I have been trying to figure out what you do when your kids, or kid in my case, grows up. I was a mama rather young; at 18. Here I am at 40, and my kid is 22 and living in another state.
I have been trying to pursue interests, things I didnt have time for before, and its actually quite nice to be able to do this. I am exploring things I never had the opportunity to do before.
I maintain a great relationship with my son, we talk a lot, and we have had long, heart to heart talks as well. The older he gets the better our relationship becomes.
Grandkids arent going to be in the cards for me; my son is gay. But I love him and dont expect him to live to fulfill my dreams but rather his own.
You cannot live through your kids; I think I was gulity of that at one time until someone bluntly told me that is what I was doing. Your kids are a huge vital part of your life but you shouldnt lose yourself along the way. I am talking like that is an EASY thing to do
and its not. I had the empty nest thing going on for awhile; I got a dog.
I wouldnt mind raising another kid; I always wanted another child but my husband is older than me by about 13 years and has no desire to raise more kids. (he has one who is also grown).
The best gift you can give your kids is to be there for them, be their strongest advocate, and also let them live their lives. Its not easy to let go, trust me I KNOW that. But its something you have to do. I am still guilty of "babying" my son but I have gotten better about letting him live his own life.