That other friend I mentioned, R, was a classmate of mine from kindergarten through 8th grade (i'm 22 now), we did something once a few weeks ago and she seemed really excited to see me and we actually talked quite a bit and we have a lot in common. It's difficult for me to talk and open up to people, but it was so easy with her, I'm thinking I should just go for it and see if she wants to go hang out or something. i'm nervous, but we did get along so well.
I can't imagine ever completely ignoring J, I'll probably just keep her on my facebook.
I think I figured things out myself just now haha, but, what do you think? What would you do?
I don't know what to do. She hasn't stopped talking to me completely, because she does, but she rarely does it first anymore, I have to do it first.
Should I let things run their course and just stop trying to talk to her?
That other friend I mentioned, R, was a classmate of mine from kindergarten through 8th grade (i'm 22 now), we did something once a few weeks ago and she seemed really excited to see me and we actually talked quite a bit and we have a lot in common. It's difficult for me to talk and open up to people, but it was so easy with her, I'm thinking I should just go for it and see if she wants to go hang out or something. i'm nervous, but we did get along so well.
I can't imagine ever completely ignoring J, I'll probably just keep her on my facebook.
I think I figured things out myself just now haha, but, what do you think? What would you do?