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Status: Wants to be someone else
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: England
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Posts: 283
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Need to get a 'needs assessment' from my counsellor to send to the head so they can figure out what route to take for the appeal, and how they can sort out my final year so I don't fail that too. I should feel happy, that I might be able to get better grades by no working in groups/lab (this is the bit where I got my least marks). But I feel it's a lot of hassle, bringing me into centre of attention and admitting there is something wrong aswell as publically telling people about me. I just want to cry because I still feel I'm making this up, it's too much hassle and people will know! And I just feel why should I appeal, I'm just crap at uni.
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Status: legend of the seas
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 134
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Don't feel bad, you deserved that good grade for all the work you did outside of lab.
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Status: SAS Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 13
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You are too hard on yourself. Nobody is crap at uni. If you've managed to get into that course, it's only because of the fact that whoever at the university manages admissions, has faith in the fact that you are capable of doing well.
Having SA is probably making you feel handicapped, and even though it does not show, I am sure you have to explain it to a lot of people. But don't be afraid. Think of it as one of the smaller problems in your massive life. If you have a chance of improving your grades, you should take it as it will be beneficial to you and only you. Your professors or the head or the committee or whoever is assessing the situation, is only going to assess what's best for you. S/he is not there to judge, so don't be anxious about what s/he is thinking about you. I am sure that person has a lot worse things going on in their lives. Think of it this way - everyone has their own problems. If you feel like crying, do it. There is no better stress reliever than crying. Then ask yourself, if you're crying, how could you be making all this up? About people coming to know, since it's a medical condition, if you disclose it to your prof/head, s/he will not be authorized to discuss about it (except with the committee discussing your future, of course) as that would be illegal. Thus nobody except the people discussing your future and the ones you tell will know about your condition. I hope you understand that this is about your future and any step you take toward appealing your case is a step forward. Good luck! |
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Status: Wants to be someone else
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: England
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Posts: 283
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I know it sounds like I'm being hard but to me it sounds true. I've never been a grade A student and anything I've supposed to remember I never can. It's silly little things like I read all about smoke alarms for one assignment in college about 3 years ago, and I remember how it works etc but anything on my course just goes in one ear and out the other.
I recieved the copy of what my counsellor has sent to my tutor, and I think I'm gonna go and see him tomorrow between my other lectures to see what I've got to do. If I need anything else. I think I have to go and speak to someone else at uni about the appeal. Also I know it's to help me, but seems too much hassle and brings me into centre of attention which I don't want. I think in my mind I'm labelling myself and feel a failure. I think i'm in denial that I have a problem. I go from accepting it to completely dismissing it although I know it troubles me. I'm now scared that my friends'll find out. I'm already lying to them when I go and see the counsellor. They know my timetable, and I've pretended to have extra practicals. |
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Status: SAS Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 13
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1. http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Your-Memory 2. http://www.mindtools.com/memory.html If you realize that it's not your memory but your writing skills, see your prof and ask him if there is an on campus facility where you can learn academic writing. Make sure you know that Academic writing is different to other styles of writing and will teach you how to answer your papers. When you feel you don't want to be in a centre of attention, just keep telling yourself that this will only benefit you. Ultimately, you are doing this for your own good, so why should you have a bad future because of what you THINK others MIGHT or MIGHT NOT think about you/your condition? Right? You need to be positive. Negativity helps nobody. If you think you're being Negative reverse that thought process. Try to convince yourself that you are not a failure. I wrote about this in another thread - SMALL VICTORIES. They go a long way. If you do well in a tutorial, Quiz, Mid-term, pat yourself on the back (mentally of course, unless you're flexible ). If you say something that everyone in your friends circle likes, again pat yourself. Smallest of things can go a long way in building your confidence. Try it!As for your friends, if they really are your friends, I suggest you speak your mind to them. One, because it will make YOU feel better. It will take a burden off your chest that will ultimately help you in several ways. Two, your friends will realize that you trust them which will in turn strengthen your bond with them and will make you realize that you can tell them anything you want. This is a VERY effective way of releasing stress. Trust me, you don't want to build all that stress. It has mental, as well as physical side-effects. |
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Status: Wants to be someone else
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: England
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Posts: 283
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I'm off to speak with my tutor and someone higher up in the uni who deals with appeals etc. Feel so nervous, and half of me just wants say sorry for wasting their time and I don't want to go through with it.
I might tell my friends, but not sure they'd understand or go blurting it round to everyone else like most of the things I tell them. I'm going to ahve a look at those websites, and I'm planning on starting my revision early this year aswell as attend extra lectures so I understand. I'm trying to get more positive, but everytime I read something in class or have to do an activity, it looks so hard. I'd rather give up than actually try and do it. I think that it's beyond me, and I shouldn't be learning at this level. Here it goes... |
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Status: dances, like a fridge
Join Date: Nov 2008
Age: 23
Posts: 1,570
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"this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me" |
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Status: SAS Member
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Gender: Male
Age: 19
Posts: 25
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I was wondering if I should do the same thing.. any tips on how to go about this?
EDIT: I've never been diagnosed with anything and I'm guessing some documentation is necessary. |
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Status: Stressful
Join Date: Feb 2009
Gender: Female
Posts: 228
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yea, loads of documentation. They make this as difficult as they can, in my experience anyway.
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Status: dances, like a fridge
Join Date: Nov 2008
Age: 23
Posts: 1,570
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I only did this for exams and tests (I didn't look into other ways). Basically this is for when, in my case, SA affected my performance in an individual exam.
This is what my uni website says: Quote:
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Status: Wants to be someone else
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: England
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Posts: 283
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Your school/college/Uni may need different things than mine. But my head of dept and the disablity advisor both know and believe me. I just need to provide medical documentation, so a letter confirming it from my GP and the process can go ahead. I haven't really been 'diagnosed' with it, but when I went to my doctor about it, he just kinda agreed with me and said I was doing the right thing with seeing a counsellor and to come back in a few weeks if I was still the same (Like SA was really going to disappear like a cold in a few weeks!!!) Unfortunately I couldn't get an appointment today, I've got to ring up in the morning to book a 'book on day appointment' as there are no prebooking going on! I can only appeal the one exam I failed last year, although I failed two but had to do the resit in August and just managed to pass it. I still feel like I wanna just run back to uni and say I'm wasting their time and I'm lying but I know it's not true. Once I had left uni, I went shopping and bought a new top just to treat myself as I felt crap. I don't like drawing attention to myself, and me talking to my tutors etc and even getting the HIGHER up uni people involved... It's going way over my head, and I regret starting this. Although I KNOW it will help me in the long run and I might get a decent degree out of this. |
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