Social Anxiety Support

grrungis · 10-23-2009, 01:41 PM

Currently going to algonquin college - Ottawa,ON

Im currently 1/2 done my first semmester as a freshmen and still havent made any friends. I live in residence and spend most of the day hidding in my room all alone. I tried talking to my room mate a couple of times but he seems to enjoy being alone playing WOW all day. I sorta have friends in my clases who I talk to when I walk bye but no one I can actually hang out with.
i really would like to get out of my room and do things but not alone.

Any advice

rcapo89 · 10-23-2009, 03:10 PM

Hey Greg do you sit with anyone during lunch? Maybe you can ask your friendly acquaintances if you can hang out with them. Sorry I couldn't be more help. I'm also in college with no friends.

Good luck with making friends. Don't give up, your not alone.

Havalina · 10-24-2009, 04:09 PM

I managed to make a couple acquaintances throughout my university years, but none that I ever have done anything non-academic with. This is my fourth year lol...sigh*. Some of the better ones I met were from the bus to and from school, in a study room geared for people in the same major as me, and from a couple field courses (where your forced to work with others 8 hours+ a day for a week).

Basically try getting out of your room... join something (yeah I know hard, but worth it). You still have time, it's only your first semester. Besides most people are in the same boat as you and have not made best friends with everyone yet.

amarie · 11-01-2009, 03:19 PM

Try asking your roommate about WOW? You never know, you may find a new hobby. There are probably clubs that you could join, and find people who share the same interests as you. Study groups are also a good way to meet people. If you're having trouble with a subject, ask the Professor if there is a study group available that you could join.

With the roommate thing, try to be open to their lifestyle. You can probably learn something new from them as they could also learn from you. If you have a kitchen in your dorm, start cooking something one night, and ask if they want to try it. (There is a reason people say the kitchen is the heart of the home. Food brings people toegther.) If there isn't a kitchen, ask your roommate if they want to order some take out with you, go out to eat, or even ask them if they know a good place to eat around your campus!

I hope this helps!

Phoenix87 · 11-01-2009, 06:00 PM

I would recommend finding a club that interests you... Even if you're new, people are generally very welcoming and eager to share their knowledge.

amarie · 11-02-2009, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phoenix87

I would recommend finding a club that interests you... Even if you're new, people are generally very welcoming and eager to share their knowledge.

agreed!

telefy · 11-10-2009, 01:29 PM

I bet you filled out a questionnaire that paired you with this WOW addict. (questions like: How much time do you spend on the computer; prefer to go out to parties or stay in with friends; etc.) That's a bummer. I got paired with a mmorpg addict too, lol. Oh well, live and you learn I guess.

ohpewp · 11-10-2009, 04:13 PM

I know how you feel. Except I'm in my third year. And too scared to join clubs and go to things by myself, like they suggest. It's like you have to have the perfect situation to be able to make friends with someone, like I'm trying to do with someone, finally.

I think as long as you're willing and actually do try to be friendly and talk to people on a somewhat regular basis, you'll be all right.

Miss Meggie · Yesterday, 08:09 PM

I'm currently in the exact same situation.
I started at school last year with my best friend and my boyfriend. We left for our internships at the same time. However, due to some complications with my epilepsy, I was unable to finish the last 2 weeks of my first internship and had to do a complete second one. My boyfriend and best friend returned to school as I started my second internship.
When I got back to school, my boyfriend and best friend graduated three weeks later. So now I'm alone on campus, don't know any of the kids in my classes, am looked at as the shy new girl, and spend most of my time sitting in my room reading, watching movies and tv, writing, etc.
I'm actually going to meet with the head of student activities tomorrow morning to see about possible clubs or groups to join. I'm really nervous about meeting with him. I'm also really worried that even if I do decide to join a club, I'll not end up going to any meetings.

