Social Anxiety Support

Blue Bird · 11-16-2006, 09:43 AM

I was at the library earlier this week and I was reading some stuff when someone came at sat at the table I was sitting at. It was a guy and hejust sat down and started taking things out of his backpack and put them on the table. I'm so nosey, I was just dying to see who had sat next to me. Most people don't, I don't know what it is about me. But anyway, when I looked up at him, he was looking back at me and I say that he had been badly burned my fire. I wasn't freaked out or scared. I smiled, at leat I thought I did. Then I just went back to my work. I don't know if I looked too long, didn't look long enough, or maybe I just had that stupid look on my face that I sometimes have. I sat there all of two seconds and then he started to put his things back in his backpack. Then he left. I felt so bad. I think I may have done something wrong, but I look at everybody though. The few times someone decides to sit close to me, on purpose, I scare them away. I was in the library yesterday, but in a different spot and I saw him again when I was looking out the window. I wonder if I was sitting in the same place, would he sit next to me again. I'm glad I wasn't in the same place, because then I'd see him sit somewhere else. Rejection hurts. It's just one of the reason why I don't put myself out there. I don't just bounce back emotionally. It's been a few days now and I'm still thinking about it.

KimberlyK · 11-16-2006, 10:11 AM

He could be ultra-sensitive about his face and any little thing could make him feel rejected. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes, you can do everything right and still fail to meet another person's expectations.

OneIsALonelyNumber · 11-16-2006, 03:54 PM

First of all...

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kimberly69

He could be ultra-sensitive about his face and any little thing could make him feel rejected. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes, you can do everything right and still fail to meet another person's expectations.

You didn't do anything wrong... this is all about something going on inside his mind, and not with your behavior. I can empathise with both of you.

Blue Bird · 11-16-2006, 05:02 PM

Thanks guys.

11-16-2006, 09:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
Blue Bird Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 684	Making Others Uncomfortable I was at the library earlier this week and I was reading some stuff when someone came at sat at the table I was sitting at. It was a guy and hejust sat down and started taking things out of his backpack and put them on the table. I'm so nosey, I was just dying to see who had sat next to me. Most people don't, I don't know what it is about me. But anyway, when I looked up at him, he was looking back at me and I say that he had been badly burned my fire. I wasn't freaked out or scared. I smiled, at leat I thought I did. Then I just went back to my work. I don't know if I looked too long, didn't look long enough, or maybe I just had that stupid look on my face that I sometimes have. I sat there all of two seconds and then he started to put his things back in his backpack. Then he left. I felt so bad. I think I may have done something wrong, but I look at everybody though. The few times someone decides to sit close to me, on purpose, I scare them away. I was in the library yesterday, but in a different spot and I saw him again when I was looking out the window. I wonder if I was sitting in the same place, would he sit next to me again. I'm glad I wasn't in the same place, because then I'd see him sit somewhere else. Rejection hurts. It's just one of the reason why I don't put myself out there. I don't just bounce back emotionally. It's been a few days now and I'm still thinking about it. __________________ Show love.

11-16-2006, 05:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
Blue Bird Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 684	Thanks guys. __________________ Show love.

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11-16-2006, 10:11 AM	#2 (permalink)
KimberlyK Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 929	He could be ultra-sensitive about his face and any little thing could make him feel rejected. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes, you can do everything right and still fail to meet another person's expectations.