Social Anxiety Support

Sid James · 11-01-2009, 10:56 PM

Hi everyone,

I'm Sid, as my username indicates! I'm 24 and from Mississippi.

I've had social anxiety, or just plain social problems, for as long as I can remember. I always feel out of place compared to everyone else.

I don't have problems making acquaintances. I'm really great at that and could do it all day long if in a room with thousands of people. The problem is, I can't make the next jump into a real friendship with anyone. It never happens to me. I'm the guy who sits by the phone on weekends hoping somebody will call and it never happens. I know darn well it doesn't work that way, but it's what I always do in the end.

I've been told I'm very quiet and have a distant personality from people. I'm not so quiet as I get older, but I don't even know what it means to have a distant personality from people. If it's what I think it means, how do I get closer to people?

I don't trust people. They're never who they seem to be. I always find reasons to not trust people and then, like an idiot, wonder why I don't have any friends.

I feel very alone in this and wish I could change. I just can't bring myself to do it. I feel like time is slipping away and it'll be way too late soon. By the time I'm ready to break out of it, everyone will be married and have their own lives and I'll still be old, alone, single, and living in a crappy apartment all by myself with a bucket of chicken by my side at 2 in the morning. I know that's a ridiculous example, but it's how I see my future sometimes. Like I'm the only one that doesn't know how to make a friend. Nobody's on my side.

Okay, I think I've dumped enough. Am I welcome yet?

Rayacle · 11-01-2009, 11:10 PM

i feel like you a lot, im not so good at making friends. i am trying my best to be positive here and show people the good parts about me too, and not just my negative life story. its hard as you say to find people to trust. i dont trust anyone either, im so used to being faked or bashed online OR real life.

you arent an idiot though, you are performing a nature instinct to protect yourself. theres SOME good people out there, at least i hear that a lot

so i am on a life mission to find at least one of those good people!

if you want to talk please send me a message and good luck on your journey and oh yea, WELCOME!

TorLin · 11-02-2009, 12:59 AM

HI Sid James

Welcome to SAS !

Sid James · 11-02-2009, 10:05 AM

Thanks guys!

Toad Licker · 11-02-2009, 10:40 AM

Hey Sid, welcome to

millenniumman75 · 11-02-2009, 07:33 PM

Welcome, SidJames!

11-01-2009, 10:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sid James Status: Lonely, grown-*** man! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Greenville, MS Gender: Male Posts: 6	Hi! Hi everyone, I'm Sid, as my username indicates! I'm 24 and from Mississippi. I've had social anxiety, or just plain social problems, for as long as I can remember. I always feel out of place compared to everyone else. I don't have problems making acquaintances. I'm really great at that and could do it all day long if in a room with thousands of people. The problem is, I can't make the next jump into a real friendship with anyone. It never happens to me. I'm the guy who sits by the phone on weekends hoping somebody will call and it never happens. I know darn well it doesn't work that way, but it's what I always do in the end. I've been told I'm very quiet and have a distant personality from people. I'm not so quiet as I get older, but I don't even know what it means to have a distant personality from people. If it's what I think it means, how do I get closer to people? I don't trust people. They're never who they seem to be. I always find reasons to not trust people and then, like an idiot, wonder why I don't have any friends. I feel very alone in this and wish I could change. I just can't bring myself to do it. I feel like time is slipping away and it'll be way too late soon. By the time I'm ready to break out of it, everyone will be married and have their own lives and I'll still be old, alone, single, and living in a crappy apartment all by myself with a bucket of chicken by my side at 2 in the morning. I know that's a ridiculous example, but it's how I see my future sometimes. Like I'm the only one that doesn't know how to make a friend. Nobody's on my side. Okay, I think I've dumped enough. Am I welcome yet?

11-01-2009, 11:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
Rayacle Status: Healer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Midwest USA Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 32	i feel like you a lot, im not so good at making friends. i am trying my best to be positive here and show people the good parts about me too, and not just my negative life story. its hard as you say to find people to trust. i dont trust anyone either, im so used to being faked or bashed online OR real life. you arent an idiot though, you are performing a nature instinct to protect yourself. theres SOME good people out there, at least i hear that a lot so i am on a life mission to find at least one of those good people! if you want to talk please send me a message and good luck on your journey and oh yea, WELCOME! __________________ Click here to read my story of Social Anxiety Disorder and Depression [--------- Positive Thinking is the Key ---------] " Because we deserve happiness too!" -Rayacle

11-02-2009, 12:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,058	HI Sid James Welcome to SAS ! __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

11-02-2009, 10:40 AM	#5 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,636	Hey Sid, welcome to __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

11-02-2009, 07:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,668	Welcome, SidJames! __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

11-02-2009, 10:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
Sid James Status: Lonely, grown-*** man! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Greenville, MS Gender: Male Posts: 6	Thanks guys!