OK, so there is this guy at the library...

[Lisa]

I am in the process of finishing my degree.... I am at the library a lot.

On Tuesday my usual seat was taken so I sat somewhere else. There, at another table very near me was this quite attractive guy who kept looking at me. He left after a while but I definitely wanted to see him again.

I come here every day anyway so I expected to see him. I did (I thought). On Wednesday, I was drinking coffee at the cafeteria when he walked past me. He looked at me, turned his nose up and walked away. WTF???

I was quite irritated. Yesterday the same thing happened again. I was really annoyed and thought that this guy is insecure. He sees a woman he likes, flirts but then gets cold feet and turns arrogant.

What I did notice over the past couple of days was that he looked slightly slimmer and taller than I remembered him. Then again, I didn't get a good look at him. He was sitting across the table from me. He also seemed to have much more of a beard than I remembered....

So I already said my goodbyes to a chance at getting a boyfriend and had actually forgotten about him when I went in this morning.

So I am sitting at my usual table and guess who walks past? Him. Twice in a row. Initially I thought he had gotten over his anxiety and turned friendly again. I felt fed up and thought that there is no way I am interested now.

I did notice though that he looked like he did when I first saw him on Tuesday.... When he walked past for the third time, trying to make eye contact I realized that I probably got him mixed up with someone else.

So to think about that I just went to the cafeteria again. And guess who sits at another table? The arrogant guy. They look like twins!

This is the funniest thing that happend to me in a while.

Watch this space - I might actually have a boyfriend soon!

[StarryMessenger]

If that guy walked past you 3 times, I'm pretty sure he's interested in you.

It's not easy to approach a girl so do make things easier for him the next time and make eye contact with him too :P

[woakid]

Originally Posted by StarryMessenger

If that guy walked past you 3 times, I'm pretty sure he's interested in you.

It's not easy to approach a girl so do make things easier for him the next time and make eye contact with him too :P

^ this I second... Maybe you could smile at him.. just a slight smile... That would do the trick.

[Zeeshan]

Originally Posted by Lisa

I am in the process of finishing my degree.... I am at the library a lot.

On Tuesday my usual seat was taken so I sat somewhere else. There, at another table very near me was this quite attractive guy who kept looking at me. He left after a while but I definitely wanted to see him again.

I come here every day anyway so I expected to see him. I did (I thought). On Wednesday, I was drinking coffee at the cafeteria when he walked past me. He looked at me, turned his nose up and walked away. WTF???

I was quite irritated. Yesterday the same thing happened again. I was really annoyed and thought that this guy is insecure. He sees a woman he likes, flirts but then gets cold feet and turns arrogant.

What I did notice over the past couple of days was that he looked slightly slimmer and taller than I remembered him. Then again, I didn't get a good look at him. He was sitting across the table from me. He also seemed to have much more of a beard than I remembered....

So I already said my goodbyes to a chance at getting a boyfriend and had actually forgotten about him when I went in this morning.

So I am sitting at my usual table and guess who walks past? Him. Twice in a row. Initially I thought he had gotten over his anxiety and turned friendly again. I felt fed up and thought that there is no way I am interested now.

I did notice though that he looked like he did when I first saw him on Tuesday.... When he walked past for the third time, trying to make eye contact I realized that I probably got him mixed up with someone else.

So to think about that I just went to the cafeteria again. And guess who sits at another table? The arrogant guy. They look like twins!

This is the funniest thing that happend to me in a while.

Watch this space - I might actually have a boyfriend soon!

i have actually approached a girl at the library, and it is scary but i think i could do it again.

[Lisa]

I will try and make it easy for him....


I am back at the library today. He just walked past me. I only noticed because I happened to look up. He didn't try to make eye contact. This is getting complicated. Hopefully I will get a chance to smile at him.

[Lisa]

Ok, so I just did exactly what he did on Saturday. I walked around, found him and then pretended to need some books from a shelf very near him. He notied me but ignored me walking past twice. When I walked past for the third and last time he actually turned his head away.

this does not look good.... I wonder what happend?

[PickleNose]

Why not smile at him and see what happens? If he likes you, he might be more likely to react to a sign he can't mistake for something else.

[DMIND11]

Yeah, don't think it's that easy for us guys to approach girls. If he's looking at you then it definitely means he likes you. We men make that easy or obvious. We fear rejection and sometimes that is what keeps us from approaching girls.

[Lisa]

OK, first he ignored me (as posted) and about half an hour later he walked past me. A few times but he avoided looking at me. He is definitely scared of rejection. I will be nice I cannot overdo it or I look desperate.

I haven't seen him today at all.

What I notice is that there are a few guys here who all look the same. Skinny jeans, a beard and glasses. It is kind of hard to tell one from the other sometimes. They all look like this:

[rednosereindeer]

Originally Posted by Lisa

What I notice is that there are a few guys here who all look the same.

Yeah, exactly. I'm pretty bad at telling people apart, so unless someone in a crowd greets me first I wouldn't assume they're who I thought they were.

