Social Anxiety Support

SaraR · 08-29-2010, 06:08 PM

Hello, all!

I'm 22 years old. I've been battling with SAD and depression since the start of my teenage years, and I'm at the point where I don't want to live with it anymore and would like to do something about it.

Mine is pretty debilitating. I married almost three years ago and quit my job right before. As a housewife, I now spend all my time at home and I don't think that's helped. I don't have any friends so I don't go out much, and when I do it's to only certain places and rarely without my husband. I also fear using the phone. Basically I'm very dependent on my husband, who is the complete opposite: outgoing and loves talking to people.

So I found this place in hopes it might get me started in a recovery process

Plus, it'd be nice to meet some people who go through the same things I do as I've yet to meet anyone.

danielleewright151 · 08-29-2010, 06:21 PM

Hey Sara R

Congrats on taking the first step! I'm new to the SAS website too. I've been dealing with SAD and depression for a long time as well but was only diagnosed within the last year. I'm 24 and living alone, also have an aversion to the phone, and don't have many friends. I spend all of my time at work or at home and I'd like to to be proactive about changing this. Anyway, just thought I'd say hello =)

Youandwe · 08-29-2010, 06:25 PM

Hello welcome to the forum

My panic also started in early teens. A book that you may find beneficial is Dying of Embarrassmdnt by Barbara G. Markway. It goes over what sa is and provides info on how to overcome sa.

SaraR · 08-29-2010, 09:06 PM

Thank you both for the welcome!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Youandwe

Hello welcome to the forum

My panic also started in early teens. A book that you may find beneficial is Dying of Embarrassmdnt by Barbara G. Markway. It goes over what sa is and provides info on how to overcome sa.

I'll definitely keep that book in mind. I was just doing some research on books that might be beneficial. I'm a total book nerd so this shouldn't be too hard

Quote:

Originally Posted by danielleewright151

Hey Sara R

Congrats on taking the first step! I'm new to the SAS website too. I've been dealing with SAD and depression for a long time as well but was only diagnosed within the last year. I'm 24 and living alone, also have an aversion to the phone, and don't have many friends. I spend all of my time at work or at home and I'd like to to be proactive about changing this. Anyway, just thought I'd say hello =)

It's nice to meet you. I'm glad there's someone out there who can understand

I was diagnosed with depression when I was 16, and was on anti-depressants for a few months, but haven't taken any medication since. I just found out there was even something called SAD a year ago. Up until then I always thought I was just "painfully shy". My parents always told me I would eventually get over it. I never did.

I wish you well in your healing. If you ever need someone to talk to, I certainly don't mind.

matty · 08-29-2010, 09:33 PM

Welcome Sara. Nice avatar. Keep that hope strong and you will do just fine.

millenniumman75 · 08-29-2010, 09:37 PM

Welcome, SaraR!

Slim Shady · 08-30-2010, 05:45 AM

Hi SaraR!

Toad Licker · 08-30-2010, 10:32 AM

Hey SaraR welcome.

SaraR · 08-30-2010, 12:18 PM

Thank you for the welcome!

danielleewright151 · 08-31-2010, 06:24 AM

Definitely! I've really enjoyed talking to other people who understand what it's like.

meepmeep · 08-31-2010, 07:01 AM

Hi Sara!!

Welcome to SAS!!!
I can totally relate to your story, It's not fun to have social anxiety, you want to just do your things in life, your daily stuff, to be around company and be around people just socialize, like almost every social person. That would be, freaking cool! right?
But it just stopps us, because we are anxious about that.
I'm at home everyday too, I am about to study again, but now the time is just flying by, I don't do anything, I'm just at home. It's really boring, i really want to do more.
The only thing I could think for us s.a-home bounds, that we should have a homebased job, or... force ourself to really get outta here. It's your choice, think of that.
For me i'd rather be out, i really want so. So I'm trying to do that again.
So I totally can relate to your story, I really hope we can overcome this sooN!!

Good luck & keep your head up.

TeddyHug *hug*

SaraR · 08-31-2010, 03:36 PM

Thank you, TeddyHug.

It would be cool if I could socialize like others, that's for sure. But I suppose that's what I'm working on.

Being housebound with SA, I've learned that going out sometimes on my own throughout the day can really help. Even just going outside and sitting on the porch or in the yard or going for a walk. I'm also a book nerd, so I'll go to the library, browse for books and read some there. If you haven't tried, I would definitely recommend doing little things like that, even if you're not feeling too motivated. Once you force yourself to (I have to do that sometimes), it can be worth it

Makes your days a little less boring, and the sunshine can do wonders.

Well wishes to you!

