Social Anxiety Support

87wayz · 07-15-2012, 11:52 AM

So, I got into a situation at work. A truck driver I work with got into it with me over some bull****. He hopped out of his truck and marches up to me angrily, throwing F words at me. I have learned how to act harder than I feel, so I didn't back down, I got crazy and snapped:

"u need to get back in your motha****in truck before some **** jump off! I'll **** you up out here."

It played out well, he got back in the truck talking **** the whole time. Deep down, I get nervous about altercations. I just let the rage play out, but then I have less control in the situation. The last fight I got into, I got jumped, kicked down a flight of steps and broke an arm.

How do you react to aggression?

I'm grown up now with decent credit, I'm not trying to fight all the time. But it seems like u have to be ready at all times. I'm good at hiding the fact that I want peace, but I get that voice deep down like "come on, let's just chill." But I don't want to look weak, cuz I'm not.

TrcyMcgrdy1 · 07-15-2012, 11:56 AM

Don't even get mad. When people talk **** or get aggressive, I don't do anything. The lesser man is the one who gets more anflgry or worse, throws the first punch. The only time I'd fight if someone hurt a friend or loved ones. I can take pain so if I was getting assaulted I'd Dodge what I could let the other hits roll off my back. Not worth hurting people. Especially a lameass like people you encountered. Hitheaded uneducated dumbasses don't deserve the joy knowing they madevyou retaliate. Hope everything is already. Just keep a cool head.

87wayz · 07-15-2012, 11:59 AM

Yeah it just happened I'm on lunch now. I can use the word catachrestic in a sentence but I have to act crazy in my environment. I just want to be left alone and listen to my records though

DMIND11 · 07-15-2012, 01:48 PM

I used to get in a lot of fights in school. I was not problematic, I was just a cool laid-back kid. Usually, the school bullies wanted to fight me and I don't know why. I never ever started a fight but believed me I finished a lot. When situations like these happen I just let them come at me. If they are brave enough to go through with it then oh well, I am in it, I am not going to let them beat me up, but if I can persuade them to stop before someone gets hurt then I will try it too. My way of thinking in this is that one should not start fights because violence is stupid but you must always defend yourself and those who you care for.

TheTruthIsOutThere · 07-15-2012, 01:50 PM

you are awesome. always remember that. the people on this forum are usually pussies but you got a pair.

successful · 07-15-2012, 08:23 PM

I try to avoid stuff like that, Or keep my cool.
Im afraid I'll take it further them just fighting them. All the **** i've been holding in for years will likely get taken out on the person.

87wayz · 07-15-2012, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by successful

I try to avoid stuff like that, Or keep my cool.
Im afraid I'll take it further them just fighting them. All the **** i've been holding in for years will likely get taken out on the person.

I know what you mean.

PickleNose · 07-16-2012, 12:14 AM

I doubt I'd ever get into a fight unless I was already mad about something and I was the aggressor. When someone just comes at me like that out of nowhere when I'm not expecting it, I usually break down into a nervous wreck. I can't control myself when I'm nervous and it's completely obvious.

As far as advice for the OP, I guess it's good the guy backed off but be careful about that. Someday you might run into someone who will call your bluff. If you can't back it up, don't take the chance. Frequently people who pick fights are not bluffing so there's a really high probability if someone gets in your face, he believes he can kick your butt.

nemesis1 · 07-16-2012, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by PickleNose

I doubt I'd ever get into a fight unless I was already mad about something and I was the aggressor. When someone just comes at me like that out of nowhere when I'm not expecting it, I usually break down into a nervous wreck. I can't control myself when I'm nervous and it's completely obvious.

As far as advice for the OP, I guess it's good the guy backed off but be careful about that. Someday you might run into someone who will call your bluff. If you can't back it up, don't take the chance. Frequently people who pick fights are not bluffing so there's a really high probability if someone gets in your face, he believes he can kick your butt.

That happened to me last year at my old flat. Some loser neighbour randomly came running out and getting in my face and threatening me with violence for letting my puppy pee in the shared gardens there. I totally wasnt expecting it at all and i completely crumbled. Even though he was my height and build (and about 20 years older than me too) I still ended up backing down to him as i was so nervous. I was shocked and just froze up, barely able to move or say anything back to him.

