Social Anxiety Support

amy612 · 07-10-2011, 07:22 PM

After a series of the most ridiculously depressing events anyone could ever experience, I land here with social anxiety that I have, up until two weeks ago, been medicating with alcohol and drugs...mostly alcohol. Been in and out of the hospital, detox, psych office, treatment. Lost my kids temporarily. Quite honestly life sucks. But... I have a job working at home (a social anxiety sufferer's biggest dream) and I make okay money. I am educated (again, online college rocks.) I'm divorced. Yes, that is a positive thing if you ask me. LOL And I have two daughters who love me unconditionally even if I only get to see them twice a week. I am pretty sure I'm also bipolar and have borderline personality disorder on top of all this-- you could say it's an improvement from the homebound agoraphobia (ages 19 to 21) and avoidant personality disorder that I used to suffer with.

So...just here trying to learn to deal with social anxiety without alcohol. I have a hard time meeting new people (especially guys) without drinking to take the 'edge off'. I started drinking because I felt more socially accepted and personable when I drank. I felt fearless with alcohol. My bad.

So it's time to 'feel the fear and do it anyway' ...just don't drink when I do it. lol

'I can tolerate pain' is a mantra my psychologist has me saying. I guess I could also say 'I can tolerate social inadequacy.' Meh.

Anyway, that is me. I'm Amy and I'm an alcoholic. Er...uh...a social anxiety sufferer. Actually, both. LOL

Yay, me.

Does anyone sense my sarcasm and pessmism? lol

rick56 · 07-10-2011, 08:40 PM

drinking is an extremely hard thing to give up, im still battling over such a thing. i feel when i drink i come out of my shell....but i tend to way over due it and become very depressed. you should find other things to do than to drink! such as take an interest you have and try to meet people with the same! for me it was either sports, video games or violin! and i could do those things with new people with out having to booze up to meet someone!

millenniumman75 · 07-10-2011, 09:00 PM

Welcome, Amy612!

SA is something you work through - a growth experience. You will find that you won't need alcohol when you have your own personal skills and thought replacement that help you. I am still working on that myself, but I have come a long way. SA can be defeated!

MavenMI6Agent009 · 07-10-2011, 09:10 PM

Welcome

TenYears · 07-10-2011, 09:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by amy612

After a series of the most ridiculously depressing events anyone could ever experience, I land here with social anxiety that I have, up until two weeks ago, been medicating with alcohol and drugs...mostly alcohol. Been in and out of the hospital, detox, psych office, treatment. Lost my kids temporarily. Quite honestly life sucks. But... I have a job working at home (a social anxiety sufferer's biggest dream) and I make okay money. I am educated (again, online college rocks.) I'm divorced. Yes, that is a positive thing if you ask me. LOL And I have two daughters who love me unconditionally even if I only get to see them twice a week. I am pretty sure I'm also bipolar and have borderline personality disorder on top of all this-- you could say it's an improvement from the homebound agoraphobia (ages 19 to 21) and avoidant personality disorder that I used to suffer with.

So...just here trying to learn to deal with social anxiety without alcohol. I have a hard time meeting new people (especially guys) without drinking to take the 'edge off'. I started drinking because I felt more socially accepted and personable when I drank. I felt fearless with alcohol. My bad.

So it's time to 'feel the fear and do it anyway' ...just don't drink when I do it. lol

'I can tolerate pain' is a mantra my psychologist has me saying. I guess I could also say 'I can tolerate social inadequacy.' Meh.

Anyway, that is me. I'm Amy and I'm an alcoholic. Er...uh...a social anxiety sufferer. Actually, both. LOL

Yay, me.

Does anyone sense my sarcasm and pessmism? lol

Welcome Amy

.
Wow, you're story sounds like mine.

I have all the same problems, SAD, agoraphobia, depression...& I use alcohol & drugs to self-medicate. I'm trying to learn to cope without all the drugs also. I have 3 kids. I feel incredibly guilty about putting them thru all this. I just got out of a drug rehab...I was in for 38 days.