About the boyfriend thing, I personally wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you. You could be more pro-active if you like him that much, and smiling is only the least you could do.

[jonmorris73]

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[upndownboi]

Originally Posted by Lisa

OK, first he ignored me (as posted) and about half an hour later he walked past me. A few times but he avoided looking at me. He is definitely scared of rejection. I will be nice I cannot overdo it or I look desperate.

I haven't seen him today at all.

What I notice is that there are a few guys here who all look the same. Skinny jeans, a beard and glasses. It is kind of hard to tell one from the other sometimes. They all look like this:

man David Baddiel gets all the chicks

[Twelve Keyz]

Originally Posted by Ltblue

He is so lucky that you are gonna sit on his face soon.

The guy's probably just using my strategy...

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by upndownboi

man David Baddiel gets all the chicks

Believe it or not that in the pic is actually Daniel Radcliff (Harry Potter). Unbelievable transformation, isn't it?

About this guy: So shortly after my last post he walked by. He is wearing a pretty distinctive shirt today which is a good thing (no mixing him up today).

He walked past me with a girl. He actually stopped and made a point of talking to her in front of me. At least that is how I interpreted it. I looked at them briefly and then ignored them.

Their body language was quite clear. That is not his girlfriend, more like a best friend.

Anyways - I had to leave shortly after to tutor another student. When I came back I sat outside to have some water and to relax. I checked but I didn't see him. After I had sat there for about 15 min I saw him and that girl. There were sitting pretty close by. They must have watched me. I ignored them - what else could I do?

I smoked a cigarette when I sat there and they must have seen that. He got up with a cigarette in his hand and walked towards me. Obviously he wanted to ask for a light. Just before reaching me he turrned away and asked someone else. I watched him and then glanced at his friend. She was watching me watching him.

So I am pretty sure. That is his best friend and he brought her along to get her opinion on me.

He got the light and then walked past me, cigarette in hand, ignoring me. I had to smile. This thing is getting funny, we have to find a way to talk to each other. I am pretty sure she saw me smiling.

Anyways - I went inside and am sitting at my usual desk. They just walked past me. They ignored me but he looked really happy. He had a really big grin on his face.....

I feel kind of happy now as well.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by jonmorris73

Does being in the library make it tougher for him to talk to you? Is it very quiet in there? Maybe find a place to hang out outside the library where he will pass by so that he can approach

It's not that we are in a library. There is a cafeteria here and also the green outside where people sit. It is more like a fear of rejection, I think. But that fear should be dealt with now. His friend saw me checking him out.

[jonmorris73]

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[woakid]

Originally Posted by Lisa

It's not that we are in a library. There is a cafeteria here and also the green outside where people sit. It is more like a fear of rejection, I think. But that fear should be dealt with now. His friend saw me checking him out.

Ok... Wtf is up with this dumb complexion that pretty girls have about looking desperate??!! If he finds you pretty and cute than there is no ****ing way that if you approach him he will smell desperation... Unless he thinks very highly of himself which I doubt since dude's lacking balls to sweep you off your feet. Excuse me for all the cuzing, lol I can't help it, my sister always says the same thing about looking desperate when she is not a bad looking girl at all. Btw, I find this little story of yours interesting and quite curious, keep me updated on this


And btw, if a cute chick starts hinting at me pretty hard... I'd be saying "thank ya jeezzas! Just don't let me pee infront of her". Not desperation, lol

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by woakid

Ok... Wtf is up with this dumb complexion that pretty girls have about looking desperate??!! If he finds you pretty and cute than there is no ****ing way that if you approach him he will smell desperation... Unless he thinks very highly of himself which I doubt since dude's lacking balls to sweep you off your feet. Excuse me for all the cuzing, lol I can't help it, my sister always says the same thing about looking desperate when she is not a bad looking girl at all. Btw, I find this little story of yours interesting and quite curious, keep me updated on this


And btw, if a cute chick starts hinting at me pretty hard... I'd be saying "thank ya jeezzas! Just don't let me pee infront of her". Not desperation, lol

I am back at the library but I have not seen him yet. He will probably walk by soon.

Or, he might just disappear completely. He seems very anxious about approaching me. I saw him one last time yesterday when they left the library. They stopped and it looked like he was going to maybe say something but he didn't and they left.

I have thought about appraoching him if he doesn't speak to me today. I am worried though that he is so scared that he won't be able to communicate. Then what?

[Lisa]

Well, he hasn't shown up. That can only mean that he has a bad case of anxiety. Not sure what to do now. He might be around tomorrow..... but still, if it is that bad it might really not help him if I approach him. He might just become mute.

I really am looking for a boyfriend.

I guess I will start diverting my attention to all the other skinny jeans wearing hipsters that are around. After all, there are so many of them, and they all look the same.....

[Lisa]

Went outside to sit on the green after my last post. There he was. He spotted me straight away but didn't come over.

The fact that I didn't see him all morning means that he avoided me I am beginning to feel upset.....