I have to agree with
@Richard83's first sentence to a large degree. Most women upwards of 30 are taken. By that, I'm talking about 95%. If they're not married or engaged, they'll be with someone or will still be 'riding the carousel'. If they're still up to the latter, they'll probably never want to settle down with someone and/or their expectations of men are simply miles too high (thus drifting from man to man…always calling them every swear word under the sun without realising that they dated them for that reason, i.e - alpha, in the first place).
As I remain a dateless virgin, the writing is well and truly on the wall for me. This also leads to other people holding unfair stigmas against me - which is beyond my control. Twice I've been turned down in my distant past for having "
no experience" - so I know only too well, experience is demanded upon men. Infact, it seems men must have to be unfaithful in order to get so much as any positive attention, but if no one wants to give you that first experience for the fact that you've had no previous experience, what exactly am I (and indeed any other older virgin man who's been snubbed), expected to do…?
I would have liked children when I was younger (i.e - somewhere between 20 and 25) but now, my mind has very much changed as I know a good number of single, childless women of my age are now starting to become desperate. You know what the saying is - the alpha gives the roller-coaster fun and unreliability they crave, the beta then comes along to be the provider. So, men like ourselves are expected to go from having no experience and no fun, to being parents in what - 12/18 months…? No thanks. I want my decade of fun first, also. I want a refund for all those years I've had to sit out, be snubbed and grow increasingly frustrated that I'm being ruled out for the simple fact that I don't act in a domineering, egotistical and over-animated manner. I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm cutting my nose off to spite my face, but I'd rather remain as I am than simply be used to help produce a child. I want my years of fun experiences also… If she was willing to wait until the end of her thirties to at least give me something that I've spent 15 years missing out on - then I'd have to reconsider but the answer would still likely be "
no", purely because I've been hurt so much by being pathologically ignored. I doubt anything will repair those years of upset for me. It would take something very special indeed.
Medical professionals are a complete waste of time because they're unlikely to have ever experienced what we've been though... They're just regular people in white coats. They're too busy blaming our symptoms and trying to find ways of stopping them - without even bothering to understand or accept that they've only been brought on by root causes... Symptoms don't crop up without reason. There's no smoke without fire - but they only ever seem to focus on the smoke. I suppose it's easier to keep blowing away the smoke rather than putting out the raging inferno underneath...
If others don't like that response then I'm sorry, but this is what spending more than 15 years being ignored and watching everyone else have no issue does to you. It emotionally affects you in a way that I cannot possibly describe well enough in words. I'm now beginning to look at this as if they've had their chance with me. I was young, willing and ready. If I was approached, I could have been almost anyone's a decade ago. We could have had our fun experiences. However now, with me over 30 still without any experiences whatsoever to my name, I'm feeling very hurt. Those few women who remain childless and single (although they won't be - almost all will have had multiple flings and boyfriends along the way to feed their confidence…
are like that because of the snubbing they gave (and likely still give) to men such as myself. Only now, they won't have me as a Beta provider to settle down with. They made their beds with the alphas - and they're going to have to lie in them.
I know in the past I've had said to me that "
no woman has to like you" which is very true. I have no issue with that - although please bear in mind what I've said above about only certain types of men getting attention. However, the reverse can also be said...and as time goes by, more and more hurt/ignored men are having to go this way... It's time to put the shoe on the other foot...