Social Anxiety Support

blackrainbow · 09-23-2009, 08:21 AM

im not sure if i have SA but im 16 and my life has been ruined by depression! iv'e had this for 2 and a half years now and iv'e been taken out of school, lost my friends, is suffering from sever depression which is forever changing (such as suicidley depressed to feeling nothing to sudden explotions of anger to having completley given up on things to being nervouse as hell of evrything, which could be SA) for the past months iv'e been blank minded and emotionless, but am able to talk completley fine so people dont really know whats wrong with me. i hate it! i tried medication for a bit but it just made me more blank minded and depresseed ( only keeping me awake for longer) so ive decidide to try and beat this on my own. my dad and stepmom some times try and be supportive, but just dont understand and hate the fact im not who i used to be and seem to get in the way of everything. iv'e been out of school for a year now and has just started college. i cant make friends easily anymore and this college hates me. im so depressed but if i dont go i'll have no future and my parents are hating me right now. iv'e taken a day off today because theres to much pressure! everything has been blurry through this depression the only things i can remember clearly are the times before this happened. i dont know what to do my lifes a mess and i know it but im just to emotionless to take action or even care. i just want this to end, i cant go on like this...

(sorry if this is way to extream for everybody)

meowgirl · 09-23-2009, 05:11 PM

I"m very sorry you have to go through that, but don't worry, you still have lots of time to take it easy and relax. I know what you are going through and it hurts, but as corny as it may sound, someday it will be past. And, it seems like you are a very intelligent person, I mean, you're only 16 and already starting college, that is wonderful. If you don't like the college you are going to you can take a break until you find yourself. And since you are so young, it wouldn't be like you would be missing anything or falling behind. Maybe you could even go to another college that is more your type. Things can be changed

please feel better and don't give up hope

sandwich master · 09-23-2009, 09:50 PM

Someone said this to me and I think it's a completely accurate comment - State of Mind is Paramount. If you are not happy, I don't think you should be going to College. What you need to do is build up your confidence by winning your friends back and then making new friends in your society. Whether it's at the mall or next door at your neighbours'. You NEED to start taking an initiative. If you don't, things WILL remain as they are. I know the feeling of wanting to let it all go, but you can trust me on this - it won't all go away unless you stand up and make an effort. Your friends probably don't hang around with you anymore because you crim, moan etc about your life. If you want people to stick around, you need to be more jolly and receiving. I also think some of your closer friends would appreciate it if you opened up to them. After all, sometimes friends can become closer than parents on certain issues. Even though what they might advice you to do may be considered juvenile, I still think sharing your problems will make them feel closer to you.

After you are done winning back your friends, go out with them and start talking to random people. Always remember, normal people don't judge you unless you have an impact on their lives. If you go up to people asking help and introducing yourself to them, 99/100 of these people will be nice to you, and THEN you will realize that how easy it is to get out of this state of mind.

Sometimes you can feel fatigued by the amount of thoughts that are running through your head that makes you so fed-up with everything around you that you just want to give up. But NEVER GIVE UP! In life you need to keep fighting on until you fail. And when you do, you pick your self up and fight some more! Fight to the death, as they say.

As far as parents go, remember that they will always understand your situation. They may not have personally gone through what you are going through, but I am sure they have seen enough in life to put more pressure on you at this fragile stage in your life. I advice you that you speak to your dad or stepmom - whoever is closer to you, and tell them about your current state of mind. You are not happy. Why are you not happy. What can be done to change your mindset. All these issues should be discussed. Also, don't be afraid to see a therapist. A professional advice should be sought if things get out of hand.

blackrainbow · 09-24-2009, 03:24 PM

thanks this really helps, i do see a theropist though but all she does is tell me to come back onto medication...she's not very good. and i dont really have many 'friends' to become closer too. but like u said iv'e got to make more of an effort. thanks

and taking a year off would be amazing! but i dont think my parents would be to happy about me suggesting that, thanks so much!

glad to know i have people to talk to

sandwich master · 09-24-2009, 04:05 PM

You're Welcome

A therapist who only suggests medication is of no use. You need to be advised with how to approach your problems.

And I'll suggest that you speak to your parents about your condition and how it's affecting your work. Struggling through a year and being depressed is not worth the effort. You need to be in a good state of mind so that you can give it your all. That's how academics should be approached in my opinion.

