Social Anxiety Support

Summer1 · 02-28-2009, 12:43 PM

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finster · 02-28-2009, 01:28 PM

Hi. If it makes you feel any better I can totally relate to everything you have written. I too am middle aged with no spouse or kids, no career, and I live with my brother. I've watched everyone from college hook up, get married, have kids, change careers, have more kids, and now they're having grand kids! I too feel totally pathetic.

I also have had little luck with meds.

Many people recover, however so keep reading and Good Luck!!

Amalia · 02-28-2009, 01:32 PM

You seem to be such a nice, lovable person, but you obviously dont see that in yourself. Your post made me for a moment teary-eyed. I'm so sorry for you.

kpiper0101 · 03-02-2009, 09:35 AM

Hi! I'm 45 too. I've been fortunate enough to have children. I wanted a family so badly because the only thing that eases my SA symptoms is being with other people who accept me. I managed to marry, but was purely driven by my deep desire to have a family of my own. I didn't marry wisely, I pretty much married the first person I managed to meet, which of course was someone with deep problems of their own. He's now deceased. I had a job for 13 years, and would have stayed until I could work no longer, but was laid off. Interviews and starting a new job are the worst for me, so I'm unemployed right now and pretty much feel like a first class loser. I feel ashamed as I come from a family of highly educated, ambitious, and successful people. I of course am none of the above due almost entirely to my SA. I have spent my life trying to hide that I even had SA which means I've avoided a lot of ordinary life experiences. For the longest time I didn't realize it was an actual disorder, I thought it was just me and me alone that suffered with this. Anyway I hesitate to tell anyone because I don't feel like anyone can understand unless they have it themselves. I think my siblings would think I was making excuses for my lack of motivation and my loser lifestyle. It can be lonely and very depressing, but at least you know now that you aren't really alone. I hope you find some hope here. It helps me just knowing I'm not the only one. Welcome and big hugs for you!

02-28-2009, 12:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
Summer1 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1	My SA Story Delete

02-28-2009, 01:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
finster Status: Painfully Shy Guy Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Southeast Michigan Gender: Male Posts: 316	Hi. If it makes you feel any better I can totally relate to everything you have written. I too am middle aged with no spouse or kids, no career, and I live with my brother. I've watched everyone from college hook up, get married, have kids, change careers, have more kids, and now they're having grand kids! I too feel totally pathetic. I also have had little luck with meds. Many people recover, however so keep reading and Good Luck!!

02-28-2009, 01:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
Amalia Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 40	You seem to be such a nice, lovable person, but you obviously dont see that in yourself. Your post made me for a moment teary-eyed. I'm so sorry for you.

03-02-2009, 09:35 AM	#4 (permalink)
kpiper0101 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Eugene, OR Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 354	Hi! I'm 45 too. I've been fortunate enough to have children. I wanted a family so badly because the only thing that eases my SA symptoms is being with other people who accept me. I managed to marry, but was purely driven by my deep desire to have a family of my own. I didn't marry wisely, I pretty much married the first person I managed to meet, which of course was someone with deep problems of their own. He's now deceased. I had a job for 13 years, and would have stayed until I could work no longer, but was laid off. Interviews and starting a new job are the worst for me, so I'm unemployed right now and pretty much feel like a first class loser. I feel ashamed as I come from a family of highly educated, ambitious, and successful people. I of course am none of the above due almost entirely to my SA. I have spent my life trying to hide that I even had SA which means I've avoided a lot of ordinary life experiences. For the longest time I didn't realize it was an actual disorder, I thought it was just me and me alone that suffered with this. Anyway I hesitate to tell anyone because I don't feel like anyone can understand unless they have it themselves. I think my siblings would think I was making excuses for my lack of motivation and my loser lifestyle. It can be lonely and very depressing, but at least you know now that you aren't really alone. I hope you find some hope here. It helps me just knowing I'm not the only one. Welcome and big hugs for you!