I hope this site helps you. Feel free to pm me if u ever want to talk.

Toad Licker · 07-11-2011, 10:31 AM

Hey Amy, welcome to

shadow cougar · 07-11-2011, 12:45 PM

Hello and welcome.

FairleighCalm · 07-11-2011, 07:05 PM

I love sarcasm. Welcome. And you can get better. learning about managing your emotional tendencies will help alot.

07-10-2011, 07:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
amy612 Status: Just for today... Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Minnesota Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 6	Socially anxious alcoholic. Oh man... After a series of the most ridiculously depressing events anyone could ever experience, I land here with social anxiety that I have, up until two weeks ago, been medicating with alcohol and drugs...mostly alcohol. Been in and out of the hospital, detox, psych office, treatment. Lost my kids temporarily. Quite honestly life sucks. But... I have a job working at home (a social anxiety sufferer's biggest dream) and I make okay money. I am educated (again, online college rocks.) I'm divorced. Yes, that is a positive thing if you ask me. LOL And I have two daughters who love me unconditionally even if I only get to see them twice a week. I am pretty sure I'm also bipolar and have borderline personality disorder on top of all this-- you could say it's an improvement from the homebound agoraphobia (ages 19 to 21) and avoidant personality disorder that I used to suffer with. So...just here trying to learn to deal with social anxiety without alcohol. I have a hard time meeting new people (especially guys) without drinking to take the 'edge off'. I started drinking because I felt more socially accepted and personable when I drank. I felt fearless with alcohol. My bad. So it's time to 'feel the fear and do it anyway' ...just don't drink when I do it. lol 'I can tolerate pain' is a mantra my psychologist has me saying. I guess I could also say 'I can tolerate social inadequacy.' Meh. Anyway, that is me. I'm Amy and I'm an alcoholic. Er...uh...a social anxiety sufferer. Actually, both. LOL Yay, me. Does anyone sense my sarcasm and pessmism? lol

07-10-2011, 09:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Mentor Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton, OH Gender: Male Age: 37 Posts: 92,938	Welcome, Amy612! SA is something you work through - a growth experience. You will find that you won't need alcohol when you have your own personal skills and thought replacement that help you. I am still working on that myself, but I have come a long way. SA can be defeated! __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better! TROLL ALERT STATUS: CHAT -> BERT FORUMS -> ERNIE (troll activity on the increase) WATCH WHAT YOU TYPE!

07-10-2011, 09:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
MavenMI6Agent009 Status: UnDERrAted Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: EL Crappo, Tx Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 25,767	Welcome __________________ "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." (Henri Nouwen) -------------------------------------------------------

07-11-2011, 10:31 AM	#6 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Posts: 84,796	Hey Amy, welcome to __________________ Hush now baby, baby, don't you cry. Mama's gonna make all your nightmares come true. Mama's gonna put all her fears into you. Mama's gonna keep you right here under her wing. She won't let you fly, but she might let you sing. Mama's gonna keep baby cozy and warm. Ooooh baby, ooooh baby, oooooh baby, Of course mama's gonna help build the wall. - Pink Floyd

07-11-2011, 12:45 PM	#7 (permalink)
shadow cougar Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Hertfordshire, England Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 1,301	Hello and welcome. __________________ Death begins from the day you are born but life begins when you make the choice to live.

07-10-2011, 08:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
rick56 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Gender: Male Posts: 12	drinking is an extremely hard thing to give up, im still battling over such a thing. i feel when i drink i come out of my shell....but i tend to way over due it and become very depressed. you should find other things to do than to drink! such as take an interest you have and try to meet people with the same! for me it was either sports, video games or violin! and i could do those things with new people with out having to booze up to meet someone!

07-11-2011, 07:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
FairleighCalm Status: Fun...Fluid...Formidable Join Date: May 2007 Location: Location Location Gender: Male Posts: 7,137	I love sarcasm. Welcome. And you can get better. learning about managing your emotional tendencies will help alot.

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