Social Anxiety Support

verdele · 06-30-2012, 02:03 AM

Hi, my name is Alex and I am not sure if I suffer from SA, and Id like to tell my story. Can you please tell me where can I do that?

Toad Licker · 06-30-2012, 10:34 AM

Hey Alex, welcome to

Awkto Awktavious · 06-30-2012, 12:47 PM

Hi Alex,

You could post your story on your 'My account -details', Blogs, 'coping with anxiety section, or even here if you'd like

Welcome to SAS!

Ventura · 06-30-2012, 05:52 PM

millenniumman75 · 06-30-2012, 06:24 PM

Welcome, Verdele!

verdele · 07-01-2012, 03:08 AM

OK, thanks for the Welcome messages.
It's a long story, I hope I will not bore you.
I'm 20 years old. My problem is that I am extremely shy around girls and lately I started feeling uncomfortable aroung guys too. When I try talking to a girl, my voice changes, I can't control my mouth, my tongue, I start shaking, my heart starts beating very fast and I'm sweating. I've never had a girlfriend because of this. Around guys, I'm like quiet and mostly I listen than talk.I have problems talking in public. Most of the times I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me. When I walk on the street, its like I can't control my legs, I'm shaking, I'm sweating, I feel like everyone is watching me. Before going out, I think and overthink every possible conversation and try to make it perfect. I overthink everything.
Before going out, I feel a discomfort in my stomach that goes up to my throat and I feel like I will throw up. I always think that I'm inferior, and everyone is superior to me. I never worked in my life, I'm too scared to even looking for work. I don't have many friends, the only place I go is college. I don't usually go out.
It's like I'm cursed, I always ask myself "why me? what did I do wrong?". I thought many times: "what's the point of me living if I can't do anything? this is not life, it's pain".
I haven't been like this forever. Until 12 years old I was a completely normal kid, social, talkative. I had many friends, girls and boys. I don't know what happend, I had a shock or something that changed me, I don't remember such thing. I'm starting to cry right now when I remember how normal I was...
What do you think?

verdele · 07-01-2012, 08:26 AM

Can someone please tell me something?
I feel like i'm dying here...

vig91 · 07-01-2012, 10:05 AM

Hello Verdele, I just joined today. I'm 36 and I also started to get SA around 12 or so. I noticed some of the symptoms you described because I have them too. I was also very shy around girls; although, I would describe it as panic. I also get the shaky legs and arms when I'm speaking in front of people. I'm a college student, and speech class is especially a nightmare because I shake and sweat in front of everyone. It's quite embarrassing! When I was 20, I also had SA at that age, but I still went out with friends although I was easily the quietest guy in the group. I think when you are afraid to leave the house, then that is moving more into panic disorder. I know firsthand that it’s hard to seek professional help because it has taken me many years to get the help for myself. Take my advice; don’t wait to seek professional help. Joining this website is a great first step for gathering information as it’s also helping me. From what I understand, SA and panic disorders (maybe even OCD) come from chemical imbalances in the brain such as adrenaline and serotonin. Medications for chemical imbalances act very differently in everyone. For example, SSRI’s work great for a lot of people, but I have a very bad reaction to them, so I need to go back to my doctor to discuss other options. There is no easy way to defeat SA, but I suppose we all have to find our own way to deal with it.
Ps. never feel inferior to anyone. You may feel that way because others are quicker to respond in conversation. I used to be the same way. True friends will help you though this rough time.
Seeking professional help is always your best choice because anxiety is different for everyone.

06-30-2012, 02:03 AM	#1 (permalink)
verdele Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 3	Hi there Hi, my name is Alex and I am not sure if I suffer from SA, and Id like to tell my story. Can you please tell me where can I do that?

06-30-2012, 10:34 AM	#2 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Posts: 84,842	Hey Alex, welcome to __________________ Hush now baby, baby, don't you cry. Mama's gonna make all your nightmares come true. Mama's gonna put all her fears into you. Mama's gonna keep you right here under her wing. She won't let you fly, but she might let you sing. Mama's gonna keep baby cozy and warm. Ooooh baby, ooooh baby, oooooh baby, Of course mama's gonna help build the wall. - Pink Floyd

06-30-2012, 06:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
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06-30-2012, 12:47 PM	#3 (permalink)
Awkto Awktavious Status: Like, y'know, whatever! Join Date: May 2011 Location: In a corner Gender: Male Posts: 651	Hi Alex, You could post your story on your 'My account -details', Blogs, 'coping with anxiety section, or even here if you'd like Welcome to SAS!

06-30-2012, 05:52 PM	#4 (permalink)
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07-01-2012, 03:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
verdele Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 3	OK, thanks for the Welcome messages. It's a long story, I hope I will not bore you. I'm 20 years old. My problem is that I am extremely shy around girls and lately I started feeling uncomfortable aroung guys too. When I try talking to a girl, my voice changes, I can't control my mouth, my tongue, I start shaking, my heart starts beating very fast and I'm sweating. I've never had a girlfriend because of this. Around guys, I'm like quiet and mostly I listen than talk.I have problems talking in public. Most of the times I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me. When I walk on the street, its like I can't control my legs, I'm shaking, I'm sweating, I feel like everyone is watching me. Before going out, I think and overthink every possible conversation and try to make it perfect. I overthink everything. Before going out, I feel a discomfort in my stomach that goes up to my throat and I feel like I will throw up. I always think that I'm inferior, and everyone is superior to me. I never worked in my life, I'm too scared to even looking for work. I don't have many friends, the only place I go is college. I don't usually go out. It's like I'm cursed, I always ask myself "why me? what did I do wrong?". I thought many times: "what's the point of me living if I can't do anything? this is not life, it's pain". I haven't been like this forever. Until 12 years old I was a completely normal kid, social, talkative. I had many friends, girls and boys. I don't know what happend, I had a shock or something that changed me, I don't remember such thing. I'm starting to cry right now when I remember how normal I was... What do you think?

07-01-2012, 08:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
verdele Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 3	Can someone please tell me something? I feel like i'm dying here...

07-01-2012, 10:05 AM	#8 (permalink)
vig91 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Canton, OH Gender: Male Posts: 5	Hello Verdele, I just joined today. I'm 36 and I also started to get SA around 12 or so. I noticed some of the symptoms you described because I have them too. I was also very shy around girls; although, I would describe it as panic. I also get the shaky legs and arms when I'm speaking in front of people. I'm a college student, and speech class is especially a nightmare because I shake and sweat in front of everyone. It's quite embarrassing! When I was 20, I also had SA at that age, but I still went out with friends although I was easily the quietest guy in the group. I think when you are afraid to leave the house, then that is moving more into panic disorder. I know firsthand that it’s hard to seek professional help because it has taken me many years to get the help for myself. Take my advice; don’t wait to seek professional help. Joining this website is a great first step for gathering information as it’s also helping me. From what I understand, SA and panic disorders (maybe even OCD) come from chemical imbalances in the brain such as adrenaline and serotonin. Medications for chemical imbalances act very differently in everyone. For example, SSRI’s work great for a lot of people, but I have a very bad reaction to them, so I need to go back to my doctor to discuss other options. There is no easy way to defeat SA, but I suppose we all have to find our own way to deal with it. Ps. never feel inferior to anyone. You may feel that way because others are quicker to respond in conversation. I used to be the same way. True friends will help you though this rough time. Seeking professional help is always your best choice because anxiety is different for everyone.