Social Anxiety Support

japanfour · 01-22-2006, 02:31 PM

I think the worst thing about class is group projects. Everytime I hear "Alright class, get into groups of three" I think, "Great, now I wait until everyone has a group and then the teacher will throw me in with two people who will allow me to do the entire project." This happens every time.

Anyone else hate group projects? (duh)

infinite_time · 01-22-2006, 04:45 PM

They make me nervous, but I'd rather do a group project over a presentation any day. So I just try to look at it like that. At my community college it made me really nervous to do group work. People seem way more friendly at the university I'm at now. My math class right now is basically all group work, we pretty much teach each other the material. It's gone pretty well though. The first day I was really nervous and stuttered a bit, but now I feel more secure with the people in my group. Their all really friendly so far, so it's becoming a positive experience.

conanlover · 01-22-2006, 05:33 PM

I hate group projects too and even worse, they usually lead to presentations

crystallizedtear · 01-22-2006, 06:11 PM

I don't mind group projects as long as there aren't too many people. And group presentations are nasty but not as bad as individual ones

japanfour · 01-22-2006, 08:41 PM

actually, its mostly the "get into groups" part that bothers me the most. whenever the teacher makes their own random groups up I am always relieved, while the rest of the class is annoyed.

man w/ no name · 01-23-2006, 12:08 AM

Group projects have always been a hassel for me, I just get so nervous about the whole thing and fear that I will sound stupid in front of my peers. I recently took a literature class that involved group work in ever class session. There were about 12 people in the class and it was simply torture going there. I simply couldn't open up to my group about anything. I also found it very intimidating to have the instructor, grading the class on participation. In general, I have always been the quiet person in the group, usually feeling completely useless.

emptybottle · 01-23-2006, 09:01 PM

I don't mind in-class group work so much anymore. People tend to stick to the subject when we're working in class, and the work gets done efficiently. What I hate are group projects where you have to arrange meetings outside of class. My groups members tend to spend a lot of those group meeting times getting to know each other, talking about their weekend, boyfriends, parties, gossip etc., while I'm left entirely out of the conversation. It's unbearably uncomfortable for me especially when they pause to look at me every now and then, expecting me to chime in with an anecdote about my weekend or something.

Traci · 01-24-2006, 12:33 PM

I always look to the bright side, at least it's a group project, which means it's a group presentation. I don't have to stand up there alone.

infinite_time · 01-24-2006, 03:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Traci

I always look to the bright side, at least it's a group project, which means it's a group presentation. I don't have to stand up there alone.

Yep... that is the bright side of it.

black_mamba · 01-31-2006, 01:56 PM

I have a MASSIVE group proj on at the moment, the worst thing is my grup members have been *****ing about me behind my back because I've been working too hard. You just can't win!!

Swiftwind · 02-23-2006, 06:18 AM

I have a group presentation I have to do next week!

But like Traci said, at least you're not up there on your own... that's the only good thing.

meandme · 10-11-2011, 09:21 PM

It seems that teachers don't get it. I feel that she hates me personally. I have one friend in the entire school and she's not in my class. When the teacher made us pick groups I just had to sit there and wait. I couldn't go with the intelligent people, because they assume that I'm stupid since I don't speak much, so I ended up with two guys who had already made me go through an all-nighter. I don't have anyone to help me now. The other girl doing the project said she couldn't really do anything because she has homework (and apparently I don't). The one guy who started looking for pictures dissapeared. The other guy had the guts to contact me at 8 pm asking what we are doing for the presentation tomorrow and gave me a suggestion on the google docs he just saw instead of changing it himself. Now I have to finish it for first period, even when I do, the others won't know their part and I'll have to waste printing ink on them. I wanted this done two days ago, but as the idiot that I am, I hoped that maybe they would do something. I even went to the teacher today to tell her about the guy who did not contact at all until this evening and she defended him by saying he may have been away on the weekend. Really? And I didn't even see sunlight for three days, doing more than my part on this assignment and correcting the other girl's mistakes. I jut want to sleep, I've getting about 4-6 hours of sleep on average every night because we always have group projects going on. I don't know if I'll last another month like this, not just mentally but physically. I just want to sleep like my group members are doing now. This was supposed to be a long weekend. I can't even go to the teacher for help and I don't want my body to shut down because of those people. I don't want to fail because of them either. In my last group I had two other people who knew what they were doing so I had to only do the work for three people. But now I have no one to protect me from them. I have other homework too, and I want to sleep too but I don't have the time for it.

