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Still Waters · 10-01-2008, 08:11 AM

I tend to see myself as being very realistic about my life .- I don't want to fake myself out and wear blinders. I want the truth,good and bad. Other people say I'm very negative. I am aware a certain amount of bitterness has taken hold of me. Most of the time I do feel an edge of resentment/anger. I tend to feel in my case it's very natural though. Is it possible to deal with SA for most or all of your life-and really be a happy person???

leppardess · 10-01-2008, 08:27 AM

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Is it possible to deal with SA for most or all of your life-and really be a happy person???

I guess anything is possible, depending on the person and their outlook.

For myself, I'm a realist that tries to see the better side of things. While resentment and bitterness does have a tendency to sneak in when I'm not looking, I feel that 'happiness' depends more on being content in this moment, with what you have than being an over all state of being.

By 'content', I don't mean that this is where you want to be for the rest of your life... more like, 'yeah, this (whatever is going on at the time) is okay, I can deal with it but there's definitely room for improvement' kind of feeling.

Atticus · 10-01-2008, 08:48 AM

An optimist sees the glass as half full. A pessimist sees the glass as half empty. A realist sees a glass of water and only considers whether he or she is thirsty.

kelso · 10-01-2008, 05:50 PM

I am a realist well and truly.
Most people see me as agressive as with my SA I tend to go into fight not flight so I am making a concentrated effort to come across "nicer".
I think realists have a better chance of dealing with SA. What do you reckon?

trancediva88 · 10-01-2008, 06:07 PM

people say i am a pessimist but i think i am a realist... actually i know i am

Ms Deer · 10-16-2008, 05:42 PM

I really and truly see myself as a realist. For many years I tried the "magical thinking" thing until I finally realized that what I was believing just ain't so. From a personal point of view, I feel that I fare better when I harbor no illusions.

More times than I care to remember, I've been accused of being a pessimist, cynical, negative, spreading "doom and gloom", etc. etc.

dax · 10-26-2008, 05:57 PM

I'm a realist. I don't try to hide from the negative or pretend I'm something I'm not. At the same time, I know I'm better off that a lot of people, i.e. homeless people, people born with serious diseases, etc.

debiski · 10-28-2008, 07:55 AM

I'm a realist, although most people would say I'm a pessimist. I see things for what they are, and in this day and age most of life is negative.

Deb

Maslow · 10-28-2008, 02:38 PM

Once in a while I feel resentment about things I've missed out on, but feeling bad about the past makes the present bad. When I recognize that, I get out of the maladaptive mode of thinking and just accept it for what it is: the past. And I don't expect things to change very much in the future, so I guess I'm a realist.

Keith · 10-28-2008, 03:16 PM

I'm a pessimist but I'm trying to become more optimistic about things.

10-01-2008, 08:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
Still Waters Status: Lost And Unaccounted For Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stuck in the Lost and Found Gender: Female Posts: 668	Are you a pessimist or just a realist? I tend to see myself as being very realistic about my life .- I don't want to fake myself out and wear blinders. I want the truth,good and bad. Other people say I'm very negative. I am aware a certain amount of bitterness has taken hold of me. Most of the time I do feel an edge of resentment/anger. I tend to feel in my case it's very natural though. Is it possible to deal with SA for most or all of your life-and really be a happy person??? __________________ I knew a man who lived in fear It was huge,it was angry,it was drawing near Behind his house,a secret place Was the shadow of the demon he could never face. He tells the world that it's sleeping But as the night came 'round I heard it's lonely sound It wasn't roaring,it was weeping. - Weeping - Josh Groban

10-01-2008, 08:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	Re: Are you a pessimist or just a realist? An optimist sees the glass as half full. A pessimist sees the glass as half empty. A realist sees a glass of water and only considers whether he or she is thirsty. __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany

10-01-2008, 05:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
kelso Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: South East Queensland, Australia Posts: 217	Re: Are you a pessimist or just a realist? I am a realist well and truly. Most people see me as agressive as with my SA I tend to go into fight not flight so I am making a concentrated effort to come across "nicer". I think realists have a better chance of dealing with SA. What do you reckon?

10-01-2008, 06:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
trancediva88 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Cary NC Age: 27 Posts: 181	Re: Are you a pessimist or just a realist? people say i am a pessimist but i think i am a realist... actually i know i am

10-16-2008, 05:42 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ms Deer Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,265	Re: Are you a pessimist or just a realist? I really and truly see myself as a realist. For many years I tried the "magical thinking" thing until I finally realized that what I was believing just ain't so. From a personal point of view, I feel that I fare better when I harbor no illusions. More times than I care to remember, I've been accused of being a pessimist, cynical, negative, spreading "doom and gloom", etc. etc. __________________ “You may forget what people said but you will never, ever forget how they made you feel.”

10-26-2008, 05:57 PM	#7 (permalink)
dax Status: Losing Ground Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Boston Gender: Male Posts: 2,241	I'm a realist. I don't try to hide from the negative or pretend I'm something I'm not. At the same time, I know I'm better off that a lot of people, i.e. homeless people, people born with serious diseases, etc. __________________ My Youtube Page I just don't fit in this place Their thoughts cast me out of here Their home has run out of space My mind's already out of here Won't you come along dear? Won't you come along?

10-28-2008, 07:55 AM	#8 (permalink)
debiski Status: Walking in the dark Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Wisconsin Age: 44 Posts: 30	I'm a realist, although most people would say I'm a pessimist. I see things for what they are, and in this day and age most of life is negative. Deb

10-28-2008, 02:38 PM	#9 (permalink)
Maslow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Denver Gender: Male Posts: 3,045	Once in a while I feel resentment about things I've missed out on, but feeling bad about the past makes the present bad. When I recognize that, I get out of the maladaptive mode of thinking and just accept it for what it is: the past. And I don't expect things to change very much in the future, so I guess I'm a realist.

10-28-2008, 03:16 PM	#10 (permalink)
Keith Status: available for download... Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Lowell, Massachusetts Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 843	I'm a pessimist but I'm trying to become more optimistic about things. __________________ "Difficulties are things that show a person what they are" -Epictetus "Its always darkest before the dawn" -? "If your going through hell, keep going" -Winston Churchill