Social Anxiety Support

On5thThought · 07-15-2012, 09:43 AM

I have never been officially dx'ed with SAD but I know that I've had this thing since as long as I can remember. I have no mental health coverage or can afford any that this point in time, but I'm always researching information about SAD and looking for ways to cope with it. I'm no mental health professional, but I'm pretty sure that all of the characteristic of SAD fit me perfectly.

I'm 34 years old and the most depressing thing about having this type of anxiety is the fact that I have missed so many opportunities that could have positively impacted my life. Again, I'm 34 yrs old, but I feel like I'm 14 around people my own age. Not because of how they make me feel, but more because of how I feel about myself. That person is usually more accomplished and socially "literate" (if you will) and I feel as if I'm just really starting to deal with those sort of things. In other words, I feel way behind for my age.

Sometimes I obsess over how others may think of me espeicially if they show so kind of objection to what I say or do. In some cases, I can barely cope with whatever the task is in front of me because I'm constantly paying attention to the way that others react or respond to what I'm doing or saying. If I get any type of negativity from a person (even if it's meant in a way that is not offensive; e.g. a simple disagreement); I feel like I have failed/dumb; and then I close up even "tighter in the bud"....I know it's not logical thinking....I really know that....but I can't for the life of me figure out keep thoughts like that out of my head.

I feel better already just getting that out!

On5thThought · 07-15-2012, 10:09 AM

Thanks, I'll definitely be looking up that book.

bn4now · 07-15-2012, 10:13 AM

Yep, I can relate.

Welcome to the group. You may find some helpful stuff here and there. Just do the best you can. It may appear that you are alone but some of us are with you in spirit.

Toad Licker · 07-15-2012, 10:38 AM

Hey Ness, welcome to

iNeedtoRelax · 07-15-2012, 11:18 AM

UnquietMind · 07-15-2012, 01:12 PM

Hi,

I haven't been diagnosed with it either but I know I have it. i've always felt like i was the only person who suffers from such troubling symptoms on a daily basis and that no one in the Goddamn world can relate to me. everyone around me always seems so "normal" and mentally healthy...but now i see that i'm not the only one!

good luck to you, and if you ever need someone to talk to, hit me up.

millenniumman75 · 07-15-2012, 11:57 PM

Welcome, TightlyBudded!

07-15-2012, 09:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
On5thThought Status: Am I there yet? Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Alabama Gender: Female Posts: 63	Finally, some people who might know about what I'm going through!!! I have never been officially dx'ed with SAD but I know that I've had this thing since as long as I can remember. I have no mental health coverage or can afford any that this point in time, but I'm always researching information about SAD and looking for ways to cope with it. I'm no mental health professional, but I'm pretty sure that all of the characteristic of SAD fit me perfectly. I'm 34 years old and the most depressing thing about having this type of anxiety is the fact that I have missed so many opportunities that could have positively impacted my life. Again, I'm 34 yrs old, but I feel like I'm 14 around people my own age. Not because of how they make me feel, but more because of how I feel about myself. That person is usually more accomplished and socially "literate" (if you will) and I feel as if I'm just really starting to deal with those sort of things. In other words, I feel way behind for my age. Sometimes I obsess over how others may think of me espeicially if they show so kind of objection to what I say or do. In some cases, I can barely cope with whatever the task is in front of me because I'm constantly paying attention to the way that others react or respond to what I'm doing or saying. If I get any type of negativity from a person (even if it's meant in a way that is not offensive; e.g. a simple disagreement); I feel like I have failed/dumb; and then I close up even "tighter in the bud"....I know it's not logical thinking....I really know that....but I can't for the life of me figure out keep thoughts like that out of my head. I feel better already just getting that out!

07-15-2012, 10:38 AM	#4 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Posts: 84,844	Hey Ness, welcome to __________________ Hush now baby, baby, don't you cry. Mama's gonna make all your nightmares come true. Mama's gonna put all her fears into you. Mama's gonna keep you right here under her wing. She won't let you fly, but she might let you sing. Mama's gonna keep baby cozy and warm. Ooooh baby, ooooh baby, oooooh baby, Of course mama's gonna help build the wall. - Pink Floyd

07-15-2012, 11:18 AM	#5 (permalink)
iNeedtoRelax Status: Age: 13 Join Date: Jul 2012 Gender: Female Posts: 2,279	__________________ Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.

07-15-2012, 01:12 PM	#6 (permalink)
UnquietMind Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Sacramento, California Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 21	Hi, I haven't been diagnosed with it either but I know I have it. i've always felt like i was the only person who suffers from such troubling symptoms on a daily basis and that no one in the Goddamn world can relate to me. everyone around me always seems so "normal" and mentally healthy...but now i see that i'm not the only one! good luck to you, and if you ever need someone to talk to, hit me up. __________________ ‎"Light travels faster than sound. That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak."

07-15-2012, 11:57 PM	#7 (permalink)
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07-15-2012, 10:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
On5thThought Status: Am I there yet? Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Alabama Gender: Female Posts: 63	Thanks, I'll definitely be looking up that book.

07-15-2012, 10:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
bn4now Status: Bryan Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Virginia Gender: Male Posts: 110	Yep, I can relate. Welcome to the group. You may find some helpful stuff here and there. Just do the best you can. It may appear that you are alone but some of us are with you in spirit.

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