Social Anxiety Support

IHeartSteveMcQueen · 11-04-2009, 04:43 PM

I have my B.A, I didn't find it that hard at all other than the oral presentations. the only thing that was really difficult was the constant due dates hanging over my head, four years later I still have nightmares about essays I forgot to hand it. overall I did pretty ok academically and socially but I didn't make any lasting friendships.

EagerMinnow84 · 11-04-2009, 09:48 PM

I got a B.A. a couple of years ago. I was terribly anxious around people the entire time. I talked to some people but I always felt inferior.

Breakfast0fChampions · 11-04-2009, 10:00 PM

I'll be graduating with an Associate degree this May. It's taken me four years only because I've changed my major a lot. In four years there have only been two socially-geared assignments that I've passed on: reading to children for a Children's Lit course and a Spanish presentation.

My SA really revolves around a fear of looking stupid or incompetent, so the idea of not doing a presentation or an assignment and being judged as dumb or lazy makes me more anxious than the idea of actually doing one.

But... yeah... as far as where I go after this, I'm still not sure. I'm terrified of the college I want to go to (Michigan State) because of it's size and reputation, so I don't know...

rdrr · 11-04-2009, 10:04 PM

got a b.s. and an associate's. school was a good experience for me.

TATA · 11-04-2009, 10:08 PM

Finished associates, working on my bachelors (a bit more than half way done), going for masters (every week presentations gotta do there). Freaks me out, but I'm getting used to it. Almost in each class I have to do a presentation once per semester. The more I accomplish, the stronger I feel... so will see how masters will work out...

Kelly065 · 11-05-2009, 09:28 AM

Finshed highschool and finished a year in college (all i needed was a year to get my esthetician license)

jinxu · 11-05-2009, 10:46 AM

I graduated from college this year. I had dropped out for two years due to my SA. It can be done. What I recommend is to get treatment as soon as you can because it'll make school much more bearable if yo do.

Lovesick Loner · 11-05-2009, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by farleyknight

Those of you with SA: How many of you have actually gone to college and finished? How did you do it? Do you need a large support group? Can you actually go to school for something challenging and deal with failure when you don't make the cut? I'd like to get some feedback from people who have made this journey. I'm running into a lot of issues and I want to know how people have dealt with them. Thanks..

I got my B.A. even though college life was complete torture with my SA. The social challenges turned out to be much harder than the academics. The academics were the easy part. I just forced my way through it because I knew I had to finish what I started. I never found a silver bullet for managing the stress.

JMX · 11-05-2009, 06:15 PM

6 months from graduating college ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

pita · 11-05-2009, 07:02 PM

Almost! I'll be done in May, and in June I'll get to graduate in the building where they shot the math olympics in Mean Girls. I suppose that makes it all worthwhile.

SAgirl · 11-11-2009, 10:17 AM

I'm behind a year, but I am still perservering. Academics is the hard part for me and the social withdrawal is difficult as well. I envy those who found the academics easy.

Two more years til I finish my Bachelor's degree if I can get accepted into the professional years of my course.

bunnie · 11-13-2009, 10:11 AM

I did. It was very difficult and it took longer than normal, but its over. It definitely helps to have a support group/be surrounded by nice people because it makes it easier to attend classes.

The isolation became so unbearable that I began skipping class frequently. I think that's why it took me so long to graduate. Besides changing my major a gazillion times, I also dropped classes that required presentations, heavy class participation, etc. Damn, I hated school.

The only reason why I stuck it out was to not piss of my mom and to have job security, BUT it's been 2yrs since I finished and still no career.....so maybe I should have quit. LOL

Miss Meggie · Yesterday, 08:40 AM

I've got 6 months left until I graduate. For about a month after my boyfriend and best friend graduated and left me alone, I said every day that I was going to pack up my stuff, call my father, and have him come pick me up. I was miserable, alone, nervous, and just felt like giving up.
After going to a counsellor here on campus I realised that I want to graduate, I want to finish college. (This is my fourth college...) And I especially want to finish here because this is what I really want to do. It's my passion, and without a degree, although I could make it (I'm a culinary student) without a degree, my future employers would look at my resume and see that I didn't finish my last 6 months. They don't really care if you almost graduate.
So I'm sticking it out. I'm even considering joining some clubs; I want to work in culinary publication after I graduate, so I'm planning on joining the school newspaper. There are a few clubs that I think I'll at least go to a meeting or two to see how I like it...

HTF · Yesterday, 08:49 AM

Just started looking into starting some time of schooling.

