What things are you confident in? Not confident in?

[bwidger85]

I've read a couple of threads about confidence lately and people talk about how their confident in some things over others...

This thread is asking what your confident in verses what your not confident in.

Anyone like to start?

[carambola]

I am only confident when there's no possibility of being wrong in front of anyone else. I'm not confident about anything (even things I am extremely unlikely to be wrong about) when I am in view of others, but I may be confident about things when I am working on my own and no one will ever see what I'm doing.

[pita]

I'm not confident about most things. I think the only things I'm confident about are talking to senior citizens and finding my way around.

[malaise]

I am very stubborn and can be very militant when it comes to my opinions and things I believe in, even if it means offending someone or getting on their bad side. 99.99% of the time I'm very introverted, aloof, and keep my thoughts to myself, but if something sets me off, like if someone says something extremely offensive, I go all out. It seems like the only social interaction I can do is confrontation lol.

I remember there was this b*tch in my highschool who was so popular and liked by all the teachers and students, but it seemed like I was the only one who saw through her. One time when the teacher left the class and everyone was just fooling around, I heard her and her friends start making fun of this guy, who I knew to be a loner like me. He was kind of an oddball and dorky and sometimes said strange things in class, but was totally harmless. The thing is she wasn't really talking TO him, just talking ABOUT him out loud with her friends, but he could obviously hear her. She just kept going ON and ON, and when I heard her call him "faggy" this and that I LOST it. I told her to shut her F*CKING mouth, that everyone could hear her and that she was a piece of trash-amongst other things. I don't know, I'd just had enough of her fake a$$. Ofcourse she started calling me names and talking sh*t, and her friends were laughing at me, but I didn't give a f*ck.

So yeah, if something pisses me off I can be confident. Otherwise I'm pretty insecure and self-conscious.

[GnR]

Ditto on the confrontation thing. If someone ****s with me or my friends, I feel sorry for them.

I'm also confident in most intellectual conversations (other than politics).
I'm confident in most sports/athletic activities.
I'm confident in beer drinking contests.
I'm confident in my writing abilities.
I'm confident in my driving abilities and heavy equipment operation.
I'm confident in bed (usually).

I think that's about it.

[WTFnooooo]

Confident when I help people with a physical task.
When I talk to very young or very old people.

Social anxiety for me comes from the fear of being discouraged and ridiculed. It's stupid for me now that I'm by myself and I think to myself, "damn, how stupid was that", but the situation takes over me.
I would like to rewire my brain differently OR live in a world with less douchebags.
I prefer the latter because I don't consider my personality a threat to the world.
I detest people who try to intimidate you. Maybe some day I will be able to fly past their BS, I need to practice.

[neurotic1]

confident that I'll make a fool of myself, but that's not confidence i guess.
I think i can handle some things better than others, but then there are some that do better than me.

[zomgz]

I'm confident if I've done the thing I'm about to do a billion times before and know exactly how to do it.

[izzy]

Originally Posted by malaise

I am very stubborn and can be very militant when it comes to my opinions and things I believe in, even if it means offending someone or getting on their bad side. 99.99% of the time I'm very introverted, aloof, and keep my thoughts to myself, but if something sets me off, like if someone says something extremely offensive, I go all out. It seems like the only social interaction I can do is confrontation lol.

I remember there was this b*tch in my highschool who was so popular and liked by all the teachers and students, but it seemed like I was the only one who saw through her. One time when the teacher left the class and everyone was just fooling around, I heard her and her friends start making fun of this guy, who I knew to be a loner like me. He was kind of an oddball and dorky and sometimes said strange things in class, but was totally harmless. The thing is she wasn't really talking TO him, just talking ABOUT him out loud with her friends, but he could obviously hear her. She just kept going ON and ON, and when I heard her call him "faggy" this and that I LOST it. I told her to shut her F*CKING mouth, that everyone could hear her and that she was a piece of trash-amongst other things. I don't know, I'd just had enough of her fake a$$. Ofcourse she started calling me names and talking sh*t, and her friends were laughing at me, but I didn't give a f*ck.

So yeah, if something pisses me off I can be confident. Otherwise I'm pretty insecure and self-conscious.

Good for you!!! I'm kinda the same way.

My freshman year in high school, this guy (who everyone made fun of and had, like, one friend) set his stuff down at a seat at a lunch table behind mine. When he went to get his lunch, the table filled up and people disregarded his stuff and sat in the seat he saved. When he came back, they wouldn't let him sit down. That made me mad, so I told them they were all a bunch of jackasses, and I told that guy he could sit by me.

[flip5071]

im not confident about much, maybe my knowledge of sports, thats about it

[a2f]

i'm pretty confident in my ability to smash noobs in starcraft, warcraft and wow... not so confident in my ability to make friends

[TheDaffodil]

Confident in writing what I mean (most times).
Not confident in saying what I mean (verbal communication tends to make me feel stupid; I feel like my voice is too girly sometimes; and I tend to go the silly route over the serious route more often so when I mean to be serious I'm afraid I don't sound serious).