Safeway · 10-11-2011, 11:13 PM

i had countless group projects in college and most were bad for me. just the people i work with were not my type of people. it really matters who you get for your group project. the few good ones i had were really cool people i got along well with.

i have had assigned ones before because of my shyness and the people in the group were fairly close with each other and i was like the outcast who had no other choice but to be in there group. i'm glad i'm done with that stuff.

i also had laid back lazy groups that didn't care and we all got bad grades. then i had hard working groups that were disappointed with less than an A effort and were unhappy if i was not up to par. then i had groups that assign me crap work since i was the outcast in the group.
but i also upset some of my groups as a freshman because i skipped the class presentations - that was bad on my part.

catcharay · 10-12-2011, 05:43 AM

Well I don't mind group work anymore but it seems to me that I'm always the leader bar one class. I have get the train running. Just today I received corrections for my report and I got great remarks, however my team didn't fare well - ok but they are internationals so...lol

I'm so much more comfortable mingling with others now.. so I don't feel like an outcast basically because I'm comfortable in myself a bit more...hence my personality shows?

I don't really know my personality

MagusAnima · 10-12-2011, 05:54 AM

I really dislike group projects, I'm 99% sure I can do most entire projects alone, more efficiently, coherently and generally better than when I am forced to do it in a group.

Group work brings my grades down. -.-

Lonewolf207 · 10-12-2011, 07:18 AM

Yeah, the teachers tell everyone to get into groups, and i just sit there until they assign me a group. Then once i'm in the group, it's likely the other people wont notice i'm there so i just copy down their answers and leave.
The only nerve wracking part would be if they didn't want me in their group, or asked me to participate in the discussion..:P

CoolUnderFire · 10-12-2011, 04:54 PM

Presentations are much easier when you're apart of a group.

Usually in University, they just pair you up with the people sitting near you.

Event Horizon · 10-14-2011, 01:09 PM

What i hate is that group projects are prevalent among classes which i really have no interest or knowledge in, like poli sci or s/t, so i feel like i sound like a total idiot.

misspeachy · 11-28-2011, 02:44 PM

Tomorrow is a school trip for the day,, I know that we are going to have to be going around in groups of 3 or 4. I KNOW nobody in my class,not like my other classes they are all so unfriendly and friendships are all based on the past. I haven't made any effort to be friends with any of them.

AS I was saying, we have to get into groups of 3 or 4, and go off for the whole day just in these small groups. But what am I going to do, everybody will go be in their groups with their friends, apart from me? I don't want to look like a child just stood there whilst everybody is in their groups. I'm so worried thinking about it now, but its too late to change anything and I am going to look soo stupid.

I am really not close to anybody in the class, because they are all 2 years older than me, and the one girl I liked, has changed alot since sept and I have fallen out with her anyway. So I dont care anymore.

What am I going to do, just stand there, looking silly?

01-22-2006, 02:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
japanfour Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: 19/M/California Posts: 31	Group Projects I think the worst thing about class is group projects. Everytime I hear "Alright class, get into groups of three" I think, "Great, now I wait until everyone has a group and then the teacher will throw me in with two people who will allow me to do the entire project." This happens every time. Anyone else hate group projects? (duh) __________________ This is just like the big bang, I'm painting myself the color of you. If you need a reason, I just want to party. I'm rolling on, I'm rolling on. ~ Katamari Damacy