08-29-2010, 06:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
SaraR Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: In my fantasy Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 63	New and recovering Hello, all! I'm 22 years old. I've been battling with SAD and depression since the start of my teenage years, and I'm at the point where I don't want to live with it anymore and would like to do something about it. Mine is pretty debilitating. I married almost three years ago and quit my job right before. As a housewife, I now spend all my time at home and I don't think that's helped. I don't have any friends so I don't go out much, and when I do it's to only certain places and rarely without my husband. I also fear using the phone. Basically I'm very dependent on my husband, who is the complete opposite: outgoing and loves talking to people. So I found this place in hopes it might get me started in a recovery process Plus, it'd be nice to meet some people who go through the same things I do as I've yet to meet anyone.

08-29-2010, 09:33 PM	#5 (permalink)
matty Status: Mentor Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brisnyland. Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 3,796	Welcome Sara. Nice avatar. Keep that hope strong and you will do just fine. __________________ --The past is only the future with the lights-- --I'm Beat but cant be Broken-- Under Construction

08-29-2010, 09:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Mentor Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton, OH Gender: Male Age: 37 Posts: 91,806	Welcome, SaraR! __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better! TROLL ALERT STATUS: CHAT -> BERT FORUMS -> ERNIE (troll activity on the increase) WATCH WHAT YOU TYPE!

08-30-2010, 05:45 AM	#7 (permalink)
Slim Shady Status: Back again ... Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Alone in my own zone Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 3,720	Hi SaraR! __________________ Every form of happiness is private. Our greatest memories are personal, self-motivated, not to be touched. The things which are sacred or precious to us are the things we withdraw from promiscuous sharing. -- Ayn Rand The true use of speech is not so much to express our wants as to conceal them. -- Oliver Goldsmith Experience is the worst teacher; it gives the test before presenting the lesson. -- Vernon Law

08-30-2010, 10:32 AM	#8 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Posts: 83,648	Hey SaraR welcome. __________________ I've been swallowed up by greed. I've been spat upon by lust If they ain't playing with your money they're playing with your trust And I'm trying so hard to stop sitting still To gather the juice that's been spent or been spilled To find a spark in myself that hasn't been killed Cause if Death doesn't get you then Life surely will I've been chasing a lie I was sold Running down thieves and fool's gold And these Christmas dreams are just painted coal - Bree Sharp

08-29-2010, 06:21 PM	#2 (permalink)
danielleewright151 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: San Francisco Gender: Female Posts: 41	Hey Sara R Congrats on taking the first step! I'm new to the SAS website too. I've been dealing with SAD and depression for a long time as well but was only diagnosed within the last year. I'm 24 and living alone, also have an aversion to the phone, and don't have many friends. I spend all of my time at work or at home and I'd like to to be proactive about changing this. Anyway, just thought I'd say hello =)

08-29-2010, 06:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
Youandwe Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oklahoma Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 443	Hello welcome to the forum My panic also started in early teens. A book that you may find beneficial is Dying of Embarrassmdnt by Barbara G. Markway. It goes over what sa is and provides info on how to overcome sa.

08-30-2010, 12:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
SaraR Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: In my fantasy Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 63	Thank you for the welcome!

08-31-2010, 06:24 AM	#10 (permalink)
danielleewright151 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: San Francisco Gender: Female Posts: 41	Definitely! I've really enjoyed talking to other people who understand what it's like.

08-31-2010, 07:01 AM	#11 (permalink)
meepmeep Status: Duplicate Account Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: The Netherlands Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 168	Hi Sara!! Welcome to SAS!!! I can totally relate to your story, It's not fun to have social anxiety, you want to just do your things in life, your daily stuff, to be around company and be around people just socialize, like almost every social person. That would be, freaking cool! right? But it just stopps us, because we are anxious about that. I'm at home everyday too, I am about to study again, but now the time is just flying by, I don't do anything, I'm just at home. It's really boring, i really want to do more. The only thing I could think for us s.a-home bounds, that we should have a homebased job, or... force ourself to really get outta here. It's your choice, think of that. For me i'd rather be out, i really want so. So I'm trying to do that again. So I totally can relate to your story, I really hope we can overcome this sooN!! Good luck & keep your head up. TeddyHug hug

08-31-2010, 03:36 PM	#12 (permalink)
SaraR Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: In my fantasy Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 63	Thank you, TeddyHug. It would be cool if I could socialize like others, that's for sure. But I suppose that's what I'm working on. Being housebound with SA, I've learned that going out sometimes on my own throughout the day can really help. Even just going outside and sitting on the porch or in the yard or going for a walk. I'm also a book nerd, so I'll go to the library, browse for books and read some there. If you haven't tried, I would definitely recommend doing little things like that, even if you're not feeling too motivated. Once you force yourself to (I have to do that sometimes), it can be worth it Makes your days a little less boring, and the sunshine can do wonders. Well wishes to you!

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