Social Anxiety Support

Still Waters · 09-22-2008, 10:04 AM

Strange thoughts? Hope this gets thru I posted this earlier but somehow it did't work! Sometimes when I see on TV or read about someone gettintg cancer- I think why could'nt that be me? I always feel ashamed of the thought. I know if I were diagnosed with something like that I would be devastated. So why do I have such horrible thoughts? Please do not be offended if you or a loved one have been diagnosed. I don't mean to be offensive.

leppardess · 09-22-2008, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Still Waters

Strange thoughts? Hope this gets thru I posted this earlier but somehow it did't work! Sometimes when I see on TV or read about someone gettintg cancer- I think why could'nt that be me? I always feel ashamed of the thought. I know if I were diagnosed with something like that I would be devastated. So why do I have such horrible thoughts? Please do not be offended if you or a loved one have been diagnosed. I don't mean to be offensive.

Maybe you're seeking an external reason for feeling anxious? Many times, I've been told that I didn't have any reason to be anxious/depressed and wished that I had some sort of obvious, physical thing wrong with me so that I could blame that.

R · 09-22-2008, 01:13 PM

I agree with leppardess

or it could be a excuse to give up.

lilly · 09-22-2008, 03:25 PM

I have really strange thoughts sometimes. I had a similar one to you and kind of trained myself firstly to say I'm [confident] I don't have .... then eventually the thoughts went away.
Another thing you can do is emphasise to yourself these are only thoughts. They are not true and train yourself to get your mind on to something else or go and do something or think something positive about something else.

Blueshadow · 09-26-2008, 05:28 PM

I can totally relate.

...don't feel alone.

marieannsa · 09-27-2008, 10:16 PM

I agree, don't feel alone.

Neptunus · 09-27-2008, 11:03 PM

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Atticus · 09-28-2008, 08:25 AM

I can read your post one of two ways. "why can't that be me?" could mean that you somehow desire for that diagnosis to apply to you, which would be disconcerting. It could also reflect relief that it doesn't apply to you, which might make you feel guilty or conflicted. I'm not sure how to read it.

09-22-2008, 10:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
Still Waters Status: Lost And Unaccounted For Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stuck in the Lost and Found Gender: Female Posts: 668	Strange thoughts ! Strange thoughts? Hope this gets thru I posted this earlier but somehow it did't work! Sometimes when I see on TV or read about someone gettintg cancer- I think why could'nt that be me? I always feel ashamed of the thought. I know if I were diagnosed with something like that I would be devastated. So why do I have such horrible thoughts? Please do not be offended if you or a loved one have been diagnosed. I don't mean to be offensive. __________________ I knew a man who lived in fear It was huge,it was angry,it was drawing near Behind his house,a secret place Was the shadow of the demon he could never face. He tells the world that it's sleeping But as the night came 'round I heard it's lonely sound It wasn't roaring,it was weeping. - Weeping - Josh Groban

09-22-2008, 01:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
R Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Alb, NM Gender: Male Posts: 969	Re: Strange thoughts ! I agree with leppardess or it could be a excuse to give up. __________________ ------------------------------ I am a rpoud member of the SIMCOHPF Spellchecker is my crutch of holy pwnage foundation

09-22-2008, 03:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
lilly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: australia Gender: Female Age: 50 Posts: 1,746	Re: Strange thoughts ! I have really strange thoughts sometimes. I had a similar one to you and kind of trained myself firstly to say I'm [confident] I don't have .... then eventually the thoughts went away. Another thing you can do is emphasise to yourself these are only thoughts. They are not true and train yourself to get your mind on to something else or go and do something or think something positive about something else.

09-26-2008, 05:28 PM	#5 (permalink)
Blueshadow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 45	Re: Strange thoughts ! I can totally relate. ...don't feel alone.

09-27-2008, 10:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
marieannsa Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 4	Re: Strange thoughts ! I agree, don't feel alone.

09-27-2008, 11:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,841	Re: Strange thoughts ! ... __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

09-28-2008, 08:25 AM	#8 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	Re: Strange thoughts ! I can read your post one of two ways. "why can't that be me?" could mean that you somehow desire for that diagnosis to apply to you, which would be disconcerting. It could also reflect relief that it doesn't apply to you, which might make you feel guilty or conflicted. I'm not sure how to read it. __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany