Social Anxiety Support

farfegnugen · 11-22-2010, 11:17 PM

I decided when I was fairly young I didn't care for having my picture being taken. Of course this was in the days when film was king and a picture was more of a permanent marker. You usually would have to pose to get one taken and something about that never felt right. I never did learn to do a quality fake smile. I have gotten slightly better at having one taken, but I still get that sense of despair when someone decides to click a photo of me.

solasum · 11-23-2010, 03:34 AM

I've always hated it. What's more, my grandfather always had a camera in his hand at all times. This means that there are few pictures of me as a kid where I'm not covering my face with my hand or asleep on the couch. I'm better than I used to be, though, because I realize I'll die someday anyway, so it's trivial.

Just noticed this is in the 30+ section - sorry.

tommyboy · 11-23-2010, 04:20 AM

I don't really mind except for the fact that I always look like a dork. I don't know how to smile, without looking like a loser.

pumpkinspice · 11-23-2010, 04:26 PM

I've always hated my pic being taken. I've ripped up many pictures of myself and gotten downright pissed at people who take my photo although I beg them not to. I haven't taken a picture of myself in years and avoid it at all costs.

I really don't understand the people who take multiple pics of themselves on a daily basis then feel the need to post them all over their websites, house, etc.

BobNothing · 11-23-2010, 06:42 PM

Hate it, hate it, hate it! Don't like seeing myself in a mirror let alone something that could be posted online or saved in an photo album like a picture.

SAgirl · 11-24-2010, 08:55 PM

Not at all.

Enola · 11-24-2010, 09:06 PM

I am not unattractive but for some reason I don't always photograph well. I guess that means I'm not photogenic. Thank goodness for digital cameras is all I can say.

Selbbin · 11-24-2010, 09:18 PM

No. I can't stand it. It's one of the reasons I hate facebook so much. I have no control over idiots taking photos of me at parties or wherever and posting them up for all to see. People I know and people I don't. And if I say no or that I don't like it they get annoyed or offended. I've seen people at work looking at pics of me because they were invited into a friend's account. And the photos stay on there for ages! They should **** off and respect my privacy. And before you tell me that I can untag them, I don't have a facebook account, and people can still see the photo regardless of it being 'tagged'.

avoidobot3000 · 11-25-2010, 12:36 AM

i hate having to pose and smile

the Prince of nowhere · 11-25-2010, 12:40 AM

I hate it, especially nowadays when someone can unexpectedly pull out there phone and within seconds take your picture and post it online. Truly sickening.

OregonMommy · 11-26-2010, 11:16 PM

No, I avoid it, lol...I know that when I look at it I will immediately scrutinize and be its' worse critic, so no, but... I have to I think for family memory's sake.

tutliputli · 11-27-2010, 01:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Enola

I am not unattractive but for some reason I don't always photograph well. I guess that means I'm not photogenic.

Ditto. I hate having my picture taken.

CeilingStarer · 11-27-2010, 03:19 AM

Doesn't really bother me. I'm lucky in that I always photograph "well."

I do hate the whole camera phones and facebook thing though. You can be hitting a bong in the background or something, and end up on facebook for your whole family to see.

Banana Cream · 11-27-2010, 04:59 AM

I look good in the mirror, but not in photographs usually, unless I take them myself.

I'm not sure if it would be better the other way around. Usually, in the mirror, I find myself pretty attractive. But other people's photos of me, 90% SCARY ugly. Weird how a little shift of left to right to right to left, and ability to see reflection changes it all!

Ha ha ha!

eejm · 12-02-2010, 07:25 AM

I feel the same, Banana Cream. I like how I look in most mirrors (depending on the lighting), but I look awful in photographs. My smile seems to have this weird, maniacal quality to it, like I'm going to take a bite out of the person next to me. I always look about 100 lbs. fatter too.

MrWorry · 12-03-2010, 12:39 AM

Its strange to look back and see how little i made it into family pictures once i hit about 10yrs old.