Confident in studying a situation or concept and then having a solution or opinion.
Not confident in thinking on my feet (always think there's something I don't know that might change my response).

Confident in old people liking me.
Not confident in young people liking me (I don't always think they'll dislike me...I just think they'll judge me as someone who isn't fun just because of how I carry myself sometimes, whereas old people either don't care or just ****ing like me cuz I'm polite and like raisins or something, haha).

Confident in males liking me.
Not confident in females liking me (I feel like women judge me more harshly than men do...and even if they don't like my personality that much, they'd probably still sleep with me so that makes me feel a little better ).

Confident in ordering food online.
Not confident in ordering at a restaurant (I always forget that they're gonna ask me what sides I want or how I want something prepared and I get frazzled and then I think that maybe I said something wrong so they're going to bring me something I didn't intend to get but online I can obsess over what I put in as my order and then confirm it).

Confident in going places with someone I know.
Not confident in going places alone (when I'm alone in public, I make people who aren't seemingly suspicious suspicious in my head - example: on campus I look at students who are by themselves just standing around with their hands hidden and think they might have a gun and that makes me anxious).

Fairly confident in communicating sexually with someone I know/like.
Not confident in actually being sexual with someone I know/like (I'm super concerned about their standards; even if they say they don't have standards I know that they do and that disappointment is possible and probably certain since I'm a virgin and really wouldn't know what I was doing; this is especially true if the person has watched porn because then I feel like they have unrealistic expectations or would naturally compare my body to a pornstar's body).

[plastics]

I can't say I'm confident about anything.

[ChadsWick1234]

Originally Posted by malaise

I am very stubborn and can be very militant when it comes to my opinions and things I believe in, even if it means offending someone or getting on their bad side. 99.99% of the time I'm very introverted, aloof, and keep my thoughts to myself, but if something sets me off, like if someone says something extremely offensive, I go all out. It seems like the only social interaction I can do is confrontation lol.

I remember there was this b*tch in my highschool who was so popular and liked by all the teachers and students, but it seemed like I was the only one who saw through her. One time when the teacher left the class and everyone was just fooling around, I heard her and her friends start making fun of this guy, who I knew to be a loner like me. He was kind of an oddball and dorky and sometimes said strange things in class, but was totally harmless. The thing is she wasn't really talking TO him, just talking ABOUT him out loud with her friends, but he could obviously hear her. She just kept going ON and ON, and when I heard her call him "faggy" this and that I LOST it. I told her to shut her F*CKING mouth, that everyone could hear her and that she was a piece of trash-amongst other things. I don't know, I'd just had enough of her fake a$$. Ofcourse she started calling me names and talking sh*t, and her friends were laughing at me, but I didn't give a f*ck.

So yeah, if something pisses me off I can be confident. Otherwise I'm pretty insecure and self-conscious.

You sound just like me. If someone attacks me verbally I am quick to engage in conflict. You have to stand up for yourself otherwise people will walk all over you. With guys they just want to fight each other girls are more verbal. Sometimes I really feel like I going to lose it. Some people just don't care about anyone but themselves.

[Ambivert]

Originally Posted by ChadsWick1234

You sound just like me. If someone attacks me verbally I am quick to engage in conflict. You have to stand up for yourself otherwise people will walk all over you. With guys they just want to fight each other girls are more verbal. Sometimes I really feel like I going to lose it. Some people just don't care about anyone but themselves.

Question: don't you fear retaliation by the other party? People are pretty vengeful nowadays. I have heard of situations of a couple guys killing each other with knives/guns over something worth pennies.

[Hello22]

I'm confident when doing college work, talking to people when i have a few drinks on me, and socialising with a group of friends,
Im not confident when starting a new job (i'm a quivering reck!), formal speaking (presentations) especially infront of peers, when someone puts me on the spot to introduce my self infront of a class of 50 people.

[imt]

I have a lot of confidence in my creativity, artistic abilities.

[mcmuffinme]

i was a pitcher from 8-20 years old for league, travel and school softball teams. i was extremely confident in my pitching. i was really good, and it was awesome (unless i was having an off day).

my last year in softball my coaches thought i had no confidence based on my demeanor and how i interacted (or didn't interact) with my teammates. it made them hesitant to give me a chance so they neglected me as a player. my pitching coach for the college team told our catcher he felt i should be pitching based on my ability when he would coach me individually.

they hardly ever pitched me, and one random game when we were sucking a-- against the number one team in our district they put me in and i struck out the top batters in their line-up after they had dominated our other two pitchers. it really pisses me off that i had to be sidelined because they mistook my lack of social confidence as a lack of confidence in the sport- especially when i am incredibly comfortable pitching. it was bullocks, but at least i got to prove myself there.

i remember even my teammates telling me during that game not to be nervous, and i was so frustrated because i wasn't nervous and they just assumed i was. goddamn, i hated that.

[Colhad75]

Hmmm, can't think of much I am confident about. Maybe going to the gym and doing my routine.

I have tried doing a lot of things. Quite often I would be doing ok but I would only get so far and not be able to improve further. Then I lose interest and then may or may not come back to it.