11-04-2009, 04:43 PM	#21 (permalink)
IHeartSteveMcQueen Status: lost in the supermarket Join Date: May 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Female Posts: 1,408	I have my B.A, I didn't find it that hard at all other than the oral presentations. the only thing that was really difficult was the constant due dates hanging over my head, four years later I still have nightmares about essays I forgot to hand it. overall I did pretty ok academically and socially but I didn't make any lasting friendships. __________________ If Adolf Hitler flew in today , they'd send a limousine anyway

11-04-2009, 09:48 PM	#22 (permalink)
EagerMinnow84 Status: Living in Technicolor Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dancing with Gene Kelly Gender: Female Posts: 1,189	I got a B.A. a couple of years ago. I was terribly anxious around people the entire time. I talked to some people but I always felt inferior. __________________ I don't know, I kind of like him. He's the exact opposite of everything I really hate. In a way, he's such a clueless dork, he's almost kind of cool

11-04-2009, 10:00 PM	#23 (permalink)
Breakfast0fChampions Status: Resist. Unlearn. Defy. Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: In My Tree Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 676	I'll be graduating with an Associate degree this May. It's taken me four years only because I've changed my major a lot. In four years there have only been two socially-geared assignments that I've passed on: reading to children for a Children's Lit course and a Spanish presentation. My SA really revolves around a fear of looking stupid or incompetent, so the idea of not doing a presentation or an assignment and being judged as dumb or lazy makes me more anxious than the idea of actually doing one. But... yeah... as far as where I go after this, I'm still not sure. I'm terrified of the college I want to go to (Michigan State) because of it's size and reputation, so I don't know... __________________ I'mma do the things that I wanna do I ain't got a thing to prove to you - Weezer, Pork and Beans Had my eyes peeled both wide open, and I got a glimpse Of my innocence... got back my inner sense... Baby got it, still got it - Pearl Jam, In My Tree 29-Day Giving Challenge Facebook - SuperBetter! A multi-player way to beat SA - Writerly

11-04-2009, 10:04 PM	#24 (permalink)
rdrr Status: One of the cool kids. Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: the city Gender: Male Posts: 339	got a b.s. and an associate's. school was a good experience for me. __________________ These are my friends This is who they have been for always These are my days This is how they stay

11-04-2009, 10:08 PM	#25 (permalink)
TATA Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: New York City Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 242	Finished associates, working on my bachelors (a bit more than half way done), going for masters (every week presentations gotta do there). Freaks me out, but I'm getting used to it. Almost in each class I have to do a presentation once per semester. The more I accomplish, the stronger I feel... so will see how masters will work out... __________________ Scientists have found the gene for shyness. They would have found it years ago, but it was hiding behind a couple of other genes. Jonathan Katz

11-05-2009, 09:28 AM	#26 (permalink)
Kelly065 Status: Emotional Mess Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Asheville, NC Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 96	Finshed highschool and finished a year in college (all i needed was a year to get my esthetician license)

11-05-2009, 10:46 AM	#27 (permalink)
jinxu Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Oklahoma Gender: Male Posts: 22	I graduated from college this year. I had dropped out for two years due to my SA. It can be done. What I recommend is to get treatment as soon as you can because it'll make school much more bearable if yo do.

11-05-2009, 06:15 PM	#29 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	6 months from graduating college ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

11-05-2009, 07:02 PM	#30 (permalink)
pita Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Female Posts: 2,171	Almost! I'll be done in May, and in June I'll get to graduate in the building where they shot the math olympics in Mean Girls. I suppose that makes it all worthwhile.

11-11-2009, 10:17 AM	#31 (permalink)
SAgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Northwestern Ontario, 20 hour drive from TO Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 3,037	I'm behind a year, but I am still perservering. Academics is the hard part for me and the social withdrawal is difficult as well. I envy those who found the academics easy. Two more years til I finish my Bachelor's degree if I can get accepted into the professional years of my course.

11-13-2009, 10:11 AM	#32 (permalink)
bunnie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Chicago Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 202	I did. It was very difficult and it took longer than normal, but its over. It definitely helps to have a support group/be surrounded by nice people because it makes it easier to attend classes. The isolation became so unbearable that I began skipping class frequently. I think that's why it took me so long to graduate. Besides changing my major a gazillion times, I also dropped classes that required presentations, heavy class participation, etc. Damn, I hated school. The only reason why I stuck it out was to not piss of my mom and to have job security, BUT it's been 2yrs since I finished and still no career.....so maybe I should have quit. LOL

Yesterday, 08:40 AM	#33 (permalink)
Miss Meggie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Hyde Park, NY Gender: Female Posts: 26	I've got 6 months left until I graduate. For about a month after my boyfriend and best friend graduated and left me alone, I said every day that I was going to pack up my stuff, call my father, and have him come pick me up. I was miserable, alone, nervous, and just felt like giving up. After going to a counsellor here on campus I realised that I want to graduate, I want to finish college. (This is my fourth college...) And I especially want to finish here because this is what I really want to do. It's my passion, and without a degree, although I could make it (I'm a culinary student) without a degree, my future employers would look at my resume and see that I didn't finish my last 6 months. They don't really care if you almost graduate. So I'm sticking it out. I'm even considering joining some clubs; I want to work in culinary publication after I graduate, so I'm planning on joining the school newspaper. There are a few clubs that I think I'll at least go to a meeting or two to see how I like it... __________________ "It is the unknown we fear when we look upon death and darkness, nothing more." -Albus Dumbledore

Yesterday, 08:49 AM	#34 (permalink)
HTF Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Seminole, Florida Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 65	Just started looking into starting some time of schooling. __________________ Twitter ---- FaceBook (feel free to add me) ---- Associated Content (my writing)