01-22-2006, 04:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
infinite_time Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: 23/f/new jersey Posts: 415	They make me nervous, but I'd rather do a group project over a presentation any day. So I just try to look at it like that. At my community college it made me really nervous to do group work. People seem way more friendly at the university I'm at now. My math class right now is basically all group work, we pretty much teach each other the material. It's gone pretty well though. The first day I was really nervous and stuttered a bit, but now I feel more secure with the people in my group. Their all really friendly so far, so it's becoming a positive experience. __________________ "Just believe and you can't go wrong... In the light you will find the road..." - Led Zeppelin last.fm

01-22-2006, 06:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
crystallizedtear Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Toronto Posts: 113	I don't mind group projects as long as there aren't too many people. And group presentations are nasty but not as bad as individual ones __________________ Life is a work of art...you gotta paint it colourful~*

01-22-2006, 08:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
japanfour Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: 19/M/California Posts: 31	actually, its mostly the "get into groups" part that bothers me the most. whenever the teacher makes their own random groups up I am always relieved, while the rest of the class is annoyed. __________________ This is just like the big bang, I'm painting myself the color of you. If you need a reason, I just want to party. I'm rolling on, I'm rolling on. ~ Katamari Damacy

01-23-2006, 12:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
man w/ no name Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 750	Group projects have always been a hassel for me, I just get so nervous about the whole thing and fear that I will sound stupid in front of my peers. I recently took a literature class that involved group work in ever class session. There were about 12 people in the class and it was simply torture going there. I simply couldn't open up to my group about anything. I also found it very intimidating to have the instructor, grading the class on participation. In general, I have always been the quiet person in the group, usually feeling completely useless. __________________ "No thought, no action, no movement, total stillness: only thus can one manifest the true nature and law of things from within and unconsciously, and at last become one with heaven and earth." -Lao Tzu

01-22-2006, 05:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
conanlover Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Age: 21 Posts: 144	I hate group projects too and even worse, they usually lead to presentations

01-23-2006, 09:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
emptybottle Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 913	I don't mind in-class group work so much anymore. People tend to stick to the subject when we're working in class, and the work gets done efficiently. What I hate are group projects where you have to arrange meetings outside of class. My groups members tend to spend a lot of those group meeting times getting to know each other, talking about their weekend, boyfriends, parties, gossip etc., while I'm left entirely out of the conversation. It's unbearably uncomfortable for me especially when they pause to look at me every now and then, expecting me to chime in with an anecdote about my weekend or something. __________________

01-24-2006, 12:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
Traci Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Colorado Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 480	I always look to the bright side, at least it's a group project, which means it's a group presentation. I don't have to stand up there alone. __________________ "Life is waiting for you, it's all messed up, but we'll survive."

01-31-2006, 01:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
black_mamba Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: 23/F/UK Posts: 39	I have a MASSIVE group proj on at the moment, the worst thing is my grup members have been *****ing about me behind my back because I've been working too hard. You just can't win!!

02-23-2006, 06:18 AM	#11 (permalink)
Swiftwind Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Australia Age: 25 Posts: 430	I have a group presentation I have to do next week! But like Traci said, at least you're not up there on your own... that's the only good thing.

10-11-2011, 09:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
meandme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 2	It seems that teachers don't get it. I feel that she hates me personally. I have one friend in the entire school and she's not in my class. When the teacher made us pick groups I just had to sit there and wait. I couldn't go with the intelligent people, because they assume that I'm stupid since I don't speak much, so I ended up with two guys who had already made me go through an all-nighter. I don't have anyone to help me now. The other girl doing the project said she couldn't really do anything because she has homework (and apparently I don't). The one guy who started looking for pictures dissapeared. The other guy had the guts to contact me at 8 pm asking what we are doing for the presentation tomorrow and gave me a suggestion on the google docs he just saw instead of changing it himself. Now I have to finish it for first period, even when I do, the others won't know their part and I'll have to waste printing ink on them. I wanted this done two days ago, but as the idiot that I am, I hoped that maybe they would do something. I even went to the teacher today to tell her about the guy who did not contact at all until this evening and she defended him by saying he may have been away on the weekend. Really? And I didn't even see sunlight for three days, doing more than my part on this assignment and correcting the other girl's mistakes. I jut want to sleep, I've getting about 4-6 hours of sleep on average every night because we always have group projects going on. I don't know if I'll last another month like this, not just mentally but physically. I just want to sleep like my group members are doing now. This was supposed to be a long weekend. I can't even go to the teacher for help and I don't want my body to shut down because of those people. I don't want to fail because of them either. In my last group I had two other people who knew what they were doing so I had to only do the work for three people. But now I have no one to protect me from them. I have other homework too, and I want to sleep too but I don't have the time for it.

