Social Anxiety Support

ilovemusic89 · 06-20-2012, 05:47 PM

How often do you girls get hit on or cold approached by guys during the daytime? And do you consider yourself physically attractive?

I don't really get approached by any guys during the day, and at the rare times that a guy does, he happens to be old enough to be my own grandpa, or somebody that's just really creepy.
I feel really ugly as a result and I don't really go out much at all and exclude myself from activities that a normal college girl my age would partake in.

I'm scared I'll never find a boyfriend. I am 23 years old and seems like time is flying by faster the older I'm getting.
I have general anxiety (agoraphobia) and depression and feel like maybe guys don't like the vibe that I am emanating?

SoWrongItsRight · 06-20-2012, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovemusic89

How often do you girls get hit on or cold approached by guys during the daytime? And do you consider yourself physically attractive?

I don't really get approached by any guys during the day, and at the rare times that a guy does, he happens to be old enough to be my own grandpa, or somebody that's just really creepy.
I feel really ugly as a result and I don't really go out much at all and exclude myself from activities that a normal college girl my age would partake in.

I'm scared I'll never find a boyfriend. I am 23 years old and seems like time is flying by faster the older I'm getting.
I have general anxiety (agoraphobia) and depression and feel like maybe guys don't like the vibe that I am emanating?

I get cat calls or hit on by some guys who like you said are old enough to be my grandpa. That's about it.

You're still young, you've got loads of time to find someone

Tangerine · 06-20-2012, 06:00 PM

Yeah, it's always old creepy men, or real ghetto looking dudes that reek of alchohol. I haven't heard many stories of friends being approached genuinely by a similarly aged nice guy, and it's certainly never happened to me.

Your agoraphobia and depression probably keeps you from interacting as much, so I would attribute it to that, and not base it on being hit on in the street. (Ugh street harassment)

sas111 · 06-20-2012, 06:06 PM

It's as if everyone my age is already happily paired up..everyone. So I get hit on by very old men. Not that I want someone my age to approch me at this point in my life. I'm kinda through altogether.

meganmila · 06-20-2012, 06:13 PM

To be honest I don't notice any hit ons...maybe stares that's about it..no one ever really approaches me. I have noticed people like Mexicans and stuff look at me ( I'm not sounding racists btw) I dunno I never pay attention. I wonder what that says about me :/

ilovemusic89 · 06-20-2012, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Tangerine

Yeah, it's always old creepy men, or real ghetto looking dudes that reek of alchohol. I haven't heard many stories of friends being approached genuinely by a similarly aged nice guy, and it's certainly never happened to me.

Your agoraphobia and depression probably keeps you from interacting as much, so I would attribute it to that, and not base it on being hit on in the street. (Ugh street harassment)

yea, im not implying that i WANT to get hit on by guys/men, it's just that I'm curious if this kind of thing really happens often to girls (attractive or not).
i guess your location kinda matters as well.

ilovemusic89 · 06-20-2012, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanilllabb

It's as if everyone my age is already happily paired up..everyone. So I get hit on by very old men. Not that I want someone my age to approch me at this point in my life. I'm kinda through altogether.

well, that's interesting.
yea, i see the same thing happening around me, everybody is either getting married or getting bf/gf- it's depressing, to say the least.

meganmila · 06-20-2012, 06:32 PM

Yeah it never seems to happen to me so who knows...and I never seen guys making cat calls to women all the times I have been out hmmm weird...they obviously stare for a long time that's it meh.

Tangerine · 06-20-2012, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovemusic89

yea, im not implying that i WANT to get hit on by guys/men, it's just that I'm curious if this kind of thing really happens often to girls (attractive or not).
i guess your location kinda matters as well.

Lol, yeah I wouldn't want that either, it'd be really awkward I think. (Oh I wasn't insinuating you did, just rambling on my end)
Yeah, location does matter a lot I think

coeur_brise · 06-20-2012, 06:42 PM

Not a lot, not even a gawking at.. Maybe I'm just paranoid and think they're staring at me when really I'm staring at them so they stare back, but other than that, nothing.

huh · 06-20-2012, 06:48 PM

I think a guy hit on me at the coffee shop last week. It was seriously awkward. He just started talking to me and making jokes and everything. He was probably 10 or 15 years older than me. Anywho, I'm guessing you weren't looking for guys experiences...but there you go

I'm generally incapable of approaching people like that. It also doesn't help that people with SA are probably more likely to come off as standoffish and distant/uninterested and are probably approached less.

PickleNose · 06-20-2012, 06:48 PM

Never

gusstaf · 06-20-2012, 07:19 PM

Not very often during the day. Mostly due to a combination of me being pretty average in appearance plus giving off the wrong vibe. I get hit on in bars at night, but usually by drunk guys.

