Social Anxiety Support

rubyruby · 09-28-2009, 05:30 AM

I had an older brother who had this problem. I also have a nephew with this problem.

Is there anyone else in your family with this problem?

glarmph · 09-28-2009, 05:40 AM

My dad does, he's about as much of a crippled mess as I am. My grandma too. Thats all that I know of, there might be more but I'm not sure, its a big family.

Amelia · 09-28-2009, 07:14 AM

I had a great uncle who was a virtual recluse. Neither of my parents is outgoing, neither has friends they see regularly and my mom is particularly wary of other people. She gets anxious if relatives want to come to visit and often makes excuses to ensure that they stay away. Last year, she was contacted by a relative she had never met from New Zealand, who was travelling half-way round the world to trace his ancestors and wanted to meet up. She told him that this wouldn't be possible, as she'd be away on holiday.

Atticus · 09-28-2009, 07:18 AM

My father probably had symptoms much like mine. He never talked about them and he masked whatever was going on with alcohol, but I saw some striking similarities. Two of his siblings also had serious mental problems, and from an even greater distance in their cases, one looked like she had SA type issues. The other was diagnosed as schizotypal PD.

TreeFrog · 09-28-2009, 11:52 AM

I am sure my mom and my aunt have SA. They are both "shy" and never speak up in groups or want to have any attention focused on them. I think my aunt is probably as good at hiding her anxiety as aloofness as I am.

Toad Licker · 09-28-2009, 12:16 PM

I'm the only one in my family that has SA. My dad and both my brothers can talk to anyone, my mom use to be quiet when she was younger but doesn't have much troubles talking now.

superhappyfunchica · 09-28-2009, 12:32 PM

my mom used to be super shy. now she's just...quiet. brother is soft-spoken. but no, im the only one with a real "problem" i guess. oh how the gods have smiled upon me... hmm

tutliputli · 09-28-2009, 01:07 PM

Nope. Mum told me she used to be very shy, and sometimes I can see my own behaviours in the way she behaves. My dad is fairly quiet, but is confident, and has no problem criticising me for being reserved... Neither of them understand SA at all. They think I made it up.

solasum · 09-28-2009, 05:04 PM

Yes, I suspect my father has social anxiety. His grandmother, I'm told, had severe social anxiety.

hopena · 10-20-2009, 11:03 PM

My mother thought that my dad had/has SA, and my sister diagnosed herself with selective mutism (she's always been incredibly shy). Before incessant bullying, I could, and would, talk to anyone. I still can't believe how much I let those kids get to me.

Logan X · 10-21-2009, 06:56 AM

I mom has SA. Shes been on meds for years.

leonardess · 10-21-2009, 07:00 AM

my mother.

my oldest daughter just recently broke free of it. thankfully.

veron · 10-21-2009, 07:07 AM

I think a cousin of mine has it. I don't really know him, but I know that he still lives at home with his mom (he's in his 30's now), never had a girlfriend, etc. It sounds like SA.

09-28-2009, 05:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
rubyruby Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 59	Anyone have other family members with SA? I had an older brother who had this problem. I also have a nephew with this problem. Is there anyone else in your family with this problem?

09-28-2009, 07:18 AM	#4 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	My father probably had symptoms much like mine. He never talked about them and he masked whatever was going on with alcohol, but I saw some striking similarities. Two of his siblings also had serious mental problems, and from an even greater distance in their cases, one looked like she had SA type issues. The other was diagnosed as schizotypal PD. __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany

09-28-2009, 11:52 AM	#5 (permalink)
TreeFrog Status: Hides it Well but... Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Female Age: 38 Posts: 221	I am sure my mom and my aunt have SA. They are both "shy" and never speak up in groups or want to have any attention focused on them. I think my aunt is probably as good at hiding her anxiety as aloofness as I am. __________________ I know I can't be the only "Whatever I Am" in the room. Ani DiFranco

09-28-2009, 12:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,594	I'm the only one in my family that has SA. My dad and both my brothers can talk to anyone, my mom use to be quiet when she was younger but doesn't have much troubles talking now. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

09-28-2009, 01:07 PM	#8 (permalink)
tutliputli Status: electric lady Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: England, UK Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 578	Nope. Mum told me she used to be very shy, and sometimes I can see my own behaviours in the way she behaves. My dad is fairly quiet, but is confident, and has no problem criticising me for being reserved... Neither of them understand SA at all. They think I made it up. __________________ Why leave me hanging on a star when you deem me so high?

09-28-2009, 05:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
glarmph Status: Hiding in my basement Join Date: May 2009 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 243	My dad does, he's about as much of a crippled mess as I am. My grandma too. Thats all that I know of, there might be more but I'm not sure, its a big family.

09-28-2009, 07:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
Amelia Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 3,533	I had a great uncle who was a virtual recluse. Neither of my parents is outgoing, neither has friends they see regularly and my mom is particularly wary of other people. She gets anxious if relatives want to come to visit and often makes excuses to ensure that they stay away. Last year, she was contacted by a relative she had never met from New Zealand, who was travelling half-way round the world to trace his ancestors and wanted to meet up. She told him that this wouldn't be possible, as she'd be away on holiday.

09-28-2009, 12:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
superhappyfunchica Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: MI Gender: Female Posts: 75	my mom used to be super shy. now she's just...quiet. brother is soft-spoken. but no, im the only one with a real "problem" i guess. oh how the gods have smiled upon me... hmm

09-28-2009, 05:04 PM	#9 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Posts: 914	Yes, I suspect my father has social anxiety. His grandmother, I'm told, had severe social anxiety.

10-20-2009, 11:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
hopena Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 199	My mother thought that my dad had/has SA, and my sister diagnosed herself with selective mutism (she's always been incredibly shy). Before incessant bullying, I could, and would, talk to anyone. I still can't believe how much I let those kids get to me.

10-21-2009, 06:56 AM	#11 (permalink)
Logan X Status: I'm dead inside Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: LaSalle, QC Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 5,274	I mom has SA. Shes been on meds for years. __________________ It ain't the fall that gets you. It's the sudden stop at the bottom.

10-21-2009, 07:00 AM	#12 (permalink)
leonardess Status: wheresthefire?inmyeye! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: WILL you people please leave me alone?I'm supposed to be working lol Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 1,226	my mother. my oldest daughter just recently broke free of it. thankfully.

10-21-2009, 07:07 AM	#13 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgrade Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 488	I think a cousin of mine has it. I don't really know him, but I know that he still lives at home with his mom (he's in his 30's now), never had a girlfriend, etc. It sounds like SA.