Social Anxiety Support

Banzai · 11-02-2009, 02:11 PM

Who are the people that compose of your Facebook, MSN etc "friends"? How many of them do you actually know in real life, spoken to or met online?

I would say, about 3/4 of my Facebook "friends", I know them in real life from either secondary school, primary school or are friend's friends. The rest are people I have met online and a number I have never even spoken to them online before (e.g people added from SAS, people who have randomly added me for whatever reason etc)

Of all the people I know from real life, the vast majority of them (if not all) I have spoken to at least once.

shyvr6 · 11-02-2009, 02:12 PM

I know about 5 in real life. The rest are bands or tv personalities.

Prakas · 11-02-2009, 02:14 PM

Facebook - 0 friends lol
MSN: a bunch of people I play online games with, no one I know in person.
AIM: just a couple of people that I've played online with, again no one I know in person.

thepretender · 11-02-2009, 02:15 PM

I only have 34 friends on facebook and 90% of those are family. I would say I know all but like 4 irl. I also have a few from here so far, but not many.

cyndy · 11-02-2009, 02:15 PM

a lot of former classmates from primary and high school "friended" me but i never talk to them and they rarely talk to me. i have a few sas friends also. i just never really talk to anyone on there. i do change my status, i just don't talk, and i never turn on the chat!!!

IllusionOfHappiness · 11-02-2009, 02:16 PM

Pfff.
That is all.

TorLin · 11-02-2009, 02:22 PM

most of my pple on my friend's list on facebook.myspace,msn and the like are;
family
high school friends
ppl from my old church (used to attend)
star wars fans + groups friends
social anxiety people (from here and other websites resources)
famous people i meet at conventions

chunkylover53 · 11-02-2009, 02:44 PM

Most are real life friends or acquaintances. Some are high school people who never talk to me, and I suspect they only added me so they could look at my pictures (of which I have none- suckers). Then I have a couple of stores I compulsively buy from as friends, lol.

rincewind · 11-02-2009, 02:49 PM

I don't use Facebook or MySpace at all. I have 130 friends on Steam, but only about 20-30 that I actually talk to and play games with regularly, plus a single friend from that same group on MSN after she kept bugging me to install it

I have never met any of these people in real life, although I'm hoping to get the chance to meet at least a few of them at some point in the future.

illlaymedown · 11-02-2009, 03:08 PM

I rarely add people I haven't met on facebook and I have about 340 on there....the majority of those are people from high and middle school and church and a few family members....I barely talk to any of those people. I add pretty much everyone who requests on myspace cus I put my art up on there and display it. There are like 5000 maybe on there...of which I know maybe 60? and a few talk to me about my art, plus I sometimes get horny idiots sending me stupid s**t *barf*...I probably wouldn't have a myspace if it wasn't for my art

On yahoomessenger I have like 8 of which I know maybe 4 in person and AIM I have about 9, and met about 3 of them....I don't talk to a lot of people on any of these. On here I have the SA in common and am excited about not being alone in it so I actually prefer talking on here than the other sites.

Rixy · 11-02-2009, 03:22 PM

In my area/school people will just add anyone they barely recognize. I actually talk to about 10% of my Facebook "Friends"

Annie K · 11-02-2009, 03:34 PM

I have 22 "friends" on facebook... My sister and two cousins, my best friend, 5 or 6 childhood friends that I haven't seen or spoken to in years, 4 or 5 friends/acquaintances from high school, 2 people from SAS, and the rest are people I went to high school with but never talked to.

carambola · 11-02-2009, 04:38 PM

63 facebook friends:
5 relatives
1 real life friend
1 former TA
1 former professor
1 friend of my sister
11 people from message boards, one of whom I have met
2 people I met on an IRC channel eight years ago, one of whom is a close friend I've never met
3 people met in college, none of whom I am likely to ever speak to again (there used to be more when facebook was college-only, but I deleted some and the others deleted me)
1 person I bought a t-shirt from on-line

The rest are people I met in elementary, middle, or high school

Saqq · 11-02-2009, 08:35 PM

I have like 22 -- I'd say most are coworkers/brotheres friends (so they spend their whole day at my house anyways haha) and a few others like from here/other message boards.

I don't believe in the adding every single person you've known since kindergarten -- but I do see a ton of people with 600+ "friends"

Iced Soul · 11-02-2009, 10:02 PM

Myspace: unknown number because I rarely check it, but last time I remember it was over 100. I know exactly 5 of those people.
AIM: 7 people. I know all of them, but there are 2 I don't talk to very often.
MSN: 3 people. I know all of them and talk to them at least once a week.
Yahoo: 5 people. I know 3 of them. The rest I don't know too well and barely talk to them.

malone · 11-02-2009, 10:36 PM

I only have about 48 'friends' on facebook, which are just people from high school and primary school - most of which didn't like me very much either. Only one person actually talks to me, which is my best friend.

