Social Anxiety Support

joe43 · 02-15-2009, 10:42 AM

Does anyone have any resources they recomend to improve or get comfortable with eye contact.Or suggestions on things that work for you.

beautibelle · 02-15-2009, 08:26 PM

Try focusing on other areas of a person's face. Their chin, the side of their face, the mouth etc. Then move closer to the eyes as you get more comfortable.

Jinnix · 02-17-2009, 12:39 PM

I don't know why but other people have trouble looking at me in the eyes as well. I'll force myself to stare at them when talking but they always look away after a few seconds.

TorLin · 02-17-2009, 12:50 PM

i tend to look at his/her nose, mouth, even glasses, if its a girl, i tend to look at her earrings (if she is wearing them), than i look at her hair around her face. than i just feel comfortable my gaze can slowly work back to his/her face.

i also tend to invision to look past him/her still looking at the eyes, but i want to see throw the person.

just my two cents on this topic.

LALoner · 02-17-2009, 08:55 PM

I don't know if this is relevant but once during jury duty I got so disgusted a the incompetance of the Public Defender that I couldn't bear to look right at him anymore and so for the rest of the trial I would look just a few inches to the side of his face. During his concluding remarks the PD basically accused the white jurors of being racists and shouted "one of you won't even look me in the eye!" So I guess people can tell when you do that.

02-15-2009, 10:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
joe43 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 2	Eye contact Does anyone have any resources they recomend to improve or get comfortable with eye contact.Or suggestions on things that work for you.

02-17-2009, 12:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,058	i tend to look at his/her nose, mouth, even glasses, if its a girl, i tend to look at her earrings (if she is wearing them), than i look at her hair around her face. than i just feel comfortable my gaze can slowly work back to his/her face. i also tend to invision to look past him/her still looking at the eyes, but i want to see throw the person. just my two cents on this topic. __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

02-17-2009, 08:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
LALoner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: City of Angels Gender: Male Posts: 301	I don't know if this is relevant but once during jury duty I got so disgusted a the incompetance of the Public Defender that I couldn't bear to look right at him anymore and so for the rest of the trial I would look just a few inches to the side of his face. During his concluding remarks the PD basically accused the white jurors of being racists and shouted "one of you won't even look me in the eye!" So I guess people can tell when you do that. __________________ More about Depersonalization Disorder than you want to know.

02-15-2009, 08:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
beautibelle Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 37	Try focusing on other areas of a person's face. Their chin, the side of their face, the mouth etc. Then move closer to the eyes as you get more comfortable.

02-17-2009, 12:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
Jinnix Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Florida Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 298	I don't know why but other people have trouble looking at me in the eyes as well. I'll force myself to stare at them when talking but they always look away after a few seconds.