I'm still so pissed off at myself for that, I should have fought that guy. But i totally suck at confrontations. Plus i havent had a fight in a very long time.

aintnowayaroundit · 07-16-2012, 01:08 AM

Always avoid fights cuz I was short and skinny but I have all this anger built up, cant release it tho... Im soft tbh

87wayz · 07-16-2012, 12:26 PM

Yeah no sane person likes fighting but u can't let them get away with ****

illmatic1 · 01-09-2013, 04:03 PM

i got into enough fights as a kid to were i dont really want to get in any more lol... i swear from kinder garden to like 8th grade i was in the principals office every other day and it was over the stupidest too... i havent been in a fight scince though, which im proud of

MobiusX · 01-09-2013, 04:10 PM

I just show them I have the ability to throw fireballs with my hands, they stop talking and leave the scene

theseventhkey · 01-09-2013, 05:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 87wayz

So, I got into a situation at work. A truck driver I work with got into it with me over some bull****. He hopped out of his truck and marches up to me angrily, throwing F words at me. I have learned how to act harder than I feel, so I didn't back down, I got crazy and snapped:

"u need to get back in your motha****in truck before some **** jump off! I'll **** you up out here."

It played out well, he got back in the truck talking **** the whole time. Deep down, I get nervous about altercations. I just let the rage play out, but then I have less control in the situation. The last fight I got into, I got jumped, kicked down a flight of steps and broke an arm.

How do you react to aggression?

I'm grown up now with decent credit, I'm not trying to fight all the time. But it seems like u have to be ready at all times. I'm good at hiding the fact that I want peace, but I get that voice deep down like "come on, let's just chill." But I don't want to look weak, cuz I'm not.

With aggression. I haven't had a physical fight in years though(I get a lot of my aggression and anger out in other arenas), but that's my normal reaction is to fight.

ROYALwithCHEESE · 01-10-2013, 03:49 AM

Assess the situation, it is no good if your outnumbered or the person has either bulk or fight skills.
If you believe your well sized and really need to fight (I try not to), stay at 45 degrees to the person and remeber the first punch will be at your face...
Wait for the pserson to step forward, make sure one hand is there to protect your face and aim for their chin.

That was the advice my dad gave me, luckily I have managed to talk my way out of all but one violent situation.

ryobi · 01-10-2013, 07:45 PM

I thought once I was an adult I woldn't have to fight but I've been challenged more as an adult than as a minor. Everytime I surf there is the potential I may have to fight.I have been weak, but I've changed my beliefs and I've grown stronger.

NoHeart · 01-11-2013, 09:15 AM

I have only been in like 3 fights in my entire life and they were all with the same guy, about when I was 12-14 ( One time each year, it was like a tradition or something ).

It was stupid and I'd never fight now, I'm a pacifist. ( Unless it was self defence or something )

Raphael200 · 01-11-2013, 09:30 AM

I enjoy a fight now and then,such a shame no1 wants to get angry at me.I guess being a military/martial arts genius with big hands makes me a peacefull man.

hamza · 01-11-2013, 10:11 AM

yeah im abit like that aswell

Paloma M · 01-11-2013, 10:19 AM

As stupid as some strangers are, I would never get into a fight with one. As annoying and stupid as some people are, I would never get into a fight with one. What if they have a weapon. I know some idiots especially girls who have gone out of their way to make me feel like sh*t but I just ignore them. You got lucky you didn't get hurt. I mean good for you that you took care of yourself and you stood up for yourself but this is also risky.

07-15-2012, 11:52 AM	#1 (permalink)
87wayz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Detroit Gender: Male Posts: 2,032	Getting into a Fight So, I got into a situation at work. A truck driver I work with got into it with me over some bull**. He hopped out of his truck and marches up to me angrily, throwing F words at me. I have learned how to act harder than I feel, so I didn't back down, I got crazy and snapped: "u need to get back in your mothain truck before some jump off! I'll you up out here." It played out well, he got back in the truck talking ** the whole time. Deep down, I get nervous about altercations. I just let the rage play out, but then I have less control in the situation. The last fight I got into, I got jumped, kicked down a flight of steps and broke an arm. How do you react to aggression? I'm grown up now with decent credit, I'm not trying to fight all the time. But it seems like u have to be ready at all times. I'm good at hiding the fact that I want peace, but I get that voice deep down like "come on, let's just chill." But I don't want to look weak, cuz I'm not.

07-16-2012, 12:14 AM	#8 (permalink)
PickleNose Status: Not Fooled Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Age: 39 Posts: 11,188	I doubt I'd ever get into a fight unless I was already mad about something and I was the aggressor. When someone just comes at me like that out of nowhere when I'm not expecting it, I usually break down into a nervous wreck. I can't control myself when I'm nervous and it's completely obvious. As far as advice for the OP, I guess it's good the guy backed off but be careful about that. Someday you might run into someone who will call your bluff. If you can't back it up, don't take the chance. Frequently people who pick fights are not bluffing so there's a really high probability if someone gets in your face, he believes he can kick your butt. __________________ "And if the band you're in starts playing different tunes....I'll see you on the dark side of the moon"