10-23-2009, 01:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
grrungis Status: Sucks Being All Alone Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ottawa, On Canada Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 49	Friendless and alone in Residence Currently going to algonquin college - Ottawa,ON Im currently 1/2 done my first semmester as a freshmen and still havent made any friends. I live in residence and spend most of the day hidding in my room all alone. I tried talking to my room mate a couple of times but he seems to enjoy being alone playing WOW all day. I sorta have friends in my clases who I talk to when I walk bye but no one I can actually hang out with. i really would like to get out of my room and do things but not alone. Any advice

10-23-2009, 03:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
rcapo89 Status: Exploring the moon Europa Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Georgia (northeast of Atlanta) Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 840	Hey Greg do you sit with anyone during lunch? Maybe you can ask your friendly acquaintances if you can hang out with them. Sorry I couldn't be more help. I'm also in college with no friends. Good luck with making friends. Don't give up, your not alone. __________________ I see the world being slowly transformed into a wilderness, I hear the approaching thunder that, one day, will destroy us too. I feel the suffering of millions. And yet, when I look up at the sky, I somehow feel that everything will change for the better, that this cruelty too shall end, that peace and tranquility will return once more. - Anne Frank

11-01-2009, 06:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
Phoenix87 Status: King of the Phoenix Realm Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 258	I would recommend finding a club that interests you... Even if you're new, people are generally very welcoming and eager to share their knowledge. __________________ I intend to live forever. So far, so good. When in doubt, mumble. I Fuking Love to Cuddle! You can't have Manslaughter, without 'laughter.' Don't bother me... I'm wasting potential! FACEBOOK*

11-10-2009, 04:13 PM	#8 (permalink)
ohpewp Status: Somewhat Human Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Arkansas Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 263	I know how you feel. Except I'm in my third year. And too scared to join clubs and go to things by myself, like they suggest. It's like you have to have the perfect situation to be able to make friends with someone, like I'm trying to do with someone, finally. I think as long as you're willing and actually do try to be friendly and talk to people on a somewhat regular basis, you'll be all right. __________________ For longer than I can remember I've been looking for someone like you Someone with a head like yours and a torso too Birds sing and you're gonna PAY! The end.

Yesterday, 08:09 PM	#9 (permalink)
Miss Meggie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Hyde Park, NY Gender: Female Posts: 25	I'm currently in the exact same situation. I started at school last year with my best friend and my boyfriend. We left for our internships at the same time. However, due to some complications with my epilepsy, I was unable to finish the last 2 weeks of my first internship and had to do a complete second one. My boyfriend and best friend returned to school as I started my second internship. When I got back to school, my boyfriend and best friend graduated three weeks later. So now I'm alone on campus, don't know any of the kids in my classes, am looked at as the shy new girl, and spend most of my time sitting in my room reading, watching movies and tv, writing, etc. I'm actually going to meet with the head of student activities tomorrow morning to see about possible clubs or groups to join. I'm really nervous about meeting with him. I'm also really worried that even if I do decide to join a club, I'll not end up going to any meetings. __________________ "It is the unknown we fear when we look upon death and darkness, nothing more." -Albus Dumbledore

10-24-2009, 04:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
Havalina Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Niagara Falls Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 424	I managed to make a couple acquaintances throughout my university years, but none that I ever have done anything non-academic with. This is my fourth year lol...sigh*. Some of the better ones I met were from the bus to and from school, in a study room geared for people in the same major as me, and from a couple field courses (where your forced to work with others 8 hours+ a day for a week). Basically try getting out of your room... join something (yeah I know hard, but worth it). You still have time, it's only your first semester. Besides most people are in the same boat as you and have not made best friends with everyone yet.

11-01-2009, 03:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
amarie Status: AMarie Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Marietta, Ga Gender: Female Posts: 36	Try asking your roommate about WOW? You never know, you may find a new hobby. There are probably clubs that you could join, and find people who share the same interests as you. Study groups are also a good way to meet people. If you're having trouble with a subject, ask the Professor if there is a study group available that you could join. With the roommate thing, try to be open to their lifestyle. You can probably learn something new from them as they could also learn from you. If you have a kitchen in your dorm, start cooking something one night, and ask if they want to try it. (There is a reason people say the kitchen is the heart of the home. Food brings people toegther.) If there isn't a kitchen, ask your roommate if they want to order some take out with you, go out to eat, or even ask them if they know a good place to eat around your campus! I hope this helps!

11-10-2009, 01:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
telefy Status: A safe distance Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 28	I bet you filled out a questionnaire that paired you with this WOW addict. (questions like: How much time do you spend on the computer; prefer to go out to parties or stay in with friends; etc.) That's a bummer. I got paired with a mmorpg addict too, lol. Oh well, live and you learn I guess.