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gozinsky · 10-09-2009, 10:26 AM

Crap now I'm a grown up. What the hell happened to my twenties?

John_in_SF · 10-10-2009, 06:30 PM

Save your consternation for this question: what will happen to your THIRTIES?

secretlyshecries · 10-11-2009, 08:45 PM

So in your opinon someone isn't a grown up in their twenties? lol.

Amocholes · 10-12-2009, 02:26 AM

Someone in their 20s still has a lot of growing up to do. They get their first real taste of freedom at 18 and spend the next several years learning what their limits are.

epril · 10-12-2009, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Amocholes

Someone in their 20s still has a lot of growing up to do. They get their first real taste of freedom at 18 and spend the next several years learning what their limits are.

Especially now that scientists have discovered our brains are still growing up to the age of 25. I'm so glad, it takes pressure off teens and young adults to grow up too quickly, to feel bad if they make a lot of mistakes.

copper · 10-12-2009, 04:33 PM

Cripes what happened to my 30's? People now are calling me sir.

millenniumman75 · 10-12-2009, 06:40 PM

Well, I am nearing halfway through my thirties and don't feel it.
The 24 miles a week I run probably help.

epril · 10-13-2009, 04:38 AM

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Originally Posted by copper

Cripes what happened to my 30's? People now are calling me sir.

I think I scared the poor young wal-mart guy when I called him "sir". I didn't mean to, it was just an easy way to get his attention.

leonardess · 10-13-2009, 05:01 AM

oh cry me a river. what the hell is happening to my 40s??????

Atticus · 10-13-2009, 07:11 AM

At 51 I could deny that I was in my 50s. Not logically or with any real conviction, but I could deny it. Now at 52 I get puffy about being on the young end of my decade. When life gives you lemons, hit life right in the ****ing face with a lemon.

Amocholes · 10-13-2009, 07:26 AM

Lemons have many uses.They are a good size and shape to throw. They are also good with tequilla!

Atticus · 10-13-2009, 08:09 AM

If I drink the tequila first, I won't hit what I'm throwing at. So throw first, then drink. I'm developing a real philosophy here.

rubyruby · 10-13-2009, 02:32 PM

When you are over 50:

there's nothing left to learn the hard way.

facade · 10-20-2009, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by epril

I think I scared the poor young wal-mart guy when I called him "sir". I didn't mean to, it was just an easy way to get his attention.

I am going to make a concious effort to do that whenever i can....maybe they will get how it feels to be called sir or ma'am.
The first time I was called ma'am just felt like i am now a dinosaur

Happ2beme · 10-20-2009, 01:47 PM

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I am going to make a concious effort to do that whenever i can....maybe they will get how it feels to be called sir or ma'am.

That sounds fun!

ivankaramazov · 10-20-2009, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by gozinsky

Crap now I'm a grown up. What the hell happened to my twenties?

Please tell me how to avoid the feeling 5 years from now.

Neptunus · 10-20-2009, 05:05 PM

Yeh, I'm in my 30's too, and I feel like my life's just beginning.

Tungsten · 10-20-2009, 07:01 PM

I dunno. I found my 20s to be a pretty rough time. I've only been out of my 20s for a few months but I'm not too interested in looking back.

Youth is for the extroverted and the fun-loving. Introverts don't need youth to enjoy life. If I feel like staying home and watching Frontline or reading a book I can do it without feeling like like some kind of dweeb. If I'm not wearing the latest fashions or up to speed on the newest bands I have a perfectly good excuse.

I can imagine at some point in the distant future thinking back and wondering what happened to my life and yearning for the days when I could chew solid food without putting my dentures in and resist the urge to pull my pants up to my armpits.

But regretting the loss of my 20s, nah.

hopena · 10-20-2009, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by millenniumman75

Well, I am nearing halfway through my thirties and don't feel it.
The 24 miles a week I run probably help.

I don't feel it either (I'm 34), but my hair has been greying more, over the past two years, and I have some lines on my face that don't seem to be going away.

I feel so shallow feeling upset about it, but I don't know where on earth the past fourteen years went - so quickly!