KaiserNeptune · 11-03-2009, 07:58 AM

I have around 125 friends on Facebook, IIRC. I would say most of them are people either from college or high school; but, out of that 125, I would estimate that I am truly friends with 5 to 10. By "Friends," I mean people I have made social connections with, which does not at all mean I do social things with them.

Do any of you ever look at your friends' profiles wishing that you were them or at least had the life they do? For awhile I could not go on facebook because it made me too sad and depressed. Sadly, Facebook is a ubiquitous reminder of my de-facto non-existence at college and in life in general.

Indigo Flow · 11-03-2009, 08:29 AM

i would say 70% or 80% of people on myspace i don't know but on facebook about 90% of them i know or have met but only 10% i actually like lol

Prakas · 11-03-2009, 10:37 AM

Wow...Everyone seems to have some on facebook ;>

Emerald3 · 11-05-2009, 01:51 PM

Some are proper friends, others are 'celebs', or people I know of from uni or school.

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Originally Posted by KaiserNeptune

Do any of you ever look at your friends' profiles wishing that you were them or at least had the life they do? For awhile I could not go on facebook because it made me too sad and depressed. Sadly, Facebook is a ubiquitous reminder of my de-facto non-existence at college and in life in general.

And Yes, most of the time when I log on.

11-02-2009, 02:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
Banzai Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: UK Posts: 917	"Friends" on Facebook, Myspace, MSN etc Who are the people that compose of your Facebook, MSN etc "friends"? How many of them do you actually know in real life, spoken to or met online? I would say, about 3/4 of my Facebook "friends", I know them in real life from either secondary school, primary school or are friend's friends. The rest are people I have met online and a number I have never even spoken to them online before (e.g people added from SAS, people who have randomly added me for whatever reason etc) Of all the people I know from real life, the vast majority of them (if not all) I have spoken to at least once. __________________ When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bike. Then I realised that The Lord doesn't work that way, so I stole one and asked him to forgive me. -- Emo Philips

11-02-2009, 02:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	I know about 5 in real life. The rest are bands or tv personalities. __________________ Music

11-02-2009, 02:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
thepretender Status: I am Jack's wasted life. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: North Mississippi Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 188	I only have 34 friends on facebook and 90% of those are family. I would say I know all but like 4 irl. I also have a few from here so far, but not many. __________________ "I'm so happy, cause today I found my friends. They're in my head." Facebook - Xfire - Xbox Live

11-02-2009, 02:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
cyndy Status: pain helps a lot Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: maryland Gender: Female Age: 38 Posts: 118	a lot of former classmates from primary and high school "friended" me but i never talk to them and they rarely talk to me. i have a few sas friends also. i just never really talk to anyone on there. i do change my status, i just don't talk, and i never turn on the chat!!! __________________ social phobia, panic disorder w/agoraphobia, gad, depression(mild) current meds: buspirone 10mg 2x day, paroxetine 10mg, clonazepam 1.5mg inhale what i am, exhale what i think i am inhale exhale by henry rollins

11-02-2009, 02:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,058	most of my pple on my friend's list on facebook.myspace,msn and the like are; family high school friends ppl from my old church (used to attend) star wars fans + groups friends social anxiety people (from here and other websites resources) famous people i meet at conventions __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

11-02-2009, 02:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	Facebook - 0 friends lol MSN: a bunch of people I play online games with, no one I know in person. AIM: just a couple of people that I've played online with, again no one I know in person.

11-02-2009, 02:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
IllusionOfHappiness Status: Custom User Title Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: NS, Canada Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 7,924	Pfff. That is all.

11-02-2009, 02:44 PM	#8 (permalink)
chunkylover53 Status: Marvellous. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Sydney Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 147	Most are real life friends or acquaintances. Some are high school people who never talk to me, and I suspect they only added me so they could look at my pictures (of which I have none- suckers). Then I have a couple of stores I compulsively buy from as friends, lol.