01-09-2013, 04:03 PM	#12 (permalink)
illmatic1 Status: t(-_-t) Join Date: May 2012 Location: Woodland Hills (Los Angeles) CA Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 3,746	i got into enough fights as a kid to were i dont really want to get in any more lol... i swear from kinder garden to like 8th grade i was in the principals office every other day and it was over the stupidest too... i havent been in a fight scince though, which im proud of __________________ I was born by the river in a little tent And just like that river I've been running ever since It's been a long time coming But I know a change is gonna come, oh yes it will It's been too hard living, but I'm afraid to die Cos I don't know what's out there beyond the sky It's been a long, a long time coming But I know a change is gonna come, oh yes it will

01-11-2013, 09:15 AM	#17 (permalink)
NoHeart Status: Dark Vessel XIII Join Date: May 2012 Location: The Keyhole Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 2,599	I have only been in like 3 fights in my entire life and they were all with the same guy, about when I was 12-14 ( One time each year, it was like a tradition or something ). It was stupid and I'd never fight now, I'm a pacifist. ( Unless it was self defence or something ) __________________ In a trail of fire I know we will be free again, in the end we will be one. -----------------------------

01-11-2013, 09:30 AM	#18 (permalink)
Raphael200 Status: UNIQUE Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Danger Zone. Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 3,059	I enjoy a fight now and then,such a shame no1 wants to get angry at me.I guess being a military/martial arts genius with big hands makes me a peacefull man. __________________ Do Not Scorn the Weak Cub For He May Become The Brutal Tiger.

07-15-2012, 11:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
TrcyMcgrdy1 Status: Slowly Improving :) Join Date: Oct 2011 Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 3,524	Don't even get mad. When people talk **** or get aggressive, I don't do anything. The lesser man is the one who gets more anflgry or worse, throws the first punch. The only time I'd fight if someone hurt a friend or loved ones. I can take pain so if I was getting assaulted I'd Dodge what I could let the other hits roll off my back. Not worth hurting people. Especially a lameass like people you encountered. Hitheaded uneducated dumbasses don't deserve the joy knowing they madevyou retaliate. Hope everything is already. Just keep a cool head.

07-15-2012, 11:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
87wayz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Detroit Gender: Male Posts: 2,032	Yeah it just happened I'm on lunch now. I can use the word catachrestic in a sentence but I have to act crazy in my environment. I just want to be left alone and listen to my records though

07-15-2012, 01:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
DMIND11 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: US Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 120	I used to get in a lot of fights in school. I was not problematic, I was just a cool laid-back kid. Usually, the school bullies wanted to fight me and I don't know why. I never ever started a fight but believed me I finished a lot. When situations like these happen I just let them come at me. If they are brave enough to go through with it then oh well, I am in it, I am not going to let them beat me up, but if I can persuade them to stop before someone gets hurt then I will try it too. My way of thinking in this is that one should not start fights because violence is stupid but you must always defend yourself and those who you care for.

07-15-2012, 01:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
TheTruthIsOutThere Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: MN Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 2,731	you are awesome. always remember that. the people on this forum are usually pussies but you got a pair.

07-15-2012, 08:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
successful Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: New Orleans Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 3,886	I try to avoid stuff like that, Or keep my cool. Im afraid I'll take it further them just fighting them. All the **** i've been holding in for years will likely get taken out on the person.

07-16-2012, 01:08 AM	#10 (permalink)
aintnowayaroundit Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Decatur, Georgia Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 384	Always avoid fights cuz I was short and skinny but I have all this anger built up, cant release it tho... Im soft tbh

07-16-2012, 12:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
87wayz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Detroit Gender: Male Posts: 2,032	Yeah no sane person likes fighting but u can't let them get away with ****

01-09-2013, 04:10 PM	#13 (permalink)
MobiusX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Long Island, New York Gender: Male Posts: 4,137	I just show them I have the ability to throw fireballs with my hands, they stop talking and leave the scene

01-10-2013, 03:49 AM	#15 (permalink)
ROYALwithCHEESE Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2012 Posts: 185	Assess the situation, it is no good if your outnumbered or the person has either bulk or fight skills. If you believe your well sized and really need to fight (I try not to), stay at 45 degrees to the person and remeber the first punch will be at your face... Wait for the pserson to step forward, make sure one hand is there to protect your face and aim for their chin. That was the advice my dad gave me, luckily I have managed to talk my way out of all but one violent situation.

01-10-2013, 07:45 PM	#16 (permalink)
ryobi Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: x Posts: 2,400	I thought once I was an adult I woldn't have to fight but I've been challenged more as an adult than as a minor. Everytime I surf there is the potential I may have to fight.I have been weak, but I've changed my beliefs and I've grown stronger.

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