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hmf22 · 10-14-2009, 06:29 PM

"Learned Optimism" by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D. It is a truly amazing book! It makes you take a second glance at the way you look at life and think about things, it teaches how to see things in a more optimistic life and how to get through rough times, it's really good!

just10 · 10-15-2009, 09:40 AM

that's great that it helped you out, can you give me some examples of how its helped you? im currently reading http://www.amazon.com/Goodbye-Shy-Sh...5624417&sr=1-1

and

http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyon...5624603&sr=1-1

im liking them so far, i just haven't had the time to read as much as i would like.

hmf22 · 10-15-2009, 04:10 PM

Hi! Well, the book helped me (or is helping me) change my way of thinking. It explains how the way we think about things ultimately controls our behavior, and he explains how this has been proven by multiple experiments. For example, if I were to get up the courage to tell a joke to someone, and they didn't laugh, I used to think my goodness, I am incredibly not funny and should never attempt to tell a joke to anyone again. But now, with the help of the book, I think to myself "Hey, that guy didn't think my joke was funny. Maybe someone else will. It's not the end of the world". So basically, the book teaches to not blame everything on yourself and not look at failure in a permanent way, just as a minor setback. I really recommend it to anyone who has a negative way of thinking, because changing the way you think about things can really improve the way you feel and act!!

paradox002 · 10-19-2009, 03:23 AM

hey check this out it helped me A LOT, and what you said is %100 right. Im trying to question my bad thoughts instead of believing them without looking at my choices.
http://www.anxietycoach.com/anxietytrick.html

Haydsmom2007 · 10-26-2009, 01:16 PM

Sounds good. I am really pessimistic. When I'm down on something I'm just so negative about everything and pessismistic and think things will crash and burn and I will fail at everything LOL. My bf tells me all the time to stop being so pessistic. It's just my default, I guess.

ringfortheking · 11-07-2009, 01:38 AM

I'll check out this book too. I've been reading this book lately as I've been looking for books about Positive Thinking to read. How much is this book?

10-14-2009, 06:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
hmf22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Utah Gender: Female Posts: 116	This is a great book for everyone to read! "Learned Optimism" by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D. It is a truly amazing book! It makes you take a second glance at the way you look at life and think about things, it teaches how to see things in a more optimistic life and how to get through rough times, it's really good!

10-15-2009, 09:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
just10 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: georgia Gender: Male Posts: 4	that's great that it helped you out, can you give me some examples of how its helped you? im currently reading http://www.amazon.com/Goodbye-Shy-Sh...5624417&sr=1-1 and http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyon...5624603&sr=1-1 im liking them so far, i just haven't had the time to read as much as i would like.

10-15-2009, 04:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
hmf22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Utah Gender: Female Posts: 116	Hi! Well, the book helped me (or is helping me) change my way of thinking. It explains how the way we think about things ultimately controls our behavior, and he explains how this has been proven by multiple experiments. For example, if I were to get up the courage to tell a joke to someone, and they didn't laugh, I used to think my goodness, I am incredibly not funny and should never attempt to tell a joke to anyone again. But now, with the help of the book, I think to myself "Hey, that guy didn't think my joke was funny. Maybe someone else will. It's not the end of the world". So basically, the book teaches to not blame everything on yourself and not look at failure in a permanent way, just as a minor setback. I really recommend it to anyone who has a negative way of thinking, because changing the way you think about things can really improve the way you feel and act!!

10-19-2009, 03:23 AM	#4 (permalink)
paradox002 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Posts: 22	hey check this out it helped me A LOT, and what you said is %100 right. Im trying to question my bad thoughts instead of believing them without looking at my choices. http://www.anxietycoach.com/anxietytrick.html

10-26-2009, 01:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	Sounds good. I am really pessimistic. When I'm down on something I'm just so negative about everything and pessismistic and think things will crash and burn and I will fail at everything LOL. My bf tells me all the time to stop being so pessistic. It's just my default, I guess.

11-07-2009, 01:38 AM	#6 (permalink)
ringfortheking Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Bei Jing Gender: Male Posts: 38	I'll check out this book too. I've been reading this book lately as I've been looking for books about Positive Thinking to read. How much is this book?