MachineSupremacist · 06-20-2012, 07:35 PM

Fairly often. Most of them are just plain creepy and do not seem to understand my total lack of interest. It's... also a bad idea to consume a smoothie through a straw while dressed in short shorts on a curb in New Orleans. People think you're a male prostitute.

ilovemusic89 · 06-20-2012, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by PickleNose

Never

well, you are a guy. that doesn't surprise me.

Barette · 06-20-2012, 07:38 PM

Rarely. Like, checked out maybe once and a while, but never approached and def barely ever flirted with.

Neutrino · 06-20-2012, 07:38 PM

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ilovemusic89 · 06-20-2012, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by MachineSupremacist

Fairly often. Most of them are just plain creepy and do not seem to understand my total lack of interest. It's... also a bad idea to consume a smoothie through a straw while dressed in short shorts on a curb in New Orleans. People think you're a male prostitute.

interesting

ilovemusic89 · 06-20-2012, 07:42 PM

so most of the people that have replied are not approached that often...interesting.
are there any girls on here that are cold approached often during the day? LOL.

PickleNose · 06-20-2012, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovemusic89

well, you are a guy. that doesn't surprise me.

Perhaps but that doesn't change my response.

06-20-2012, 05:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
ilovemusic89 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: NJ Gender: Female Posts: 115	How often are you cold approached/hit on by guys? How often do you girls get hit on or cold approached by guys during the daytime? And do you consider yourself physically attractive? I don't really get approached by any guys during the day, and at the rare times that a guy does, he happens to be old enough to be my own grandpa, or somebody that's just really creepy. I feel really ugly as a result and I don't really go out much at all and exclude myself from activities that a normal college girl my age would partake in. I'm scared I'll never find a boyfriend. I am 23 years old and seems like time is flying by faster the older I'm getting. I have general anxiety (agoraphobia) and depression and feel like maybe guys don't like the vibe that I am emanating?

06-20-2012, 06:48 PM	#12 (permalink)
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06-20-2012, 06:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
Tangerine Status: Cool Cat Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Indianapolis Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 895	Yeah, it's always old creepy men, or real ghetto looking dudes that reek of alchohol. I haven't heard many stories of friends being approached genuinely by a similarly aged nice guy, and it's certainly never happened to me. Your agoraphobia and depression probably keeps you from interacting as much, so I would attribute it to that, and not base it on being hit on in the street. (Ugh street harassment)

06-20-2012, 06:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
sas111 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 3,118	It's as if everyone my age is already happily paired up..everyone. So I get hit on by very old men. Not that I want someone my age to approch me at this point in my life. I'm kinda through altogether.

06-20-2012, 06:13 PM	#5 (permalink)
meganmila Status: Mega awesome Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 3,972	To be honest I don't notice any hit ons...maybe stares that's about it..no one ever really approaches me. I have noticed people like Mexicans and stuff look at me ( I'm not sounding racists btw) I dunno I never pay attention. I wonder what that says about me :/

06-20-2012, 06:32 PM	#8 (permalink)
meganmila Status: Mega awesome Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 3,972	Yeah it never seems to happen to me so who knows...and I never seen guys making cat calls to women all the times I have been out hmmm weird...they obviously stare for a long time that's it meh.

06-20-2012, 06:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
coeur_brise Status: lost in a romanwilderness Join Date: Oct 2004 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,044	Not a lot, not even a gawking at.. Maybe I'm just paranoid and think they're staring at me when really I'm staring at them so they stare back, but other than that, nothing.

06-20-2012, 06:48 PM	#11 (permalink)
huh Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: WI Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 5,126	I think a guy hit on me at the coffee shop last week. It was seriously awkward. He just started talking to me and making jokes and everything. He was probably 10 or 15 years older than me. Anywho, I'm guessing you weren't looking for guys experiences...but there you go I'm generally incapable of approaching people like that. It also doesn't help that people with SA are probably more likely to come off as standoffish and distant/uninterested and are probably approached less.

06-20-2012, 07:19 PM	#13 (permalink)
gusstaf Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Minnesota Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,386	Not very often during the day. Mostly due to a combination of me being pretty average in appearance plus giving off the wrong vibe. I get hit on in bars at night, but usually by drunk guys.

06-20-2012, 07:35 PM	#14 (permalink)
MachineSupremacist Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Surprisingly, a happy sunny tropical island. Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 892	Fairly often. Most of them are just plain creepy and do not seem to understand my total lack of interest. It's... also a bad idea to consume a smoothie through a straw while dressed in short shorts on a curb in New Orleans. People think you're a male prostitute.

06-20-2012, 07:38 PM	#16 (permalink)
Barette Status: Hermphrodte with attitude Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Inside my brain. Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 4,475	Rarely. Like, checked out maybe once and a while, but never approached and def barely ever flirted with.

06-20-2012, 07:38 PM	#17 (permalink)
Neutrino Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Apr 2011 Age: 19 Posts: 3,366	.

06-20-2012, 07:42 PM	#19 (permalink)
ilovemusic89 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: NJ Gender: Female Posts: 115	so most of the people that have replied are not approached that often...interesting. are there any girls on here that are cold approached often during the day? LOL.