Everybody else seems to pop up in pictures. Cousins, brothers, and sister. But i'm nowhere to be found. I really hated taking pictures. Mostly because of my looks.

Defintately was not the photogenic type.

pumpkinspice · 12-03-2010, 03:51 PM

My brother tried taking pics of me at Thanksgiving when I wasn't paying attention. When he wasn't paying attention I deleted all of them from his camera/memory card.

Honeybee1980 · 12-03-2010, 05:19 PM

yeah it's strange, i think i look pretty good when getting ready in the mirror, but someone photographs me and i look like crap lol, so i guess i'm not the most photogenic either usually. Also i gained about 30 lbs 2 yrs ago which i haven't been able to lose yet, and i haven't liked ANY of my photos since then. Hopefully this year i can focus on getting back to a healthier weight and fitness level, so i won't feel so self conscious and have to untag photos on Facebook

littlemisshy · 12-03-2010, 09:22 PM

Ugh! I hate it. Would love to have no photos of me post childhood.
In the mirror I look ok but in any photo I look stoned and double chinned

tiredandworn · 12-04-2010, 05:13 PM

well, my hair has mostly fallen out due to stress. My face sags due to age. My eyes droop. And I never had much of a chin. When I was a kid the orthodontist decided to have teeth pulled because he thought I would have too many teeth. Left me with the bite of a child and way too few teeth. So I have very small mouth and thin lips. Need I say more?

11-22-2010, 11:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
farfegnugen Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: sleepyville in eastern U.S. Gender: Male Posts: 167	Do you like your picture being taken? I decided when I was fairly young I didn't care for having my picture being taken. Of course this was in the days when film was king and a picture was more of a permanent marker. You usually would have to pose to get one taken and something about that never felt right. I never did learn to do a quality fake smile. I have gotten slightly better at having one taken, but I still get that sense of despair when someone decides to click a photo of me.

11-25-2010, 12:36 AM	#9 (permalink)
avoidobot3000 Status: Crazy cat lady Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,937	i hate having to pose and smile __________________ "If you are flammable and have legs you are never blocking a fire exit." - Mitch Hedberg

11-25-2010, 12:40 AM	#10 (permalink)
the Prince of nowhere Status: Retreating Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: I'm Nowhere (I'll show you vouchers!) Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 208	I hate it, especially nowadays when someone can unexpectedly pull out there phone and within seconds take your picture and post it online. Truly sickening. __________________ "Love Forever, Love is free, Let's turn forever! You-an-Me" - Gorillaz

11-26-2010, 11:16 PM	#11 (permalink)
OregonMommy Status: On me "toes" Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Where the heart is Gender: Female Age: 41 Posts: 1,489	No, I avoid it, lol...I know that when I look at it I will immediately scrutinize and be its' worse critic, so no, but... I have to I think for family memory's sake. __________________ "When you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance"-- Lee Ann Womack I am not my past. I am not my anxiety, nor depression. I am not my gender, or color, or social status, or occupation title, or any other label. I am not my story.

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11-23-2010, 03:34 AM	#2 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 1,524	I've always hated it. What's more, my grandfather always had a camera in his hand at all times. This means that there are few pictures of me as a kid where I'm not covering my face with my hand or asleep on the couch. I'm better than I used to be, though, because I realize I'll die someday anyway, so it's trivial. Just noticed this is in the 30+ section - sorry.

11-23-2010, 04:20 AM	#3 (permalink)
tommyboy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Wisconsin Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 19	I don't really mind except for the fact that I always look like a dork. I don't know how to smile, without looking like a loser.

11-23-2010, 04:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
pumpkinspice Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Gender: Female Age: 34 Posts: 215	I've always hated my pic being taken. I've ripped up many pictures of myself and gotten downright pissed at people who take my photo although I beg them not to. I haven't taken a picture of myself in years and avoid it at all costs. I really don't understand the people who take multiple pics of themselves on a daily basis then feel the need to post them all over their websites, house, etc.