Deathinmusic · 11-09-2009, 08:36 PM

I have just entered my thirties and things have never looked more grim. Only recently have I started to understand just how deep my deficiencies actually run. The good thing is I have finally started to look into therapy, the bad thing is I am almost certain it will do me no good, because in the end I know it is ME who has to dig me out of this hole. I think my 10+ years of social isolation and stagnation proves that I am incapable of doing that. There's nothing that would indicate there's any light at the end of the tunnel.

Sorry about the post, but faking positivity is something I can't do. I want to embrace reality even if it's crushing.

10-09-2009, 10:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
gozinsky Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: arizona Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 579	the hell? Crap now I'm a grown up. What the hell happened to my twenties?

10-12-2009, 02:26 AM	#4 (permalink)
Amocholes Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Hello my freaky darlings! Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 12,592	Someone in their 20s still has a lot of growing up to do. They get their first real taste of freedom at 18 and spend the next several years learning what their limits are. __________________ In the kingdom of the blind, the one legged man is king.

10-12-2009, 04:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
copper Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Keweenaw Peninsula Michigan Age: 39 Posts: 7,768	Cripes what happened to my 30's? People now are calling me sir. __________________ troll: man, we got a lot of snow yooper: eh? troll: three feet, man! yooper: yah troll: no school, man, it was sweet yooper: you closed school for three feet of snow?!?!??!? troll: you like excessive punctuation, don't you?

10-12-2009, 06:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,624	Well, I am nearing halfway through my thirties and don't feel it. The 24 miles a week I run probably help. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

10-13-2009, 07:11 AM	#10 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	At 51 I could deny that I was in my 50s. Not logically or with any real conviction, but I could deny it. Now at 52 I get puffy about being on the young end of my decade. When life gives you lemons, hit life right in the ****ing face with a lemon. __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany

10-10-2009, 06:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
John_in_SF Status: Good grief Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: San Francisco, California Gender: Male Posts: 261	Save your consternation for this question: what will happen to your THIRTIES?

10-11-2009, 08:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
secretlyshecries Status: In hiding Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Australia, hiding under a rock somewhere Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 569	So in your opinon someone isn't a grown up in their twenties? lol.

10-13-2009, 05:01 AM	#9 (permalink)
leonardess Status: wheresthefire?inmyeye! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: WILL you people please leave me alone?I'm supposed to be working lol Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 1,226	oh cry me a river. what the hell is happening to my 40s??????

10-13-2009, 07:26 AM	#11 (permalink)
Amocholes Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Hello my freaky darlings! Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 12,592	Lemons have many uses.They are a good size and shape to throw. They are also good with tequilla! __________________ In the kingdom of the blind, the one legged man is king.

10-13-2009, 08:09 AM	#12 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	If I drink the tequila first, I won't hit what I'm throwing at. So throw first, then drink. I'm developing a real philosophy here. __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany

10-13-2009, 02:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
rubyruby Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 59	When you are over 50: there's nothing left to learn the hard way.

10-20-2009, 05:05 PM	#17 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 2,828	Yeh, I'm in my 30's too, and I feel like my life's just beginning. __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

10-20-2009, 07:01 PM	#18 (permalink)
Tungsten Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 1,120	I dunno. I found my 20s to be a pretty rough time. I've only been out of my 20s for a few months but I'm not too interested in looking back. Youth is for the extroverted and the fun-loving. Introverts don't need youth to enjoy life. If I feel like staying home and watching Frontline or reading a book I can do it without feeling like like some kind of dweeb. If I'm not wearing the latest fashions or up to speed on the newest bands I have a perfectly good excuse. I can imagine at some point in the distant future thinking back and wondering what happened to my life and yearning for the days when I could chew solid food without putting my dentures in and resist the urge to pull my pants up to my armpits. But regretting the loss of my 20s, nah.

11-09-2009, 08:36 PM	#20 (permalink)
Deathinmusic Status: SAD Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 48	I have just entered my thirties and things have never looked more grim. Only recently have I started to understand just how deep my deficiencies actually run. The good thing is I have finally started to look into therapy, the bad thing is I am almost certain it will do me no good, because in the end I know it is ME who has to dig me out of this hole. I think my 10+ years of social isolation and stagnation proves that I am incapable of doing that. There's nothing that would indicate there's any light at the end of the tunnel. Sorry about the post, but faking positivity is something I can't do. I want to embrace reality even if it's crushing.