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Old 09-21-2010, 07:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Uncomfortable in your own skin?

I'm not really sure how to explain this, but i'll try my best.

Does anyone else feel as if they have to constantly adjust their face because it doesn't feel right? When i get anxious/am around a lot of people, or close to someone, my face stiffens and gets tight, i feel like i'm walking around with a suction cup on my face. I wish i could just feel comfortable in my own skin...i feel so ugly no matter what i do.

And it's not only the face, i constantly have to change my posture, i feel terribly uncomfortable standing still somewhere, especially if people can look at me for long moments of time. Today at work we gathered around for a meeting, and i stood first with my arms crossed, kept looking around, tilting my head, trying to relax my facial expression. Standing in front of all of my coworkers was torture. I'm just so over-aware of dumb s!@# and i drive myself crazy obsessing over every little thing. Like if my feet look big from a certain angle, how i believe i look fat when i'm not wearing a belt, i wish i could just...be.

I just wanted to get that off my chest, this has been going on for years!
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Old 09-21-2010, 08:07 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I think I can relate-Everything feels magnified-I worry people are disgusted by the sight of my bitten nails,that I'm standing awkwardly,slumped or in some way positioned oddly. It's like I have to instruct myself to look calm,interested,happy or whatever expression is called for. The little director inside my head is calling all the shots-no wonder feel so wiped out after socializing. Everybody else has just been enjoying themselves while I've had to put on act after act in a one woman play.
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Old 09-22-2010, 01:39 AM   #3 (permalink)
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This is one of my biggest problems.
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Old 09-22-2010, 03:19 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I can totally relate to this, because I feel like i'm self concious in every social situation,
I'm really uncomfortable in my own skin, I feel like adjusting my facial expression every second, and I just don't know where to look at, and I can't stand still in the same body language, it feels like i'm hyper all the time. Hyper isn't the right word, but I cannot better describe it. *your not alone*
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Old 09-22-2010, 04:57 AM   #5 (permalink)
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it feels like i'm hyper all the time. Hyper isn't the right word, but I cannot better describe it. *your not alone*
I think nervous energy is the word for it, I get it to, I always get really anxious about the way I look when I enter a room and don't know what to do with my hands and im always touching and adjusting my hair, face and neck. Another thing is if im in a small room with lots of people I just dont know where to look and I always catch eye contact with people then quickly divert my eyes, then get really worried about them thinking im weird
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Old 09-22-2010, 02:06 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Just had this experience today while talking to representatives from companies at my university's career fair expo. Feels like my mouth goes numb, especially on the left side, and I feel really uncomfortable and start to try to switch positions and do anything I can to feel comfortable again.

Its so stupid and I don't understand why it happens. It is the most frustrating thing because when I'm not around anybody I feel fine and understand that its crazy how I get so anxious, but I just can't control it.
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Old 09-23-2010, 04:48 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Wow, not the only one..starting happening when I was 10 or 11..I hate it so much. I hope it gets better with everyone who feels this way.
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Old 09-24-2010, 08:03 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Right here. I grow crazy stiff in uncomfortable situations. It even happens when walking or shopping. I don't know where to divert my eyes and I catch myself looking in glass or mirrors trying to make my face relax because I get these old lady lines on my forehead. Body language too. If I stay still for to long I feel awkward and like ppl are judging. Sucks
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Old 09-24-2010, 08:40 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Always. I find myself wishing I could be someone else just so I don't have to always feel uncomfortable all the time. I agree with Roo here: Sucks. :P
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Old 09-25-2010, 12:17 AM   #10 (permalink)
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i cant even look peoples in the eyes cause im sure their staring at my ****ing ugly face..........
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Old 09-25-2010, 04:28 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Ya i'm very uncomfortable in my own skin - i often feel like i'm standing awkard or something
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Old 07-14-2012, 06:06 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I've been going through the same thing, even has a child I was never able to be comfortable with my self.To give some background of my self; I'm 25 years old, I've never had a girlfriend before. I've never really been comfortable with sexuality; I've been scared of my mind and my own-self for many years. I had a mildly normal child hood parents still together a supportive family. I went through a rough patch in my 20's; drugs, being arrested for a DUI, and doing some other stupid things which go with me to the grave; no I will not talk about them in any case. I would rather take my own life then access those memories, I have thought of suicide in the past, even made a plan when things get really bad in my life to kill my self. I don't plan on using the plan unless something really serious happens to me.

Emotions freak me out, when I was younger I was really emotional. I do have feelings for a friend of mine; we known each other for years now. But, she does deserve better then me i'm a selfish person in a lot of aspects. I'm gonna stop there since I don't want to ramble on like lunatic.
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Old 07-14-2012, 08:06 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I feel the exact same. Stupid tenseness.
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Old 07-14-2012, 08:22 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I deal with same issues...I feel as if my face gives away too much nervousness or fear. Especially my eyes, I don`t know what to look at walking down the street or down the aisles of a mall etc...I`m afraid that people will notice and think I`m a weirdo or whatever....constantly annoyed by this....
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story of my life. *sigh*
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Old 07-28-2012, 06:33 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I know EXACTLY how you feel! I was a hideously sickly looking kid, although my mother said different. LOL But don't they always! Anyway, I find myself imagining how other people perceive me when I am stared at in a negative way. I wonder what people think. I feel disgusted that I still crave superficial acceptance that really shouldn't matter. I guess it's my low self esteem.
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Old 07-04-2013, 01:50 AM   #17 (permalink)
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hi everyone, I have a step son with social anxiety and his habit is to sit in front of the computer for all of his waking hours playing a very complicated fantasy game which he gets upset with if something goes wrong.

He gets fed and clothed and has a roof over his head and does not work and is 23. He has social anxiety because he is fearful. Well, I think its a slow type of hell being too afraid to go out, to have fun, to talk to people. Everyone is actually fearful of something to some extent. Its allowing that fear to take control and keep you stuck and down that is most sinister. Facing that fear, no matter how uncomfortable gives you a little more strength and muscle power to deal with a challenge again. If you run away from it - its back and perhaps even worse.

So take note, if you allow your fears and negative feelings and habits to control you they will and you will not have quality of life that you deserve. If you challenge them and look them in they eye and say give me your worst. You will find they are paper tigers anyway. Fear of fear is worse than fear itself.

I found these top ten lessons learned on how to be comfortable in your own skin and I want to share them… Like any habit you need to practice and retrain your mind. Social anxiety is a paper tiger. Find some fun in life as its a long road in life and there is no other choice but get on board and enjoy the ride OR not. But not conquering your fears and staying stuck is no fun either so give it a go.

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No, I feel this way too in social situations.
Especially feeling that my feet look big from certain angles!
I thought that was just me!
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Old 07-04-2013, 06:18 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I have the same problem.
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Old 07-04-2013, 09:31 AM   #20 (permalink)
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How peculiar. I don't really feel like this, but I do mess with my hands nervously.

Does anyone do that?
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