11-23-2010, 06:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
BobNothing Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Ontario Canada Gender: Male Age: 35 Posts: 66	Hate it, hate it, hate it! Don't like seeing myself in a mirror let alone something that could be posted online or saved in an photo album like a picture.

11-24-2010, 08:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
SAgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Northwestern Ontario Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 4,180	Not at all.

11-24-2010, 09:06 PM	#7 (permalink)
Enola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: In my head. Gender: Female Posts: 84	I am not unattractive but for some reason I don't always photograph well. I guess that means I'm not photogenic. Thank goodness for digital cameras is all I can say.

11-24-2010, 09:18 PM	#8 (permalink)
Selbbin Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Under the mouldy bathroom rug Posts: 2,077	No. I can't stand it. It's one of the reasons I hate facebook so much. I have no control over idiots taking photos of me at parties or wherever and posting them up for all to see. People I know and people I don't. And if I say no or that I don't like it they get annoyed or offended. I've seen people at work looking at pics of me because they were invited into a friend's account. And the photos stay on there for ages! They should **** off and respect my privacy. And before you tell me that I can untag them, I don't have a facebook account, and people can still see the photo regardless of it being 'tagged'.

11-27-2010, 03:19 AM	#13 (permalink)
CeilingStarer Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,868	Doesn't really bother me. I'm lucky in that I always photograph "well." I do hate the whole camera phones and facebook thing though. You can be hitting a bong in the background or something, and end up on facebook for your whole family to see.

11-27-2010, 04:59 AM	#14 (permalink)
Banana Cream Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 181	I look good in the mirror, but not in photographs usually, unless I take them myself. I'm not sure if it would be better the other way around. Usually, in the mirror, I find myself pretty attractive. But other people's photos of me, 90% SCARY ugly. Weird how a little shift of left to right to right to left, and ability to see reflection changes it all! Ha ha ha!

12-02-2010, 07:25 AM	#15 (permalink)
eejm Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 247	I feel the same, Banana Cream. I like how I look in most mirrors (depending on the lighting), but I look awful in photographs. My smile seems to have this weird, maniacal quality to it, like I'm going to take a bite out of the person next to me. I always look about 100 lbs. fatter too.

12-03-2010, 12:39 AM	#16 (permalink)
MrWorry Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: SD Posts: 344	Its strange to look back and see how little i made it into family pictures once i hit about 10yrs old. Everybody else seems to pop up in pictures. Cousins, brothers, and sister. But i'm nowhere to be found. I really hated taking pictures. Mostly because of my looks. Defintately was not the photogenic type.

12-03-2010, 03:51 PM	#17 (permalink)
pumpkinspice Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Gender: Female Age: 34 Posts: 215	My brother tried taking pics of me at Thanksgiving when I wasn't paying attention. When he wasn't paying attention I deleted all of them from his camera/memory card.

12-03-2010, 05:19 PM	#18 (permalink)
Honeybee1980 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Eureka,CA Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 91	yeah it's strange, i think i look pretty good when getting ready in the mirror, but someone photographs me and i look like crap lol, so i guess i'm not the most photogenic either usually. Also i gained about 30 lbs 2 yrs ago which i haven't been able to lose yet, and i haven't liked ANY of my photos since then. Hopefully this year i can focus on getting back to a healthier weight and fitness level, so i won't feel so self conscious and have to untag photos on Facebook

12-03-2010, 09:22 PM	#19 (permalink)
littlemisshy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 38 Posts: 393	Ugh! I hate it. Would love to have no photos of me post childhood. In the mirror I look ok but in any photo I look stoned and double chinned

12-04-2010, 05:13 PM	#20 (permalink)
tiredandworn Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Gender: Female Posts: 38	well, my hair has mostly fallen out due to stress. My face sags due to age. My eyes droop. And I never had much of a chin. When I was a kid the orthodontist decided to have teeth pulled because he thought I would have too many teeth. Left me with the bite of a child and way too few teeth. So I have very small mouth and thin lips. Need I say more?