Do you swear? The majority of people use swearing as an expression of their anger. That won't intimidate whoever they're arguing with. I learn to talk about what's making me angry without reducing myself to name calling and swearing. I'm aware that anger is a hard emotion to control. When you're in the situation, it's tough to hold back. I understand that. Sadly situations involving anger has gotten a lot of people severely injured or even KILLED. Anger management class is absolutely worth a try. It can save people by learning how to respond in hostile situations. I have an anger problem and I'm trying to get help to get rid of it. I know I can work hard and get rid of it because my anger problem almost got me killed in a situation that happened to me the beginning of this year and all I have to say for myself is that I'm damn lucky to be alive. It's something I want others to take the time to think about. If you struggle with anger, you can have others help you to change that. I'm currently seeing a psychologist. I'm going to see a new psychiatrist next year since sadly, the one I was seeing retired. Keeping my fingers crossed and hoping for good results.
But i can basically only get angry with my family. When there are sparks flying from someone i'm not close to i distract them by pissing myself so i can make my escape
Situation different online than in person. People say the most offensive comments online than they do in person since no one is going to deck them. You didn't get the message I was trying to give out.
I don't argue with people. Since I'm correct most of the time, there's really no need to argue. If somebody else wants to argue, they will be tuned out while I stand by silently basking in the glory from being right.
I'll use them as expletives at times, but I try not to direct it at the person because it feels immature with the name-calling and like you've lost instantly.
If i'm angry at work, i watch my language because according to work ethics - we're not supposed to swear.
If i'm angry at a friend which is EXTREMELY rare. I will let him have it. Doesn't matter whether i curse or not, as long as i get the point across.
A swear word to me is not different than any other word. It's other people who put "value" or "good" or "bad" words. That's immature.
I'm comfortable with swearing just as i am comfortable with eating or sleeping. Sometimes it gives more impact to a statement depending on how much i want to "bring it home."
If someone doesn't like the way i talk? Well, they can go f**ck off.
tbh if people start cursing, it does intimidate me. im like oh whoa..whoa
but no i dont curse when i argue. i actually rarely get myself into situations where i argue, but when i do "argue" i just usually say something like "ok cool" then i leave. or i'll say something really immature like "your mom" i mainly do it for the lolz
That doesn't mean I don't fly into fits of destructive screaming rage, however. :/ Just that I don't swear while doing so. I'm far more likely to bruise myself or break something than to say a four-letter word.
All the "anger-management" methods people have suggested for me have been utterly worthless. Maybe I just have the emotional resilience of a three year old. :stu
I usually do my best swearing when I do something to hurt myself. Glad to hear the OP made it through his earlier-in-the-year difficulty and taking action to remedy his anger issues.
I don't argue and I very rarely swear. I have my say and I walk away until the other person decides what they want to do about it. If someone just keeps trying to argue they can argue with thin air. I don't need extra words. My point either was understood or it wasn't. I'm either done dealing with you or you are ready to come to a calm agreement. If you really really piss me off and then you say something really really stupid you may get a sentence with a swear word before I go deal with my irritation somehow.
Creative swearing is an art.. The guy next to me was in the military for about 10 years, some of the off the wall cusses he comes up with (usually at a no good blankety-blank server) make everyone around him crack up.
Usually. When I argue, it probably means I'm angry about something. That's only with my family. If it's a calm argument and I'm not frustrated, I have no reason to express anger.
I don't swear vocally. In my head I do or as an exclamation of anger at a situation, but never in an argument. I found being calm, polite, and passive aggressive much more effective and detrimental to my opponent's well being.
Online I swear pretty frequently even when I am not arguing, so you can only imagine...
IRL I will swear if someone makes me really, really angry, but I generally don't get mad easily. I'm usually calm, cool and collected and try to resolve conflicts in a peaceful manner.
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