Anyway, if you ever need any help, or if you need someone to talk to just pm me and I'll get back to you

09-23-2009, 08:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
blackrainbow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 8	cant keep going on like this! im not sure if i have SA but im 16 and my life has been ruined by depression! iv'e had this for 2 and a half years now and iv'e been taken out of school, lost my friends, is suffering from sever depression which is forever changing (such as suicidley depressed to feeling nothing to sudden explotions of anger to having completley given up on things to being nervouse as hell of evrything, which could be SA) for the past months iv'e been blank minded and emotionless, but am able to talk completley fine so people dont really know whats wrong with me. i hate it! i tried medication for a bit but it just made me more blank minded and depresseed ( only keeping me awake for longer) so ive decidide to try and beat this on my own. my dad and stepmom some times try and be supportive, but just dont understand and hate the fact im not who i used to be and seem to get in the way of everything. iv'e been out of school for a year now and has just started college. i cant make friends easily anymore and this college hates me. im so depressed but if i dont go i'll have no future and my parents are hating me right now. iv'e taken a day off today because theres to much pressure! everything has been blurry through this depression the only things i can remember clearly are the times before this happened. i dont know what to do my lifes a mess and i know it but im just to emotionless to take action or even care. i just want this to end, i cant go on like this... (sorry if this is way to extream for everybody)

09-23-2009, 05:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
meowgirl Status: legend of the seas Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 134	I"m very sorry you have to go through that, but don't worry, you still have lots of time to take it easy and relax. I know what you are going through and it hurts, but as corny as it may sound, someday it will be past. And, it seems like you are a very intelligent person, I mean, you're only 16 and already starting college, that is wonderful. If you don't like the college you are going to you can take a break until you find yourself. And since you are so young, it wouldn't be like you would be missing anything or falling behind. Maybe you could even go to another college that is more your type. Things can be changed please feel better and don't give up hope __________________ Because I'm easy come, easy go

09-23-2009, 09:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
sandwich master Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 13	Someone said this to me and I think it's a completely accurate comment - State of Mind is Paramount. If you are not happy, I don't think you should be going to College. What you need to do is build up your confidence by winning your friends back and then making new friends in your society. Whether it's at the mall or next door at your neighbours'. You NEED to start taking an initiative. If you don't, things WILL remain as they are. I know the feeling of wanting to let it all go, but you can trust me on this - it won't all go away unless you stand up and make an effort. Your friends probably don't hang around with you anymore because you crim, moan etc about your life. If you want people to stick around, you need to be more jolly and receiving. I also think some of your closer friends would appreciate it if you opened up to them. After all, sometimes friends can become closer than parents on certain issues. Even though what they might advice you to do may be considered juvenile, I still think sharing your problems will make them feel closer to you. After you are done winning back your friends, go out with them and start talking to random people. Always remember, normal people don't judge you unless you have an impact on their lives. If you go up to people asking help and introducing yourself to them, 99/100 of these people will be nice to you, and THEN you will realize that how easy it is to get out of this state of mind. Sometimes you can feel fatigued by the amount of thoughts that are running through your head that makes you so fed-up with everything around you that you just want to give up. But NEVER GIVE UP! In life you need to keep fighting on until you fail. And when you do, you pick your self up and fight some more! Fight to the death, as they say. As far as parents go, remember that they will always understand your situation. They may not have personally gone through what you are going through, but I am sure they have seen enough in life to put more pressure on you at this fragile stage in your life. I advice you that you speak to your dad or stepmom - whoever is closer to you, and tell them about your current state of mind. You are not happy. Why are you not happy. What can be done to change your mindset. All these issues should be discussed. Also, don't be afraid to see a therapist. A professional advice should be sought if things get out of hand.

09-24-2009, 03:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
blackrainbow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 8	thanks this really helps, i do see a theropist though but all she does is tell me to come back onto medication...she's not very good. and i dont really have many 'friends' to become closer too. but like u said iv'e got to make more of an effort. thanks and taking a year off would be amazing! but i dont think my parents would be to happy about me suggesting that, thanks so much! glad to know i have people to talk to

09-24-2009, 04:05 PM	#5 (permalink)
sandwich master Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 13	You're Welcome A therapist who only suggests medication is of no use. You need to be advised with how to approach your problems. And I'll suggest that you speak to your parents about your condition and how it's affecting your work. Struggling through a year and being depressed is not worth the effort. You need to be in a good state of mind so that you can give it your all. That's how academics should be approached in my opinion. Anyway, if you ever need any help, or if you need someone to talk to just pm me and I'll get back to you