10-11-2011, 11:13 PM	#13 (permalink)
Safeway Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: oregon Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 626	i had countless group projects in college and most were bad for me. just the people i work with were not my type of people. it really matters who you get for your group project. the few good ones i had were really cool people i got along well with. i have had assigned ones before because of my shyness and the people in the group were fairly close with each other and i was like the outcast who had no other choice but to be in there group. i'm glad i'm done with that stuff. i also had laid back lazy groups that didn't care and we all got bad grades. then i had hard working groups that were disappointed with less than an A effort and were unhappy if i was not up to par. then i had groups that assign me crap work since i was the outcast in the group. but i also upset some of my groups as a freshman because i skipped the class presentations - that was bad on my part.

10-12-2011, 05:43 AM	#14 (permalink)
catcharay Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Gender: Female Posts: 76	Well I don't mind group work anymore but it seems to me that I'm always the leader bar one class. I have get the train running. Just today I received corrections for my report and I got great remarks, however my team didn't fare well - ok but they are internationals so...lol I'm so much more comfortable mingling with others now.. so I don't feel like an outcast basically because I'm comfortable in myself a bit more...hence my personality shows? I don't really know my personality

10-12-2011, 05:54 AM	#15 (permalink)
MagusAnima Status: Confused Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 377	I really dislike group projects, I'm 99% sure I can do most entire projects alone, more efficiently, coherently and generally better than when I am forced to do it in a group. Group work brings my grades down. -.- __________________ - The closer you get to the light, the greater your shadow becomes. But don't be afraid, you hold the most powerful weapon of all. -

10-12-2011, 07:18 AM	#16 (permalink)
Lonewolf207 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 13	Yeah, the teachers tell everyone to get into groups, and i just sit there until they assign me a group. Then once i'm in the group, it's likely the other people wont notice i'm there so i just copy down their answers and leave. The only nerve wracking part would be if they didn't want me in their group, or asked me to participate in the discussion..:P __________________ You make my dopamine levels go all silly.

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10-12-2011, 04:54 PM	#17 (permalink)
CoolUnderFire Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 114	Presentations are much easier when you're apart of a group. Usually in University, they just pair you up with the people sitting near you.

10-14-2011, 01:09 PM	#18 (permalink)
Event Horizon Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Tonopah, Nevada Gender: Female Posts: 435	What i hate is that group projects are prevalent among classes which i really have no interest or knowledge in, like poli sci or s/t, so i feel like i sound like a total idiot.

11-28-2011, 02:44 PM	#19 (permalink)
misspeachy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 104	Can't stop worrying, about tomorrow Tomorrow is a school trip for the day,, I know that we are going to have to be going around in groups of 3 or 4. I KNOW nobody in my class,not like my other classes they are all so unfriendly and friendships are all based on the past. I haven't made any effort to be friends with any of them. AS I was saying, we have to get into groups of 3 or 4, and go off for the whole day just in these small groups. But what am I going to do, everybody will go be in their groups with their friends, apart from me? I don't want to look like a child just stood there whilst everybody is in their groups. I'm so worried thinking about it now, but its too late to change anything and I am going to look soo stupid. I am really not close to anybody in the class, because they are all 2 years older than me, and the one girl I liked, has changed alot since sept and I have fallen out with her anyway. So I dont care anymore. What am I going to do, just stand there, looking silly?