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epril · 08-14-2009, 06:13 AM

My teens have friends over, and I also do a lot of volunteering with kids. With volunteering, I usually like to be called Miss or Mrs. last name. I feel weird being called Miss Epril, even though most of my peers are called Miss so and so. When my teens' friends address me, they call me by my last name. I like the respect and feel more comfortable with last name usage, but I on the other hand feel it's too formal. Some of these teens I've known for years, and we get alone fine. I think I'm uncomfortable because a first name basis seems too intimate with a teen. Well, what do y'all think??

Amelia · 08-14-2009, 06:22 AM

Perhaps they feel more comfortable calling you Miss/Mrs.

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Some of these teens I've known for years, and we get alone fine.

That could be related to the fact that you're not on first-name terms.

OneIsALonelyNumber · 08-16-2009, 07:07 PM

I like Mrs. Epril. If a teen calls you Susan, or whatever, it's just too informal.

Teens are comfortable saying "Miss" or "Mister" because that's what they call their teachers.

Amocholes · 08-17-2009, 02:42 AM

I used to work with Boy Scouts. I always preferred that they call me by my 1st name. It put me on a level with them. It also put me more in the role of an instructor and not a teacher.

Amocholes · 08-17-2009, 02:42 AM

I used to work with Boy Scouts. I always preferred that they call me by my 1st name. It put me on a level with them. It also put me more in the role of an instructor and not a teacher.

PickleNose · 08-17-2009, 06:02 PM

Don't care.

epril · 08-17-2009, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by PickleNose

Don't care.

allrighty then you will furthermore be referred to as Sir Pickle Nose.

Or Mr. Don't Care..

08-14-2009, 06:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
epril Status: sa challenger Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: arizona Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 2,654	What do yuu wish to be called? My teens have friends over, and I also do a lot of volunteering with kids. With volunteering, I usually like to be called Miss or Mrs. last name. I feel weird being called Miss Epril, even though most of my peers are called Miss so and so. When my teens' friends address me, they call me by my last name. I like the respect and feel more comfortable with last name usage, but I on the other hand feel it's too formal. Some of these teens I've known for years, and we get alone fine. I think I'm uncomfortable because a first name basis seems too intimate with a teen. Well, what do y'all think??

08-17-2009, 02:42 AM	#4 (permalink)
Amocholes Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Hello my freaky darlings! Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 12,599	I used to work with Boy Scouts. I always preferred that they call me by my 1st name. It put me on a level with them. It also put me more in the role of an instructor and not a teacher. __________________ In the kingdom of the blind, the one legged man is king.

08-17-2009, 02:42 AM	#5 (permalink)
Amocholes Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Hello my freaky darlings! Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 12,599	I used to work with Boy Scouts. I always preferred that they call me by my 1st name. It put me on a level with them. It also put me more in the role of an instructor and not a teacher. __________________ In the kingdom of the blind, the one legged man is king.

08-16-2009, 07:07 PM	#3 (permalink)
OneIsALonelyNumber Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Midwest Age: 39 Posts: 2,824	I like Mrs. Epril. If a teen calls you Susan, or whatever, it's just too informal. Teens are comfortable saying "Miss" or "Mister" because that's what they call their teachers.

08-17-2009, 06:02 PM	#6 (permalink)
PickleNose Status: Too shy to be here Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 598	Don't care.