Social Anxiety Support

JMX · 10-15-2009, 07:30 PM

I've been told that you can meet new people by studying at public areas such as libraries. However, I've been doing this for years and I never had anyone come up to me and say "hi". Has anyone had success with this?

ohpewp · 10-15-2009, 08:12 PM

Hm. Sometimes I study in the library when there's tons of people around, but I've never considered meeting people there.

I don't really think this could work because when you're studying, that's pretty much a default "don't talk to me, I'm busy." And even if you're giving off a friendly vibe to the people around you, they're probably too focused on their work and are not expecting to start a conversation with anyone, unless they already know them.

Iced Soul · 10-15-2009, 08:21 PM

I've been told you can meet people in the library or studying on campus. I've had no luck with this.
I've had one person come up to me, but I put that down to the fact that they knew me from a class and that they wanted to know what time it was and I was the nearest person they recognized, so they asked.

carambola · 10-15-2009, 08:37 PM

Not really. Once at the end of finals week, a girl in the research library asked if I had a paper still due at the last minute (because she did). A woman at the public library who couldn't type quickly once offered me $10 to type up a couple of e-mails and cover letters for her. Other than "Do you mind if I sit here?", no one else has said much to me while I was studying in libraries.

If you want people to talk to you, I can suggest taking up a large but portable musical instrument and carrying it around with you

. People will occasionally comment on it.

rctriplefresh5 · 10-15-2009, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by JMX

I've been told that you can meet new people by studying at public areas such as libraries. However, I've been doing this for years and I never had anyone come up to me and say "hi". Has anyone had success with this?

studying is a great way to meet people. a group of myself and around 6-7 other people from my bio class study together twice a week. some ''friends'' from my chem class and i decided today that we are going to study on tuesdays at 1230 before class as well! im sure we will also joke around while we study same as we do in class.

heyJude · 10-15-2009, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ohpewp

I don't really think this could work because when you're studying, that's pretty much a default "don't talk to me, I'm busy." And even if you're giving off a friendly vibe to the people around you, they're probably too focused on their work and are not expecting to start a conversation with anyone, unless they already know them.

This.

I have never had anyone approach me while I was studying. I probably wouldn't talk to anyone that was studying for fear that I might be bothering them.

Efsee · 10-16-2009, 08:50 AM

the last two times I was studying at my school people talked to me, one person even tried to help me with a problem and then when the place was closing was trying to make small chat, but of course I screwed it up. I wasn't expecting people to talk to me while I was busy studying, but they do sometimes.

solasum · 10-16-2009, 11:55 AM

The only times that anyone has ever talked to me while I was studying were when this guy was handing out party flyers, and then this woman asked me to donate money to charity.

pita · 10-20-2009, 05:47 PM

I like studying at school but I've never made any friends doing it. Actually, I think I'd be annoyed if I was in the zone and somebody came and disrupted me.

toffee · 10-20-2009, 05:56 PM

Well, when i was in high school i used to sit alone in the library every lunch... after about a yr, i started talking to a girl in there who also used to go to the library daily. This was about 4 yrs ago, when i was 13 or so.. we are great friends now, and we still talk alot, even though i have left school. So yes... with my experience, i think that the library is a good place to meet new people. But alot of the time if people want to make friends, they often join weekly clubs, or sports teams.

10-15-2009, 07:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	Studying in public I've been told that you can meet new people by studying at public areas such as libraries. However, I've been doing this for years and I never had anyone come up to me and say "hi". Has anyone had success with this?

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ohpewp Status: Somewhat Human Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Arkansas Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 263	Hm. Sometimes I study in the library when there's tons of people around, but I've never considered meeting people there. I don't really think this could work because when you're studying, that's pretty much a default "don't talk to me, I'm busy." And even if you're giving off a friendly vibe to the people around you, they're probably too focused on their work and are not expecting to start a conversation with anyone, unless they already know them. __________________ For longer than I can remember I've been looking for someone like you Someone with a head like yours and a torso too Birds sing and you're gonna PAY! The end.

10-15-2009, 08:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
Iced Soul Status: Dancing on Rainbows Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Calilalaland Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,775	I've been told you can meet people in the library or studying on campus. I've had no luck with this. I've had one person come up to me, but I put that down to the fact that they knew me from a class and that they wanted to know what time it was and I was the nearest person they recognized, so they asked. __________________ I scraped my knees while I was praying And found a demon in my safest haven. Seems like, it's getting harder to believe in anything Than just to get lost in all my selfish thoughts. I wanna know what it'd be like To find perfection in my pride To see nothing in the light Just turn it off In all my spite, in all my spite, I'll turn it off. - Turn It Off - Paramore http://twitter.com/MissEerie

10-20-2009, 05:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
toffee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 181	Well, when i was in high school i used to sit alone in the library every lunch... after about a yr, i started talking to a girl in there who also used to go to the library daily. This was about 4 yrs ago, when i was 13 or so.. we are great friends now, and we still talk alot, even though i have left school. So yes... with my experience, i think that the library is a good place to meet new people. But alot of the time if people want to make friends, they often join weekly clubs, or sports teams. __________________ Everywhere i look, you're all i see.. just a fading ****ing reminder of who i used to be.

10-15-2009, 08:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: California Age: 24 Posts: 735	Not really. Once at the end of finals week, a girl in the research library asked if I had a paper still due at the last minute (because she did). A woman at the public library who couldn't type quickly once offered me $10 to type up a couple of e-mails and cover letters for her. Other than "Do you mind if I sit here?", no one else has said much to me while I was studying in libraries. If you want people to talk to you, I can suggest taking up a large but portable musical instrument and carrying it around with you . People will occasionally comment on it.

10-16-2009, 08:50 AM	#7 (permalink)
Efsee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 333	the last two times I was studying at my school people talked to me, one person even tried to help me with a problem and then when the place was closing was trying to make small chat, but of course I screwed it up. I wasn't expecting people to talk to me while I was busy studying, but they do sometimes.

10-16-2009, 11:55 AM	#8 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Posts: 914	The only times that anyone has ever talked to me while I was studying were when this guy was handing out party flyers, and then this woman asked me to donate money to charity.

10-20-2009, 05:47 PM	#9 (permalink)
pita Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Female Posts: 2,168	I like studying at school but I've never made any friends doing it. Actually, I think I'd be annoyed if I was in the zone and somebody came and disrupted me.