Social Anxiety Support

sslondon · 11-05-2009, 01:03 AM

Hi I’m a married 33 year old male and a newbie here and was wondering if anyone else has a similar experience to mine. I’m pretty sure I have social anxiety but it only seems to be in certain situations

Here’s how it is - Good friends and family I’m fine with and people I don’t really know at all (say people I’m meeting for first time at social occasion) I’m also fine with. However, people I vaguely know e.g. workmates or friends of friends, I’m very anxious around. I now find I avoid certain situations where people I know vaguely are more likely to be. E.g. work socials and occasions where friends of friends may be. This ain’t good and I’d like to change it. If I’ve had a few drinks I’m OK but I know this ain’t a good way to deal with it.

I can’t work out why it’s only for people I vaguely know and I’m wondering if anyone else a similar experience and what you’ve done to address it.

Thanks

matty · 11-05-2009, 05:26 AM

Wow, I cant relate to that sorry.
I am similar with people I know well family and friends. But everything else I no ok with.

Pretty interesting that you dont have a problem with new people. I hope someone can expand on it a bit.

Welcome to SAS

Timmy92 · 11-05-2009, 05:37 AM

Welcome to SAS

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I can relate to your lack of fear of new people or strangers, to an extent. I can usually talk relatively easily to one person whom I have never met. Although, making friends instead of just acquaintances is a big challenge for me. But when its two or more people I find it very difficult. Groups of any sort, even friends but especially groups of people I know, but am not friends with, make me very anxious.

Toad Licker · 11-05-2009, 10:37 AM

Hey sslondon

TorLin · 11-05-2009, 02:46 PM

HELLO

sslondon

Welcome to SAS !

ZAFFAR · 11-05-2009, 10:09 PM

Welcome sslondon to SAS Forums.

You're lucky you have it only for people you vaguely know. I am almost always quiet among my friends and family. and with new people and people i little know ohhh man i just want to hide somewhere so that they cant feel my presence.

Anyways I hope you overcome this.

Enjoy.

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Originally Posted by sslondon

Hi I’m a married 33 year old male and a newbie here and was wondering if anyone else has a similar experience to mine. I’m pretty sure I have social anxiety but it only seems to be in certain situations

Here’s how it is - Good friends and family I’m fine with and people I don’t really know at all (say people I’m meeting for first time at social occasion) I’m also fine with. However, people I vaguely know e.g. workmates or friends of friends, I’m very anxious around. I now find I avoid certain situations where people I know vaguely are more likely to be. E.g. work socials and occasions where friends of friends may be. This ain’t good and I’d like to change it. If I’ve had a few drinks I’m OK but I know this ain’t a good way to deal with it.

I can’t work out why it’s only for people I vaguely know and I’m wondering if anyone else a similar experience and what you’ve done to address it.

Thanks

millenniumman75 · 11-05-2009, 10:19 PM

Welcome, SSLondon!

11-05-2009, 01:03 AM	#1 (permalink)
sslondon Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	Newbie and anyone else the same? Hi I’m a married 33 year old male and a newbie here and was wondering if anyone else has a similar experience to mine. I’m pretty sure I have social anxiety but it only seems to be in certain situations Here’s how it is - Good friends and family I’m fine with and people I don’t really know at all (say people I’m meeting for first time at social occasion) I’m also fine with. However, people I vaguely know e.g. workmates or friends of friends, I’m very anxious around. I now find I avoid certain situations where people I know vaguely are more likely to be. E.g. work socials and occasions where friends of friends may be. This ain’t good and I’d like to change it. If I’ve had a few drinks I’m OK but I know this ain’t a good way to deal with it. I can’t work out why it’s only for people I vaguely know and I’m wondering if anyone else a similar experience and what you’ve done to address it. Thanks

11-05-2009, 05:37 AM	#3 (permalink)
Timmy92 Status: Uncomfortably numb Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 14	Welcome to SAS . I can relate to your lack of fear of new people or strangers, to an extent. I can usually talk relatively easily to one person whom I have never met. Although, making friends instead of just acquaintances is a big challenge for me. But when its two or more people I find it very difficult. Groups of any sort, even friends but especially groups of people I know, but am not friends with, make me very anxious. __________________ Anxious but ambitious. Depressed yet energetic. Straight yet playing for both teams. Shy yet somehow outgoing. Confused?....Me too!

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11-05-2009, 10:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
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11-05-2009, 05:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
matty Status: Falling Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brisbane Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 202	Wow, I cant relate to that sorry. I am similar with people I know well family and friends. But everything else I no ok with. Pretty interesting that you dont have a problem with new people. I hope someone can expand on it a bit. Welcome to SAS