11-02-2009, 02:49 PM	#9 (permalink)
rincewind Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Scotland, UK Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 291	I don't use Facebook or MySpace at all. I have 130 friends on Steam, but only about 20-30 that I actually talk to and play games with regularly, plus a single friend from that same group on MSN after she kept bugging me to install it I have never met any of these people in real life, although I'm hoping to get the chance to meet at least a few of them at some point in the future. __________________ Per Ardua Ad Astra

11-02-2009, 03:08 PM	#10 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 366	I rarely add people I haven't met on facebook and I have about 340 on there....the majority of those are people from high and middle school and church and a few family members....I barely talk to any of those people. I add pretty much everyone who requests on myspace cus I put my art up on there and display it. There are like 5000 maybe on there...of which I know maybe 60? and a few talk to me about my art, plus I sometimes get horny idiots sending me stupid s*t barf*...I probably wouldn't have a myspace if it wasn't for my art On yahoomessenger I have like 8 of which I know maybe 4 in person and AIM I have about 9, and met about 3 of them....I don't talk to a lot of people on any of these. On here I have the SA in common and am excited about not being alone in it so I actually prefer talking on here than the other sites. __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-02-2009, 03:22 PM	#11 (permalink)
Rixy Status: Falling into Guru Muhk Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 228	In my area/school people will just add anyone they barely recognize. I actually talk to about 10% of my Facebook "Friends"

11-02-2009, 03:34 PM	#12 (permalink)
Annie K Status: ........... Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Virginia Gender: Female Posts: 171	I have 22 "friends" on facebook... My sister and two cousins, my best friend, 5 or 6 childhood friends that I haven't seen or spoken to in years, 4 or 5 friends/acquaintances from high school, 2 people from SAS, and the rest are people I went to high school with but never talked to.

11-02-2009, 04:38 PM	#13 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: California Age: 24 Posts: 735	63 facebook friends: 5 relatives 1 real life friend 1 former TA 1 former professor 1 friend of my sister 11 people from message boards, one of whom I have met 2 people I met on an IRC channel eight years ago, one of whom is a close friend I've never met 3 people met in college, none of whom I am likely to ever speak to again (there used to be more when facebook was college-only, but I deleted some and the others deleted me) 1 person I bought a t-shirt from on-line The rest are people I met in elementary, middle, or high school

11-02-2009, 08:35 PM	#14 (permalink)
Saqq Status: Chimpoleon Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 174	I have like 22 -- I'd say most are coworkers/brotheres friends (so they spend their whole day at my house anyways haha) and a few others like from here/other message boards. I don't believe in the adding every single person you've known since kindergarten -- but I do see a ton of people with 600+ "friends"

11-02-2009, 10:02 PM	#15 (permalink)
Iced Soul Status: Dancing on Rainbows Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Calilalaland Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,775	Myspace: unknown number because I rarely check it, but last time I remember it was over 100. I know exactly 5 of those people. AIM: 7 people. I know all of them, but there are 2 I don't talk to very often. MSN: 3 people. I know all of them and talk to them at least once a week. Yahoo: 5 people. I know 3 of them. The rest I don't know too well and barely talk to them. __________________ I scraped my knees while I was praying And found a demon in my safest haven. Seems like, it's getting harder to believe in anything Than just to get lost in all my selfish thoughts. I wanna know what it'd be like To find perfection in my pride To see nothing in the light Just turn it off In all my spite, in all my spite, I'll turn it off. - Turn It Off - Paramore http://twitter.com/MissEerie

11-02-2009, 10:36 PM	#16 (permalink)
malone Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Posts: 60	I only have about 48 'friends' on facebook, which are just people from high school and primary school - most of which didn't like me very much either. Only one person actually talks to me, which is my best friend.

11-03-2009, 07:58 AM	#17 (permalink)
KaiserNeptune Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas, United States Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 15	I have around 125 friends on Facebook, IIRC. I would say most of them are people either from college or high school; but, out of that 125, I would estimate that I am truly friends with 5 to 10. By "Friends," I mean people I have made social connections with, which does not at all mean I do social things with them. Do any of you ever look at your friends' profiles wishing that you were them or at least had the life they do? For awhile I could not go on facebook because it made me too sad and depressed. Sadly, Facebook is a ubiquitous reminder of my de-facto non-existence at college and in life in general. __________________ “On the mountains of truth you can never climb in vain: either you will reach a point higher up today, or you will be training your powers so that you will be able to climb higher tomorrow.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

11-03-2009, 08:29 AM	#18 (permalink)
Indigo Flow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 258	i would say 70% or 80% of people on myspace i don't know but on facebook about 90% of them i know or have met but only 10% i actually like lol __________________ ...i could not Speak, and my eyes failed, i was neither Living nor dead, and i knew nothing, Looking into the heart of light, the silence. Flickr

11-03-2009, 10:37 AM	#19 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	Wow...Everyone seems to have some on facebook ;>