Social Anxiety Support

gnuSuL · 03-02-2009, 06:58 PM

So at the ripe age of 35 I am back in school to maybe finally finish my degree. In avoiding writing a rough draft that is due tonight before midnight I stumbled upon this site. I was actually looking for some information, a page to site in my rough draft. Intrigued by a question to rate your loneliness I totally got side tracked and decided that I would really check this site out. I am hopeful (which isn't very common to my emotional lexicon) to find something new and good here.

I say that I want to change and have been in and out of therapy for years with the occasional romance with anti-depressants intermingled as apart of my emotional threesome but as of yet I have not been successful. I know people but I am not one to let folks get close. Those I do let in are there for life or at least that is my intention but things change and people leave. I have moments of being completely content with my brand of isolation but then all that time to think brings me back to old fears and thoughts of my place in the world.

I have tried signing up for local meetup groups with the intent to attend a social event or two but nothing has panned out. I tell people that its too hard as a single parent to make new friends because my life is so limiting but that isn't nowhere near the truth of the matter. It seems like the older I get the worse it is....I would love to find a happy medium. I would love to have a social circle but still get my internal time where its just me.

I am considering therapy and meds again and that line of thought in itself is enough to make me need it.

Not sure what to expect from joining but I "hope" to get something.

Toad Licker · 03-02-2009, 07:41 PM

Hey gnuSuL welcome.

TorLin · 03-03-2009, 04:26 AM

hello there,

welcome to the SAS forum

aliveat65 · 03-03-2009, 06:07 AM

[B]I say that I want to change and have been in and out of therapy for years with the occasional romance with anti-depressants intermingled as apart of my emotional threesome but as of yet I have not been successful.

It took me over 6 years working with 5 different Psychrists to get my meds balanced. The meds still have to be changed regularly because the brain finally recongises them and adjust. BUT you can not give up. The correct mix of meds will help. Unfortunately after several years working on SAD we finally conclued that I can not be helped with SAD.

I have now decided that is not acceptable am starting to pursue a path to allow myself to function with others.

gnuSuL · 03-03-2009, 03:34 PM

Thanks for the welcome everyone. And Aliveat65, thank you....I may give a shot again soon.

Neptunus · 03-03-2009, 03:55 PM

Glad to have you with us!

UltraShy · 03-05-2009, 06:56 PM

millenniumman75 · 03-13-2009, 07:42 PM

Welcome, GnuSuL!

Gary Gnu from the Great Space Coaster!!!!
I remember the little man drawn out of white lines who would fuss and make noises!

gnuSuL · 03-16-2009, 03:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by millenniumman75

Welcome, GnuSuL!

Gary Gnu from the Great Space Coaster!!!!
I remember the little man drawn out of white lines who would fuss and make noises!

It's showing my age for sure but I loved his tagline, "No Gnews, is good Gnews with Gary Gnu!" I Love it and believe in it too.

Thanks for the welcomes. Look forward to chatting with you all soon.

03-02-2009, 06:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
gnuSuL Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Raleigh, NC Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 15	Making Changes and Going Nowhere So at the ripe age of 35 I am back in school to maybe finally finish my degree. In avoiding writing a rough draft that is due tonight before midnight I stumbled upon this site. I was actually looking for some information, a page to site in my rough draft. Intrigued by a question to rate your loneliness I totally got side tracked and decided that I would really check this site out. I am hopeful (which isn't very common to my emotional lexicon) to find something new and good here. I say that I want to change and have been in and out of therapy for years with the occasional romance with anti-depressants intermingled as apart of my emotional threesome but as of yet I have not been successful. I know people but I am not one to let folks get close. Those I do let in are there for life or at least that is my intention but things change and people leave. I have moments of being completely content with my brand of isolation but then all that time to think brings me back to old fears and thoughts of my place in the world. I have tried signing up for local meetup groups with the intent to attend a social event or two but nothing has panned out. I tell people that its too hard as a single parent to make new friends because my life is so limiting but that isn't nowhere near the truth of the matter. It seems like the older I get the worse it is....I would love to find a happy medium. I would love to have a social circle but still get my internal time where its just me. I am considering therapy and meds again and that line of thought in itself is enough to make me need it. Not sure what to expect from joining but I "hope" to get something. __________________ ~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~ Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. ~ Kahlil Gibran @~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@ gnuSuL

03-02-2009, 07:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,638	Hey gnuSuL welcome. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

03-03-2009, 04:26 AM	#3 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,058	hello there, welcome to the SAS forum __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

03-03-2009, 03:34 PM	#5 (permalink)
gnuSuL Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Raleigh, NC Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 15	Thanks for the welcome everyone. And Aliveat65, thank you....I may give a shot again soon. __________________ ~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~ Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. ~ Kahlil Gibran @~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@~@ gnuSuL

03-03-2009, 03:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,842	Glad to have you with us! __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

03-03-2009, 06:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
aliveat65 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 10	[B]I say that I want to change and have been in and out of therapy for years with the occasional romance with anti-depressants intermingled as apart of my emotional threesome but as of yet I have not been successful. It took me over 6 years working with 5 different Psychrists to get my meds balanced. The meds still have to be changed regularly because the brain finally recongises them and adjust. BUT you can not give up. The correct mix of meds will help. Unfortunately after several years working on SAD we finally conclued that I can not be helped with SAD. I have now decided that is not acceptable am starting to pursue a path to allow myself to function with others.

03-05-2009, 06:56 PM	#7 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Accident of Birth Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (Atheist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 24,575	__________________ Nothing is ever the way it should be What we deserve we just don't get you see http://www.insureyourgunrights.com/

03-13-2009, 07:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,682	Welcome, GnuSuL! Gary Gnu from the Great Space Coaster!!!! I remember the little man drawn out of white lines who would fuss and make noises! __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!