Social Anxiety Support

jenkydora · 02-24-2009, 02:39 PM

Is it seemingly more difficult to fit in and become friends with other couples because of older age. People usually have their friends by their forties.

My family stayed in a holiday park, cause my husband and son rode a mountain bike odyssey.

Alot of the competitors were from husbands work. He has two guys he gets on with really well, and it is really difficult trying to become friends with them even for this one weekend. Admittedly this one couple had their friends with them, so should I just not bother.

Do two couples who have each others as good friends, welcome a third couple as friendship?
If we were with them, I felt that it was out of politeness on their behalf.

My husband asked his friends wife to book us a table for tea a month earlier for that weekend, and she claimed she did not or forgot to. Was this a hint, they dont want us as friends. I just dont know the dynamics of poeple regarding hints.
Exhausting, I will just not have any friends, too many obligations, too much work, and too much giving up my soul.

Still Waters · 02-24-2009, 04:35 PM

People do get really funny about admitting someone new to the group,I think women are the worst about this. I've met a lady around the neighborhood-really friendly,confident and easy to talk with. However,she has a pal right next door to her and they hang out all the time.- The pal is sort of loud mouth and abrasive and whenever I'm feeling brave and attempt to chat- she's constantly trying to hurry the nice lady along. Women even in friendships seem so territorial. I just say hi and walk on if the abrasive one is around. - It's a shame,because I'd really like to have a friend!

02-24-2009, 02:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
jenkydora Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Australia Posts: 1,113	I dont know the graces of making friends.. Is it seemingly more difficult to fit in and become friends with other couples because of older age. People usually have their friends by their forties. My family stayed in a holiday park, cause my husband and son rode a mountain bike odyssey. Alot of the competitors were from husbands work. He has two guys he gets on with really well, and it is really difficult trying to become friends with them even for this one weekend. Admittedly this one couple had their friends with them, so should I just not bother. Do two couples who have each others as good friends, welcome a third couple as friendship? If we were with them, I felt that it was out of politeness on their behalf. My husband asked his friends wife to book us a table for tea a month earlier for that weekend, and she claimed she did not or forgot to. Was this a hint, they dont want us as friends. I just dont know the dynamics of poeple regarding hints. Exhausting, I will just not have any friends, too many obligations, too much work, and too much giving up my soul. __________________ In the darkest hour the soul is replenished and given strength to continue and endure.

02-24-2009, 04:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
Still Waters Status: Lost And Unaccounted For Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stuck in the Lost and Found Gender: Female Posts: 668	People do get really funny about admitting someone new to the group,I think women are the worst about this. I've met a lady around the neighborhood-really friendly,confident and easy to talk with. However,she has a pal right next door to her and they hang out all the time.- The pal is sort of loud mouth and abrasive and whenever I'm feeling brave and attempt to chat- she's constantly trying to hurry the nice lady along. Women even in friendships seem so territorial. I just say hi and walk on if the abrasive one is around. - It's a shame,because I'd really like to have a friend!