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Still Waters · 10-29-2009, 04:50 PM

I feel like I have the trifecta-the personality,voice and demeanor that so often means I'm over looked. Despite our twisted view of the world - it really isn't full of people who shine and excel. The world is full of mediocrity. But,I always feel that others have more of a sense of self-are stronger within. I always feel other people are more "real" in some way. Does anybody understand?

Tau Sin · 10-29-2009, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Still Waters

I feel like I have the trifecta-the personality,voice and demeanor that so often means I'm over looked. Despite our twisted view of the world - it really isn't full of people who shine and excel. The world is full of mediocrity. But,I always feel that others have more of a sense of self-are stronger within. I always feel other people are more "real" in some way. Does anybody understand?

I've been there plenty of times in my life mate. A sense of self in others is hard to say really... case in point, a lot of people have no idea why they do the things they do.

Sorry I have no idea what I'm typing atm, low blood sugar I need to eat something!

EremitaGermanus · 11-01-2009, 04:24 AM

Thinking about it I guess I get some inner strength from emotional and material independence I developed over the years!

Once I realised that many of the people around me couldn't survive when having to live like me is kind of uplifting.

hi im joe · 11-01-2009, 04:31 AM

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Once I realised that many of the people around me couldn't survive when having to live like me is kind of uplifting.

I agree with this. I dont wanna generalize non-sa people, but alot of them are soft. This is why so many of them complain and whine over silly things.
People with SA live through pain everyday and naturally i think this gives us a drive that others dont have. Sometimes you may doubt your inner strength, but its there.

Oneiros · 11-01-2009, 09:10 AM

I think you gain inner strength by experiencing anguish, pain and confusion enough to expand the boundaries of your capacity to handle it. But then, you can adapt to this, so experiencing pleasure and ease becomes difficult to handle, and this will push your limits as well.

Basically anything that creates friction with what you are accustomed to.

I should also add that I think there is a long delay between our gaining strength and realising it, or using it to help ourselves.

10-29-2009, 04:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
Still Waters Status: Lost And Unaccounted For Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stuck in the Lost and Found Gender: Female Posts: 668	How in the world do you gain inner strength? I feel like I have the trifecta-the personality,voice and demeanor that so often means I'm over looked. Despite our twisted view of the world - it really isn't full of people who shine and excel. The world is full of mediocrity. But,I always feel that others have more of a sense of self-are stronger within. I always feel other people are more "real" in some way. Does anybody understand? __________________ I knew a man who lived in fear It was huge,it was angry,it was drawing near Behind his house,a secret place Was the shadow of the demon he could never face. He tells the world that it's sleeping But as the night came 'round I heard it's lonely sound It wasn't roaring,it was weeping. - Weeping - Josh Groban

11-01-2009, 04:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
EremitaGermanus Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Germany Gender: Female Age: 38 Posts: 134	Thinking about it I guess I get some inner strength from emotional and material independence I developed over the years! Once I realised that many of the people around me couldn't survive when having to live like me is kind of uplifting.

11-01-2009, 09:10 AM	#5 (permalink)
Oneiros Status: Temporarily Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 87	I think you gain inner strength by experiencing anguish, pain and confusion enough to expand the boundaries of your capacity to handle it. But then, you can adapt to this, so experiencing pleasure and ease becomes difficult to handle, and this will push your limits as well. Basically anything that creates friction with what you are accustomed to. I should also add that I think there is a long delay between our gaining strength and realising it, or using it to help ourselves.