Hi, I'm new to this board and have a question. I have often thought that I may have social anxiety, but I am not sure if my symptoms match.
I am a middle-aged professional with a steady job, good friends, and a good family.
However, I've always had 3 issues for has long as I can remember:
1) When in a social situation with co-workers, or friends, or family, I am fine for the most part, but after a while I start feeling that all eyes are on me. Logically, I know they are not, but for some reason, a part of my brain is "feeing" that all eyes are on me and everyone is watching my every move. I feel like I need to say something funny, or witty, but I'm too afraid to try so I just stay silent.
2) When talking to a group of people of say 2 or more people, and I am asked to speak or I do speak, I often find that my neck and facial area start to heat up. When I look in a mirror after this, I can see that my neck and lower face is flushed a pinkish red.
3) When talking to a superior, like a manager, or boss, or giving a speech or presentation to more than 3 people, I find that my head and neck will start to shake. It's hard to describe, but it's like I get so nervous, that my neck muscles start to twitch and I have to grit my teeth, or forcefully look away from people so my head and neck don't twitch. I will also start to stumble over my words...not stuttering, but just being so nervous that I mess up a word here and there and make myself sound goofy.
So to sum it up, I get so nervous in social situations, that my face and neck turn red, I stumble over words, and my neck and head get a nervous "twitch".
So there you are, my 3 big "issues". Like I said, I am not sure what it is...is it SA? Is it something else?
What can I do about it? Am I fated to always be like this?
Thanks for reading....I appreciate it.